lone_simba Posted May 7, 2003 Share Posted May 7, 2003 Im 17 and ive never ever had a girl....im what my friends call a "pure virgin"....ive never ever neven held hands with a girl....i mean i wasnt really good looking when i was younger...but now im starting 2 be noticed by girls...but i dont like them...when i try 2 like a girl....i cant really take it 2 action...and if i do start 2 like a girl...it never crosses into a crush...and i never end up asking them out....i did once...but she turned me down....its like i feel that i shouldnt have a girl...and faite is telling me that im not suppose 2 ....and i hate it so much....i hate being alone....my friends tell me im special...they say that im always there 4 them...im like a cupid 4 alot of them and i love 2 help them with love...they also say that ill make the perfect b/f...and that the girl ill be with will be happy as hell....but why cant i find that girl....so my friends have came with a speculation.....that theres a reason why i havent found anyone and that im a pure virgin and that i cant love or even like a regular girl...they think i have a soulmate...since i was 7....this girl i never knew always appeared in my thoughts ....as i grew,she did 2....like if i was 12 she was like the same age...but now i know shes 1 yr younger then me....i know exactly how she looks like....and sometimes i can be happy then 4 no reason get sad and i know shes sad.....and same thing withother emotions like...one time i was real afraid 4 no reason.....i can even see like scenes of her life.....sometimes when im alone and i think of her i feel weird like shes there with me.........and this friday i felt a pain in my lower back i think my splin and my cousin leanna realized that wat i was feeling was what girls feel when they get there period like that pain....i dont understand whats happening but god i love this girl soooo much... that i dont even know and i dunno exist....and it makes me angry...i cant even look at a girl and not feel guilty...and i cant ....and im so lost...and sad....so if any of u guys can give me advice...plz do...i need it....Thanks chris Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted May 7, 2003 Share Posted May 7, 2003 I wouldn't worry so much about this situation. There are many people your age who haven't yet dated. But I think you are making a big mistake by having a certain type person pictured in your mind as being your soulmate. You could date dozens of ladies before you meet the right lady and she may have no resemblence to the person you have idealized in your head. You simply aren't being fair to the real Ms. Right be having some preconceived notion of what she looks like. If it were that simple, we would all be out there trying to find the person who looks like the picture in our heads. Keep an open mind and don't be discouraged. Ask many ladies out. If they say no, don't worry. Just keep asking. You don't have to marry every girl you go out with so ask some nice ladies you think you would enjoy taking to a dance or movie. You don't have to stay with them forever either. Lighten up and enjoy the dating scene. Don't take yourself so seriously. Hell, there are many people who don't even think of settling down until they are twice your age. Have fun while you can. One day you'll have a houseful of kids, responsiblities up the ying yang, etc. and you long for these days when you were footloose and fancy free. Stop whining and get out there a socialize. Enjoy life. These days will never come again in your life. Link to post Share on other sites
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