CoolGuy222 Posted May 6, 2003 Share Posted May 6, 2003 When I'm talking to girls it seems like I'm always short of words and can't find anything to say. Sometimes I'll ask questions but get one word or one sentence answers. How can I become a better conversationalist with the girls? Link to post Share on other sites
yes Posted May 6, 2003 Share Posted May 6, 2003 ask open-ended Qns...! about classes, assignments, events, clubs, movies, weekends, family, clothes, music, yada yada ... Once you hit a topic of common interest, it'll flow like no tomorrow. good luck, -yes Link to post Share on other sites
quankanne Posted May 6, 2003 Share Posted May 6, 2003 ask open-ended questions, ask someone to expound on what they're saying, ask them to explain a little more fully or to add to what they've said. And try to avoid yes-no-one answer questions when you're asking something (like "what did you think of Professor So-and-So's class?" "It sucked." try something like, 'his comments were so confusing/so out of there/didn't make sense to me. What did you think he was trying to say when he was talking about blah-blah?") another good rule of thumb is to find out what the other person's interests or dislikes are -- he or she will be more than happy to talk your ear off because he's/she's got strong opinions and ideas about certain things. a big turn off is having someone monopolize a conversation, so try to keep the repartee exchanged in a balanced manner. And for pete's sake don't brag -- no one likes listening to a braggart. Link to post Share on other sites
quankanne Posted May 6, 2003 Share Posted May 6, 2003 lol ... great minds think alike, Yes! Link to post Share on other sites
Author CoolGuy222 Posted May 6, 2003 Author Share Posted May 6, 2003 Can you guys help me turn this into a successful convo. Here's an example of what's going on. Me- "Hey" Her-"Hey" Me-"How do you think you did on the test?" Her- "Pretty good." Me- "Yea me too. I thought it was pretty easy." Her-"Yea." Then there's a long pause of silence. Can you help me expand on this please? Link to post Share on other sites
yes Posted May 6, 2003 Share Posted May 6, 2003 Quakanne, CoolGuy, you: "my physics profs gives insanely hard tests. have u taken physics? " her: "no" you: "are u planning to ever take it? i could give you my tests if you like." her: "no, i hate life sciences" you: "ya right! even bio?" her: "no, bio's cool. except for cutting the fish & stuff." you: "did you do that?" her: "yeah, it was so gross! my partner didn't wanna hold it, so i had to - i was so mad at her. the fish STINKS, and imagine a whole class disecting fish at the same time - ewww" you: "oh my" her: "i heard people in med school disect corpses of humans. now THAT must be nasty" etc. ie - keep going until you hit a topic she responds to better - and then you won't be able to stop her. =) -yes Link to post Share on other sites
quankanne Posted May 6, 2003 Share Posted May 6, 2003 Me- "Hey" Her-"Hey" Me-"How do you think you did on the test?" a better question would have been, 'What did you think of the test?' because that's an open-ended question, which ideally would have led her into a discourse of what she liked and disliked, and you could have peppered her with more questions as to why she thought those things. there are many ways to skin a cat; there are also many ways to pose a single question. Link to post Share on other sites
Author CoolGuy222 Posted May 6, 2003 Author Share Posted May 6, 2003 OK. OK. Let's see how fast I'm learning. How about something like this? Me- Hey. I like your shirt. Where'd you get it? Her- Oh thanks. I got it at Express. Me- Oh yea. Do you like that store? Her-Yes or No. Me- If yes- Yea I've never been in there before (which she might think is funny.) What other stores do you like? If no- Why not? (Then she explains and I ask her "well what's your favorite store and then she tells me and I ask why.) Sound good? Link to post Share on other sites
quankanne Posted May 7, 2003 Share Posted May 7, 2003 you got it! And you've pointed out something -- even if it's a yes/no question, you can still get them to expound by asking why they feel/think that way. Link to post Share on other sites
clia Posted May 7, 2003 Share Posted May 7, 2003 If you want to watch this in action, tune in to Court TV, Law & Order, The Practice, etc. When attorneys direct examine their witnesses, they have to ask open ended questions. (i.e. And what happened next?) During cross exam, you see leading questions, which is what you are doing. (i.e. What score did you get? Did you learn about algebra in school?...questions which require very short, to the point answers, often a "Yes" or "No" result, because they don't want to give the witness the chance to volunteer anything dangerous.) The TV shows obviously deviate from "the real world", but it's still a decent showing of what open ended questions are v. closed ended questions. Link to post Share on other sites
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