GreenEyedLady Posted October 23, 2007 Share Posted October 23, 2007 What kinds of things have you been told about the BS? Did it make you feel bigger than the BS? Did it make you feel sorry for the MP or the BS? I promise not to overreact to what is posted. He never bad mouths her...Just says that they are not in love and don't communicate...He says that she is a good person... I don't feel bigger than her...Why would I? She didn't cause this to happen...I don't see it as a competition anyway, and I know that alot of times that's what it becomes... I feel sorry for her because I want her to be happy too and I know she deserves a H that is faithful to her... I am just being honest...Their situation is not at all like yours NID, or many of those on here...I really believe that sometimes people marry the wrong partners...And we're dealing with our situation one day at a time... I'm not going to argue whether it's right or wrong or justifiable...I'm just putting in my experience...I hope it helps, somehow... Link to post Share on other sites
LucreziaBorgia Posted October 23, 2007 Share Posted October 23, 2007 None of the men I was involved with put down their wife/girlfriend/fiance. Mostly it was "I love her, but we are missing passion", or "she snores so we don't share a bed", or "I am not attracted to her anymore", or "I like X type of sex and she isn't into that", or "I'm bored and need some excitement". My interactions were strictly FWB type stuff though, and I think they were more free to tell me how they really felt about their SO, and be honest about how much they did care about them. I think the amount of honesty about how they feel about their SO depends largely on the type of relationship they have with the OW. If it more of an emotional thing, or if they are having to convince OW to be with them, they are more likely to downplay how they feel or simply outright lie about it because they are afraid of losing what they have with the OW. They tell her what they think she wants to hear, because it results in the best possible outcome for MM. I think its pretty cruel though, for a MM to put down his W to the OW. All that accomplishes really, is that OW is left wondering why he would choose a miserable life with a person he hates and hates him, over spending a happy life with someone he loves and loves him. Link to post Share on other sites
Author NoIDidn't Posted October 24, 2007 Author Share Posted October 24, 2007 I'm not going to argue whether it's right or wrong or justifiable...I'm just putting in my experience...I hope it helps, somehow... No prob. Don't want to debate. Just want to hear how or if its done. I know my H didn't say anything bad about me, per se. But I could see how much was implied or read into by his co-worker. Plus, I did my own share of insinuating things about him over the years too. But mostly to girlfriends. Link to post Share on other sites
justice Posted October 24, 2007 Share Posted October 24, 2007 Justice, Hate at the moment may feel Great! But, Wait until indifference sets you free of former Mate. I just have momentary lapses of reason, every now and again and I do agree with you, indifference is preferable. Link to post Share on other sites
Tomcat33 Posted October 24, 2007 Share Posted October 24, 2007 My ex never spoke badly of his W, he would always talk about concepts in round about ways. As time went on little things would slip by but he never ever bad mouthed her. It was more comments you would hear as two friends who are venting, which we all do and I see that as a big difference. Much like you GEL I felt sorry for her too, as time passed I realised she was very determined about work and succeeding professionally but was clueless about how to have a relationship. She was absent from their marriage a lot and when push came to shove she had 0 pride. I sat there listening to her bawlling her eyes out screaming on the phone one night as she begged him not to leave her, she was begging and beggind crying saying please please don't leave me don't do this I don't want to start again I don't want to be alone. I was cringing hearing that I left the room because it made me feel very uncomfrotable for her I felt truly sorry for her and wanted to tell her "woman stop begging for the love of god ahve some pride!" It ended in her suicide threats and our night was ruined. I pushed him to go check up on her. So he really didn't have to bad mouth her much I slowly learned things about her on my own. The one thing he would tell me all the time was that he felt sorry for her. I can see why though I felt sorry for her too. I don't think he admired her much, I don't think he ever did. Oh one thing he did tell me once was that she had an unkept you know what (dowthere) basically a forrest from a 60's porn mag. That made me very uncomfortable and I told him I never want to hear anything like that again. He never did. Link to post Share on other sites
troutie jr Posted October 24, 2007 Share Posted October 24, 2007 Oh one thing he did tell me once was that she had an unkept you know what (dowthere) basically a forrest from a 60's porn mag. That made me very uncomfortable and I told him I never want to hear anything like that again. He never did. Oh Man!! That's not nice at all! Way too much information! Link to post Share on other sites
Tomcat33 Posted October 24, 2007 Share Posted October 24, 2007 Well that's just it, it was too much info. I never asked him any questions about her at all, let alone something as intimate as that. But the first time we were intimate he was like a kid in a candy store he could not get enough of what was infront of him, and I thought is was first time excitement but in time it didn't pass it was always like the first time and after hearing that comment I understood why. Still I wish I didn't know... Link to post Share on other sites
greengoddess Posted October 24, 2007 Share Posted October 24, 2007 Oh Man!! That's not nice at all! Way too much information! I agree disgustingly disrespectful and for the pure purpose of trying to pretend sex is gross with her or doesn't happen or in saying oh you are so much better. Ewwww ewww eww whatever makes you feel better about yourself I guess. Your crotch is manicured better than hers. He's her husband if he was so unhappy with it he could offer to groom it with her. These men are just disgusting human beings. I can't even imagine wanting to be with a man who would feel it was necessary to share something that personal about another woman and his sex life. Just YUCK. Sheesh what do you think he told his wife about you to keep his marriage? Link to post Share on other sites
greengoddess Posted October 24, 2007 Share Posted October 24, 2007 Well that's just it, it was too much info. I never asked him any questions about her at all, let alone something as intimate as that. But the first time we were intimate he was like a kid in a candy store he could not get enough of what was infront of him, and I thought is was first time excitement but in time it didn't pass it was always like the first time and after hearing that comment I understood why. Still I wish I didn't know... I've alway wondered if men who are sooo turned on by the whole brazilian wax look actually have a fantasy of young girls. Link to post Share on other sites
Meaplus3 Posted October 24, 2007 Share Posted October 24, 2007 Well that's just it, it was too much info. I never asked him any questions about her at all, let alone something as intimate as that. But the first time we were intimate he was like a kid in a candy store he could not get enough of what was infront of him, and I thought is was first time excitement but in time it didn't pass it was always like the first time and fafter hearing that comment I understood why. I would agree that's way to much info! I remember one time in the mist of my ea asking mm one thing that he did not care for about is W. Somehow we got on the subject and I have NO idea how. His answer was "Her thick arm pit hair". Good god thatnk's for that picture pal:lmao:, LOL! I forgot what I said about H but I am sure it was not that gross. Lucky for me my H is very well kept!. AP:) Link to post Share on other sites
Tomcat33 Posted October 24, 2007 Share Posted October 24, 2007 He's her husband if he was so unhappy with it he could offer to groom it with her. That's officially the funniest thing I have read on here :lmao::lmao: C'mon!!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
troutie jr Posted October 24, 2007 Share Posted October 24, 2007 I agree disgustingly disrespectful and for the pure purpose of trying to pretend sex is gross with her or doesn't happen or in saying oh you are so much better. Ewwww ewww eww whatever makes you feel better about yourself I guess. Your crotch is manicured better than hers. He's her husband if he was so unhappy with it he could offer to groom it with her. These men are just disgusting human beings. I can't even imagine wanting to be with a man who would feel it was necessary to share something that personal about another woman and his sex life. Just YUCK. Sheesh what do you think he told his wife about you to keep his marriage? Okay now your sounding like him. Why all the drama? Link to post Share on other sites
reboot Posted October 24, 2007 Share Posted October 24, 2007 That's officially the funniest thing I have read on here :lmao::lmao: C'mon!!!!!Why is that funny? Sounds incredibly sexy to me. Link to post Share on other sites
greengoddess Posted October 24, 2007 Share Posted October 24, 2007 That's officially the funniest thing I have read on here :lmao::lmao: C'mon!!!!! are you serious? What is wrong with a nice shower together and some shaving cream and a razor? Link to post Share on other sites
Tomcat33 Posted October 24, 2007 Share Posted October 24, 2007 I've alway wondered if men who are sooo turned on by the whole brazilian wax look actually have a fantasy of young girls. I think we might have a pro Bush memmber in the house. No one said anything about little girls, but grooming is nice. It's common sense really. Link to post Share on other sites
Tomcat33 Posted October 24, 2007 Share Posted October 24, 2007 I've alway wondered if men who are sooo turned on by the whole brazilian wax look actually have a fantasy of young girls. I think we might have a pro Bush member in the house. No one said anything about little girls, but grooming is nice. It's common sense really. Link to post Share on other sites
greengoddess Posted October 24, 2007 Share Posted October 24, 2007 I think we might have a pro Bush member in the house. No one said anything about little girls, but grooming is nice. It's common sense really. Then why do you find it humorous a husband and wife would groom together? Link to post Share on other sites
troutie jr Posted October 24, 2007 Share Posted October 24, 2007 I think we might have a pro Bush member in the house. No one said anything about little girls, but grooming is nice. It's common sense really. Well yeah.... Keeping the girl ocean fresh and peachy fuzzy swiped....lol Link to post Share on other sites
Meaplus3 Posted October 24, 2007 Share Posted October 24, 2007 Why is that funny? Sounds incredibly sexy to me. My H has done this and it is a turn on, however just so you Know he was not hacking down a forest, LOL! A nice way to spice thing's up. AP:) Link to post Share on other sites
Tomcat33 Posted October 24, 2007 Share Posted October 24, 2007 Why is that funny? Sounds incredibly sexy to me. Well then it's official whether a man has to do it for her or he finds it already done a manicured hedge is better than walking into an unrully woodland. :lmao: Link to post Share on other sites
troutie jr Posted October 24, 2007 Share Posted October 24, 2007 Well that's just it, it was too much info. I never asked him any questions about her at all, let alone something as intimate as that. But the first time we were intimate he was like a kid in a candy store he could not get enough of what was infront of him, and I thought is was first time excitement but in time it didn't pass it was always like the first time and after hearing that comment I understood why. Still I wish I didn't know... I'm sure you didn't see this coming. Who would? No one expects to hear their man doesn't want to dive into a swamp.....lol Sorry couldn't resist.:lmao: Link to post Share on other sites
Tomcat33 Posted October 24, 2007 Share Posted October 24, 2007 My H has done this and it is a turn on, however just so you Know he was not hacking down a forest, LOL! A nice way to spice thing's up. AP:) EXACTLY!! that's just it, triming a hedge can prove to be a nice pasttime but trying to cut down a jungle can prove to be an arduous task. :lmao: Link to post Share on other sites
Tomcat33 Posted October 24, 2007 Share Posted October 24, 2007 I'm sure you didn't see this coming. Who would? No one expects to hear their man doesn't want to dive into a swamp.....lol Sorry couldn't resist.:lmao: NO I didn't at all and I hated every moment of knowing that. I made it very clear to him that certain things cannot be divulged, he should have known better. I remember I made him feel bad about it, I guess he thought he was sharing something with me that would make me happy I suppose in his weird way...but it didn't it made feel like I had intruded someone's very private space. Rightly so! Link to post Share on other sites
greengoddess Posted October 24, 2007 Share Posted October 24, 2007 EXACTLY!! that's just it, triming a hedge can prove to be a nice pasttime but trying to cut down a jungle can prove to be an arduous task. :lmao: It's his wife's crotch and he obviously married her that way. If he liked sex with a waxed woman instead of bitching to his fantasy girl maybe he should have suggested to his wife that it would be sexy to him if;it's called communication. Sounds like he didn't communicate his sexual desires with his wife at all. Very sad. Instead he made fun of her to you. wow what a man. Link to post Share on other sites
greengoddess Posted October 24, 2007 Share Posted October 24, 2007 I'm willing to bet she is well waxed now after the many conversations he's had to endure in his reconcilliation with her about your sex life. Link to post Share on other sites
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