mistofthesky1 Posted October 24, 2007 Share Posted October 24, 2007 just broke up with my bf two weeks ago. we are a long distance relationship with an age difference and our relationship has been pretty rocky from the beginning. long story short, my ex of 3 years still lives in the same city as i and we communicate often. we had a dog together and 3 yars is hard to throw away u know?! so my new guy has always had a problem with me talking to the ex. he liked to check my phone and sometimes would find things he didnt like very much like text or calls whatver. he ended up telling me that he just wanted to know when we were talking and as i started to try and tell him the ex and i were still talking sometimes hed get really mad at me. i wasnt cheating on him so i just stopped telling him about the communication with the ex. huge blow out fight two weeks ago and he has gone to the extreme.. an email saying he doesnt want me in his life and doesnt want to talk to me ever again. hes gone from this extreme to "maybe someday we will talk" to "we will talk someday" but never answering me phone calls. he responds to y emails and has said since the beginning we are not going to get back together. he will respond to text messages here and there but not alot. i really love him and i want to show him how much i want this so i planned a trip to go and see him. we talked this past saturday and found we had conficting dates for my trip. he told me he was glad he found out i was coming and that i should try and get as much back for the tciket as i can and we would "talk about it". we talked the next day for awhile and we went through him telling me "no no no this cant work i cant trust you" and me "yes yes yes it can" he stopped a few times and seemed like he was thinking (he told me he had slept on the idea and then decided against it). i asked him if hes ever lied to me before and he said yes to avoid pretty much the same thing i was trying to avoid, a fight. hes asked for time since the beginning, people have told me hes never felt this way about any other girl before, he told me that he thought i was going to be his forever.. and now hes telling me its over. hes told me before alos that i need to show him i love him and show him i care and that at times he makes it easy for me to get out of things because he wants to see how much i care. he has given me chances before and im scared ive run out of them. any advice? should i just give up on him?? Link to post Share on other sites
birdie Posted October 24, 2007 Share Posted October 24, 2007 well I would have issues with the fact that he checks your phone for messages???? hello??? what do your texts have to do with him?? when you don't play along his lines he dumps you or doesn't talk to you. does that sound mature to you? I think he is really insecure, immature, controlling and manipulating. it's up to you whether you give up on him or not but sure as hell this doesn't sound healthy to me Link to post Share on other sites
tomwiz Posted October 24, 2007 Share Posted October 24, 2007 I wouldnt be too keen on you keeping in contact with your ex either, I'm sure you have other friends to talk to, what can your ex offer you tha they can't besides residual feelings? Link to post Share on other sites
birdie Posted October 25, 2007 Share Posted October 25, 2007 then you sit down with your partner and discuss it. not crossing boundaries by checking private messages or just stop talking to them. people don't have to do what you tell them to do, they either choose to do it or you consider your options Link to post Share on other sites
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