Can this be turned around? LDR...

[loquaciousl]

Hi there,

 

I've been dating a guy for four months now. It's what I call a LDR as he lives 100 miles away. We talked online casually before we met in June and hit it off right away. I felt instantly comfortable and safe around him and from the get go we felt a mutual connection.

 

Unfortunately, the time we met coincided with a lot of family drama. I have very controlling and critical parents and we got into it pretty hard. Needless to say, I have spent the last few months in emotional hell because I have had trouble coping with the fact I have this messed up family dynamic. (By the way, I'm 29).

 

For the past two months he and I have gone through alot. He started a new job that he likes, has some baby mama drama, etc. This situation with my family has led me to feel very alone and upset a lot of the time. This leads to me becoming very anxious and sometimes clingy with my boyfriend. He used to be very patient with me in regards to emotional conversations but has expressed lately that he is emotionally shut down at times because the emo stuff wears on him. I know that he just wants to have fun and enjoy our times together but as of late we've both been respectively stressed that it takes the fun out of our relationship.

 

I know it takes two to tango. I also know its so early in our relationship for me to be feeling like I've "ruined" things all of the time. Plus the distance really bugs me although I see him about every weekend. For all intents and purposes we get along well but there's no chance of us moving closer for at least a year.

 

I know the biggest prob we have is that I am nagging and emotionally clingy. He irritates me at times because he seems to drag a** on things at times, (ie, he moved back home to his folks after his divorce over a year ago). I don't like the fact he lives at home although I understand he mostly moved back to recover from things. He tells me he loves me, and he tells me he wants to be there for me, but I sometimes get this urge to give up on things because I feel like such s**t about things in my life. I am on anti depressants but just don't feel good a lot of the time. He's a steadfast rock in my life and a good man. Neither of us are perfect but I am scared what this means for us since I can never relax anymore in our relationship. I love him but I don't know what to do.