Trialbyfire Posted October 25, 2007 Share Posted October 25, 2007 Sounds like it but I will say that letting go is one of the most freeing experiences you can ever have. Talk about lifting a 1000 lb weight from your shoulders and getting out there and having fun. Food for thought... Link to post Share on other sites
Newtotheblogthing Posted October 25, 2007 Share Posted October 25, 2007 You know what? From my own experience, we all have different timelines.. Personally, the door is still open in my situation. It may close but I think I have to go through all of this in order to get to the other side. I still have hope that we may be able to work this out but if that's not the case then I know I did what I could and hopefully it will help me move on. I think that applies to a lot of people here.. We exhaust all possibilities until finally the truth either good or bad hits us in the face. I know it's hard for people who have been through it already or who know what's on the "other side" but we have to live this experience and learn from it in our own way. I still appreciate all the advice and perspectives because it is helping me improve myself which in turn does help me handle the situation a little differently. Like many of you, I am just not to the point of throwing in the towl completely.. not yet anyway. Link to post Share on other sites
MattyTee Posted October 25, 2007 Share Posted October 25, 2007 I agree, as I said above I think the only way you can ever let go is when you are really ready. No amount of people saying 'move on' is going to make it happen. Time strengthens and there will come a time when I'm truly okay with not being with her again. In the meantime I'm actually having a lot of fun, I'm going out and doing things I haven't done in years, I'm working out, I'm enjoying my company. Just because I want to be with her doesn't mean I'm letting that rule my life. I am actually quite excited because I'm learning a lot more about myself. Link to post Share on other sites
Newtotheblogthing Posted October 26, 2007 Share Posted October 26, 2007 Ok, so guys I have a question. I think my chances are slim to none now. I saw my ex briefly last night. Had a quick drink.. I was fine... Just kept it casual and didn't even have to try that hard to do so. I just don't know what's going on with him. What do you make of this behavior? He tries to over do it by talking about how many women want him, how he went on a date the night after he broke up with his rebound girl, how hot he is etc.. Pretty immature stuff. He jokes around about the woman in the car next to us.. hey should I get her number. I can't tell if he's just doing this so I get the hint? I told him he didn't have to do that and that just tellilng me that you aren't interested would be much easier and you would look a hell of a lot better. Of course he then says he's only kidding and I am being sensitive.. He's also kind of a mess. Drinking a lot, just didn't look great. I know him enough to know the bravado is a front but at the same time it doesn't mean he gives a **** about me. He said, I know that you want a relationship and I don't right now. Couldn't be more clear right? So I am exiting the situation.. there is a chance we will see each other this weekend, I wouldn't mind having a simple day and then moving on. But he won't commit.. If he wants to be the "playa" he thinks he is, go for it. It's such an act and kind of sad. I really don't know what's going on with him.. I told him I wouldn't mind just dating him but he doesn't think I am capable of that. Today, I am not exactly sad about it as seeing him and what he's like right now isn't exactly what I want for my relationship. So, I guess I am not missing anything. After this weekend, I am disappearing. It's not worth it right now. If he ever decides to come around, get himself together and treat himself (and me) properly well, I hope I am still here. But WTF is up with the overdoing it? Link to post Share on other sites
Author yippkiyay Posted October 26, 2007 Author Share Posted October 26, 2007 Guess what....I got her back....maybe ....we ran into eachother last night and we wound up sleeping together. This was a very difficult task. You have to play it cool guys. Maybe we will be together maybe not but noone should lose hope. YOu have to play your damn cards right. Use you r head in a break up not your feelings. Again THIS WAS NOT EASY. I had to be realy smooth with her. Make her believe I moved on, changed and she still had the option all at the same time. This was in the way I acted not what I said. I don't know if words can explain. Truly learn from this grow a backbone and you just might have a shot too. Link to post Share on other sites
niceguy27 Posted October 26, 2007 Share Posted October 26, 2007 Guess what....I got her back....maybe ....we ran into eachother last night and we wound up sleeping together. This was a very difficult task. You have to play it cool guys. Maybe we will be together maybe not but noone should lose hope. YOu have to play your damn cards right. Use you r head in a break up not your feelings. Again THIS WAS NOT EASY. I had to be realy smooth with her. Make her believe I moved on, changed and she still had the option all at the same time. This was in the way I acted not what I said. I don't know if words can explain. Truly learn from this grow a backbone and you just might have a shot too. Whoah buddy...Calm down. Dont get your hopes up too high. It was sex. Spur of the moment thing. Before you decide if your back together, wait it out a bit. One night of that probably wont be a fix all and you will magically get back together...Trust me, I hope it does fix it but make sure you think with the right head Link to post Share on other sites
heartoutside Posted October 26, 2007 Share Posted October 26, 2007 If you really cared about the relationship with her you wouldn't have done that IMHO. I don't mean to sound harsh, but you probably hurt you chances even more to be honest. Now she knows that she can play you and you will play with her. But if you're cool with that, them more power to you. But sleeping with your ex by no means you are any closer to getting back together. People sleep with their ex's all the time! Link to post Share on other sites
Newtotheblogthing Posted October 26, 2007 Share Posted October 26, 2007 The door is now open. Be careful!! P.S Didn't mean to hijack the thread, not the first time, with my post. Keep us posted. Link to post Share on other sites
reboot Posted October 26, 2007 Share Posted October 26, 2007 And there is definitely such a thing as "break-up" sex Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted October 26, 2007 Share Posted October 26, 2007 It isn't the easiest.. but the one that works out no matter what is to start dating others.. Find another and go from there... If it works out with the new person.. Win ! If it doesn't you will still win because you most likely will be over the Ex .. Win ! If it doesn't and your ex decides that you are the one and you work it out.. Win ! Why would someone want another back in their life when you were rejected to begin with ?.. That is a toughie.. I have been there.. Ego.. If you get someone back then you don't have to admit to yourself that you were rejected.. Of all my Ex's I have only pinned over 1... and pine I did.. for a very long time.. until I started dating others and moved on... Link to post Share on other sites
Author yippkiyay Posted October 26, 2007 Author Share Posted October 26, 2007 I think I addressed in my post that we might or might not wind up together but anyways thanx guys got it Link to post Share on other sites
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