Why do people cheat?

[shadowofman]

Because they also have the urge to be in relationships. Maybe a bit less then women, but strong enough to get in the relationship. They crave love and sex, and can seperate the too easier than women.

Think about the act itself.

Women have to "take someone inside them". So of course they are much more selective. They prefer to have an extreme emotional connection before they allow this.

Men just give it.

Of course I am speaking generally. There are men that need this emotional attachment. And there are women that don't. These are not the majorities though.

[littleofal]

love and sex

 

relationships for love- supposedly

 

sex is anything you want it to be!

 

so boredom in the first leads to the next prob

sometimes- i would have thought

[Princess112]

But that's horrible! Sex because of boredom... so, let's suppose, if the woman suggests to engage in threesomes.. 2 women, 1 man, will that new stranger keep the man from going off secretly and lying to the woman? Does it feel the urge to just have sex with someone else?

 

I think it's horrible to even think this way. O.O

 

Btw, is it better to openly tell the woman you've cheated on them, or is it better to have them find out on their own?

[shadowofman]

I would have to say that, yes.

If a woman suggests, allows or indulges a mans interest in threesomes, groupsex, or any other form of "extra" sex, then the man is exponentially more likely to remain faithfull within the rules laid down. I know that most people would be unwilling to allow or indulge in such a thing, but I believe this would be the case.

Maybe the truth isn't what we would like it to be.

 

And for the record. I believe it's better to tell a woman that you are going to cheat on them before you do it, rather than afterward any way.

[hokypoky]

Hey Princess 112 - I'm going through exactly the same thing. I found out on Monday that my boyfriend of 2 years had a one-night stand 4 months ago while I was out of the country. We were very much in love and were talking about moving in- but now, it seems like everything was a lie.

 

I don't know what to do now as I love him so deeply and even after everything that's happened I can't imagine my life without him.

 

It's been 3 days and we've talked about, he's told me all about the gory details, he's promised me he'll never do it again, that he'll make it up to me, he's cried like a baby and the whole shebang. All I wanted to do was talk to him about it.

 

But if I'm serious about trying to make this work - I'm vowing not to make any contact with him for at least a week - not matter how hard he tries and how much I want to talk to him. I want him to suffer and imagine his life without me and to show him, that this is by no means ok and that he is in the process of losing me. That's the only way I can retain my dignity and disallow myself from being walked-all-over in the future.