lovesparis Posted October 24, 2007 Share Posted October 24, 2007 my ex and i broke up over 2 months ago. during frequent converstations with my mom she would ask if there was anything she could do to help me. i would half-jokingly reply that she should call ex and ask him to reconsider. she and i were talking the other night on the phone and she mentioned that after we broke up, she did call him, but not to ask him to reconsider. she wanted "help on how to deal with me". she wanted to know if there was ever a chance of us getting back together so she could "guide me properly". i'm so upset about this. i am so hurt over her doing that. and she didnt' tell me for 2 months b/c "it never came up again". nevermind that i bring him up all the time. damn near every third word in my converstations. what would possess her to do this? why does she feel like she can't "deal with me" Link to post Share on other sites
quankanne Posted October 24, 2007 Share Posted October 24, 2007 sounds like she wanted his input on how to help get the two of you back together, not "deal with you" in a negative way. You know, kinda like when you were in middle school and one of your best friends agreed or offered to act as a go-between so that you could meet/get/date the guy you liked but were too hesitant to pursue yourself? Her intentions were good, though she probably should have just stayed out of it. Link to post Share on other sites
daZed&confUsed005 Posted October 24, 2007 Share Posted October 24, 2007 sounds like she wanted his input on how to help get the two of you back together, not "deal with you" in a negative way. You know, kinda like when you were in middle school and one of your best friends agreed or offered to act as a go-between so that you could meet/get/date the guy you liked but were too hesitant to pursue yourself? Her intentions were good, though she probably should have just stayed out of it. i agree..she was only trying to help and probably didn't think any harm would come from asking him. did you talk to her and ask why she called him..maybe she had some sort of plan to get both of you to get back together..also she probably thought it would be best cause like you said you talked about him every 3 seconds Link to post Share on other sites
Author lovesparis Posted October 24, 2007 Author Share Posted October 24, 2007 i never used a go-between growing up, it's so funny that i wanted one now. well i only half wanted it. i knew it was wrong to try to get my friends involved in our mess. she said she did it b/c she needed to know if there was ever a chance of us getting back together so she could tell me to wait it out, or to move on. b/c she, like most people in my life, are sick to death of hearing me pine away for him. she said she didn't ask him to reconsider taking me back, b/c she always hoped someone else would have done it for me. i guess i'm more upset that she never told me than that she talked to him. Link to post Share on other sites
blind_otter Posted October 24, 2007 Share Posted October 24, 2007 Don't hold a grudge. Sounds like she was only trying to help. Link to post Share on other sites
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