Ima Posted October 24, 2007 Share Posted October 24, 2007 I can't stop thinking about this guy... I try and I try... How long does it take to get over someone? We went on one date only and he might not even be who I think he is... but I'm hung up on this idea of him and can't get him out of mind. I can barely remember his face anymore, just little details like the color of his hair and his smile... and the sound of his voice...I will never see him again and I accept that but i wish I could just erase the memory of ever having met him because I am so intrigued by the mystery...When i know the reality might be quite different and not deserving of my precious time. I'm a writer and I sometimes feel that I get confused and believe in things that are not possible...you know like in the movies how things always work out some how... but in real life when they go terribly wrong..that's it! I also know that what might be seen as romantic in a movie... might be considered crazy and obsessive in real life. So is my not being able to get this guy out of my mind indeed obsessive or am I just a girl? Link to post Share on other sites
Jewklar Posted October 25, 2007 Share Posted October 25, 2007 as much as it may not be what u want to hear you just have to look for other guys ive been throught the same thing, and its hard, i know but just go on a date with someone else that seems just as mysterious and if u guys click then he will slowly disappear as it is in any case of trying to get over someone Link to post Share on other sites
NotKelly Posted October 27, 2007 Share Posted October 27, 2007 Ima, have you ever been on dates with other guys, or was this your first? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ima Posted October 30, 2007 Author Share Posted October 30, 2007 Ofcourse that wasn't my first date. But strangely enough I've never been on a date that didnt result in me being with the guy for a while. First off, I would never go on a date with a guy unless i was extremely attracted to him. And by that I mean drawn to his looks, his mannerisms, smile, voice, and the things he has to say. In that way I won't waste anyone's time. I guess I need to change because i only believe in being with people who I find hard to resist. I mean it has to be like some sort of magnetism or it's not worth it for me. He acted like he felt that way too, they way he kissed me and he wanted to know all about me ad how I grew up, and he shared his dreams with me. Like the one thing he would love to do and the one place he would love to visit... I guess my ego is bruised, because I met a player who knew how to say and do the right things and I don't want to face the fact that I got played, or that I bought his act. Because most "players" I've met I can sniff out in a second, but he was so charming, and his eyes were kind. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ima Posted October 30, 2007 Author Share Posted October 30, 2007 I posted the same thing twice... not sure how, but I deleted it and wrote this. And I guess I will also so thanks for your time in reading and responding to my post. Link to post Share on other sites
norajane Posted October 30, 2007 Share Posted October 30, 2007 I'm a writer and I sometimes feel that I get confused and believe in things that are not possible...you know like in the movies how things always work out some how... but in real life when they go terribly wrong..that's it!I have this same disease. Use it - write it out, turn it into a short story, or try your hand a movie script. Write it the way you imagined it working out, or try a few different endings. Writing will help you get it out of your system, and will give your obsession a more productive outlet. It will also give you practice writing, and you'll find that it will help you get some distance, too. When you're obsessing about sentence structure and flow, you'll be more dispassionate about the guy himself. Link to post Share on other sites
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