What's the worst thing an ex did to you?

[jmargel]

Just curious on what other stories are out there. Mine, I was engaged to a woman who I was with for just over 5 years. A few months prior to our wedding, she cheated and left me for my "best friend".

 

I'm a huge animal lover and had two german shepherds. One was only 4 months old. When she left she took him to her mom's to 'visit'. Well during this visit she decided to give him away to a neighbor of hers. To find out this neighbor didn't watch my pup and was hit by a car. When she moved she left me with just about nothing, even taking the bed.

 

For someone who I thought I knew, she completely turned on me. From someone I loved, she turned into this mean, cold-hearted bitch. It was like she was a different person.

 

Though Karma does come back to bite you, which it did for her. She married & had a kid by him, then divorced him. She then married a friend of his and had another kid. She is now living in this guy's parent's basement on food stamps.

 

I'd like to hear other stories out there..

[bigheartkindsoul]

Nothing quite as bad as that, worst thing for me was he dumped me 4days after a minor operation on my back, the day after coming out of the ER due to adverse reaction to the general anestetic, was also 4days before my birthday and a week before our dream holiday to Thailand - no time is a good time but all of those together just made it bad t cope with.

 

Oh and the worst, he had the cheek to email me on my birthday say "hope you have a happy birthday, sorry how things turned out". Like I was gonna have a good birthday I was devasted.

[blind_otter]

I dated a psychotic man who had a cocaine problem. He broke down my door and tried to kill a good friend of mine. This ex is now currently serving a 5 year prison sentence, and has promised to come and track me down once he's free. Creepy. I plan to not be here.

[JackJack]

I dated a psychotic man who had a cocaine problem. He broke down my door and tried to kill a good friend of mine. This ex is now currently serving a 5 year prison sentence, and has promised to come and track me down once he's free. Creepy. I plan to not be here.

 

I hope not blind! That's awful. I'm sorry that happened.

 

The worst thing for me I guess was, back before I started dating my now wife, I had dated a girl for about 3 years. Things were not going well, and I wasn't happy. I decided to break things off with her the best way and nicest way I knew how, if there is such a thing as breaking up nicely:rolleyes:

 

Anyway, I told her I thought we should break things off, and she went psycho on me.

She broke a beer bottle over my head, cutting my left eye and cheek. Chased me around the house throwing other things at me, calling me names. I tried to calm her down but no matter what I tired it seemed to make her even more mad. I couldn't even hardly get near her without something flying my way, her hands, an object, anything. I finally, made it to the bedroom, locked the door and called the cops. She left with the cops, literally kicking and screaming. I never heard or seen from her again either.

[Lostgurl]

When I left my exH, him and his mom vowed to make my life a living hell. Which they did.

 

They used my girls. They called in 3 fake child abuse allegations in the course of a year towards my family. 2 of the cases were investigated, because SS has to follow procedure. The second time, the doctor that examined my daughter told me to get a good lawyer. He didn't even ask her questions this time, he knew what the ex and MIL were doing.

 

The third, there was no investigation at all. SS knew what was going on. This crazy woman (MIL) IS a social worker. She's just as crazy as her son. If not worse. She's his puppet master.

 

The first time they did it, was during the xmas holidays. We were still living under the same roof, and when I came home from my mom's one night, he was gone and so was my 4 yo, and 8 month old baby. I called his mom's and asked what was happening. They said that my eldest claimed that she was touched. That the SW said that because it happend while in my care, i wasn't allowed alone with them. I was devastated.

 

I didn't know anything about these kinds of things, what my rights were... nothing. I couldn't talk to the SW cause she was on holidays. It turned out that everything they said was a lie. They were just playing with me. Scaring me because they knew they could. I was 20, terrified of the MIL and naieve.

 

At that time i couldn't stand to be away from my baby, so I told him to come home, and stay with us, because according to them, I couldn't talk about what was going on (TO MY FAMILY) and couldn't be left alone with my babies. Which is exactly what they wanted. This was his way of trying to get me back. He actually thought that decieving me, and scaring the bejesus out of me would bring me back. Man he was sick.

 

I wasn't allowed (according to them ) to call any of my family, or be alone with my girls. New Years eve was here, and my family kept calling me. I was near tears and kept telling them that i couldn't be over. they knew something was terribly wrong because tere wasn't been a year that i didn't spend with them. So they said that they were bringing New Years to me then. When they got there we were gone. He held us up in a hotel, in our own home town for two days. Because he knew once my family caught on that something was wrong, he knew that my brothers would be out looking for him.

 

Once the holidays were over and I finally got to speak to the Social worker, I realized how badly they decieved me. She scared me, because I knew she never did like me. That tiny woman intimidated me to no end.

 

For a while last year i wouldn't let her or him see the kids, because my ex is a raging alcoholic. Everytime she'd have them, he'd go to his mom's house and scream and yell at her, and she'd end up calling the cops on her son. It would REALLY upset my girls. So i stopped letting her see them. She tried the "I'm going to get SS to take your kids away" scheme again, but my bf put a stop to that, the moment those words came out of her mouth.

 

She was mean, and crazy but pretended to be nice. Her voice is so decieving. My mom always said she sounds like an angel. But underneath that voice, is the furthest thing from it.

 

Ugh... it was such a nightmare.

 

They know that i'm not some young and dumb kid anymore. They KNOW that they can't f*ck with me anymore. God I hate them.

[whichwayisup]

Many years ago, teenage years - I had a boyfriend I nearly had sex with, he would have been my first..I spent the day with him, and for some reason we both just stopped, I knew inside that the timing wasn't right. Well, he broke up with me that night on the phone, knowing that the next day I had my final exams at school. And then for afew months after that, he did the come here, go away game, which I fell for, and later found out he fooled around with my cousin, a friend and was trying to ask out another friend of mine...He also treated women poorly in general and played mindgames with them. I knew the next girlfriend and she had her heart broken by him as well.

 

As sad as this is now, I believe that maybe karma bit him abit too hard, as recently I found out (it was in the paper, in the death notices section) he and his wife lost a baby after it was born.. And, it was a little girl.

[quankanne]

nothing as horrific as lostgurl's (hugs to you for having to put up with that psychotic crap), but rather hurtful to someone new at relationships.

 

my first boyfriend was in his late 30s and I was 21. Mostly, the relationship was based on sex (he was my first) and silly me, I was pretty innocent about a lot of stuff. Toward the end, he just started getting bitchier and bitchier about things I did ("damn, girl, do you have to make every kiss like some movie production romantic scene?" and crap like that) but I didn't know he was getting tired of the relationship with Virgin Girl (I guess that got wearisome after a year, lol).

 

anyhow, I used to help him with his antique business and we'd driven out to California for a show. Because I had to be back in time to start school, he agreed to fly me back to Texas. I kiss him goodbye, board the plane for Texas and catch up with him the following week and the relationship was pretty much over. Several months later he had the nerve to tell me he had a redhead lined up after he put me on the plane, and that he slept with her before coming back home.

 

what an ass!

 

however, like all the others have posted, Karma can be a real bxtch: The "original" redhead he was still in love since they'd worked together years before with the State of Texas (and who he was crude enough to always bring up longingly with me) cheated on her husband with him, got knocked up by him, divorced husband to marry my ex, then left my ex as soon as she had their baby! And up until the day she died, she managed to lead him around like a bull with a ring in its nose, even though he'd gripe about the way she treated him.

[BlueEyedSarah]

My ex broke up with me over MSN rather than the phone he did it over text on a computer...that hurt and showed me how much he doesnt have any balls. Also he is controlled by he's parents, friends and the rest of he's relegious partners. He is too scared to say no.

[coco_milkshake]

My ex sucked me into his sob stories. He is the biggest liar I have ever met and I found this out the hard way. These werent just small lies either. I cringe when I think about it now.

 

One of the best was that he was seeing this girl who he fancied for 4 years (before he dated me) and we were friends and co-workers when he dated her. He was going to make the move on her at an Irish themed party at her house and he sent me a text that evening and a picture of her saying that she said yes. They broke up 6 days later. He told me that she treated him badly and that she beat him with a belt. I was annoyed and didnt think why he would make this up. After we split up, I accidently found this girl on Bebo (like myspace) and she was seeing her BF for the past year or so. He had never dated her in the first place.

 

It gets worse now:

When we were dating, my ex told me that he had a classmate who was half Indian-half White, who's mum had been through the same thing that I was going through with regards to dating someone outside our culture. Lets call the lady L and the classmate S. He spoke to his friend's mum and she told him what her family had done to her. She dated her BF when they were both 17, family found out and made her quit school. She was having sex with him and her mother knew this. Her mum and brother came into her room where the mum held her down while L's brother raped her.

 

I was horrified at this and found it a bit hard to believe. L became pregnant and the baby was taken away from her. She and her bf kept in contact in secret and when she was 24, ran away from home to stay with her bf while her family disowned her. This is a summary of what my ex told me and L emailed me from my ex's hotmail account. That shouldve been a red flag right there but I failed to see it. I cant believe how naive and stupid I was. I went into my ex's hotmail account (he had given me his password just before we started dating cos his computer wasnt working) and to my horror, I saw emails from L in the "drafts" folder. He made the entire thing up.

 

Not only that, he sent an email to that other girl who apparently beat him with a belt a sob story about me and him and it appeared like he hadnt seen her in ages. That was in the "sent" folder. I was devastated and angry at myself. I got told he was a liar and I wouldnt have believed anyone if I hadnt seen it with my own eyes.

 

He has kept all my emails..I dont understand why and Im sure its not for sentimental values. I am sure he shows his friends and has a laugh at my expense and my stupidity. Each of his lies got exposed on a daily basis after we split up and this went on for 6 months. He played mind games with me through texting and emails. I never responded to any of them but I was f*cked up bad.

 

It took me over a year to trust my own judgement and to trust anyone else. :(

[Mz. Pixie]

Aired dirty laundry about me to everyone- where I went to church, people I worked with, friends of mine I'd had for years.

 

I couldn't even go to the grocery store without running into someone who

thought I was a whore.

 

Yet, he kept everything that he did a secret- such as the things he'd ask me to do in bed and the porn he downloaded to the family computer.

 

He said such horrible things about me and I ended up losing all of my friends, who I guess weren't really my friends to start with.

[coco_milkshake]

Aired dirty laundry about me to everyone- where I went to church, people I worked with, friends of mine I'd had for years.

 

I couldn't even go to the grocery store without running into someone who

thought I was a whore.

 

Yet, he kept everything that he did a secret- such as the things he'd ask me to do in bed and the porn he downloaded to the family computer.

 

He said such horrible things about me and I ended up losing all of my friends, who I guess weren't really my friends to start with.

 

Omg my ex did the same to me except it was my co-workers cos we used to work for the same place. He made up soo many lies, that we had sex etc when I am still a virgin.

 

He turned soo many of my friends against me and created misunderstandings so that I looked the bitch and he looked like the loving caring bf.

[Lostgurl]

Aired dirty laundry about me to everyone- where I went to church, people I worked with, friends of mine I'd had for years.

 

I couldn't even go to the grocery store without running into someone who

thought I was a whore.

 

Yet, he kept everything that he did a secret- such as the things he'd ask me to do in bed and the porn he downloaded to the family computer.

 

He said such horrible things about me and I ended up losing all of my friends, who I guess weren't really my friends to start with.

Oh yes. My exH and his mother did the same to me, except most of it was lies, and some dirty laundry. Other things were just plain hilarious.

 

I heard through the grapevine, that I was a devil worshipper . MIL knew that i was studying Tarot cards (she and exH both had decks ) and told everyone I was worshipping satan.

[coco_milkshake]

Oh yes. My exH and his mother did the same to me, except most of it was lies, and some dirty laundry. Other things were just plain hilarious.

 

I heard through the grapevine, that I was a devil worshipper . MIL knew that i was studying Tarot cards (she and exH both had decks ) and told everyone I was worshipping satan.

 

That is just mental. Only an idiot would believe that. I'd hate to think what else they said about you.

[Lostgurl]

That is just mental. Only an idiot would believe that. I'd hate to think what else they said about you.

I heard all sorts of stuff, about how i was sleeping with this guy and the next. Then they'd come around my place and taunt me "I heard something about you" ~ they made me crazy.

 

MIL actually had her best friend sit out side my place in her car to watch me a few times. She stalked me. I went to the police, but they said there wasn't enough on her. I kept a journal and everything but it just wasn't enough. Some Social Worker she was, she didn't have her degree, but actually worked as one here. . I complained to her boss as well. She was almost fired. That was when she started to smarten up.

[coco_milkshake]

I heard all sorts of stuff, about how i was sleeping with this guy and the next. Then they'd come around my place and taunt me "I heard something about you" ~ they made me crazy.

 

MIL actually had her best friend sit out side my place in her car to watch me a few times. She stalked me. I went to the police, but they said there wasn't enough on her. I kept a journal and everything but it just wasn't enough. Some Social Worker she was, she didn't have her degree, but actually worked as one here. . I complained to her boss as well. She was almost fired. That was when she started to smarten up.

 

Wow...

[Saxis]

Eh, screw it... I wrote out the story, and it was just too long, so I'm condensing it.

 

Back in January, my STBX had went to her friend's birthday party at a bar just down the street from our house. I stayed home to watch the kid, and was asleep when she came home. March 17, we went to celebrate St Patrick's at my brother's house. My X and his fiancee stayed up talking late that night... One week later, my brother calls to speak to my X. Odd, he's never done that before. Same thing again next week, and this time she tells me we need to talk. Apparently, the night she went to the birthday party, a guy that went to school with my brother ended up walking her home from the party, and they made out on our porch, while I was just inside sleeping. He is also married, with 3 children. My X ended up letting all this slip to my brother's fiancee while drunk on St. Patty's day . Fiancee told my brother, and my brother blackmailed her, and told her that if she didn't tell me, he would.

 

Night before Mother's Day, she was out at a cast party from a play she was in. Called to let me know she was on her way home at 10:44. 11:30, still not home. I call back and cell phone is turned off. At 2:30, I call one of the cast member's cell. She answers his phone saying "We're screwing, what do you want?". Had no idea it was me calling... They weren't screwing, as other people were in the car laughing. Big fight that night, and we separated the next morning, on Mother's Day, on which my dog also died...

 

We ended up doing a couple counseling sessions, but it was "too late" as she put it. She ended up taking a vacation to her parents' for 2 weeks in June. Halfway through, she tells me she wants a divorce through E-mail. She also spends most of the money we have while she's there. When she returns, she pretty much hands me the credit card bill, nearly maxed out, and tells me I have to pay for it, or she will take me to court for everything I have and take my daughter away. She eventually became sensible and agreed to pay half!

 

Now all this just makes me laugh, as she's struggling her @ss off, I'm debt free already, and having the best time of my life! Just need to find someone else to share it with again...

 

Eh... so much for condensed...

[Storyrider]

This was in my early twenties, but it has been the hardest one to get over b/c I was so obsessed with him and had him on such a pedestal. We were long distance, and he wrote me: "You own my soul, and can claim it anytime you want."

 

About a month later, I went to see him with some friends, and he told me he'd had sex with a fellow (female) intern while in DC and that he didn't love me anymore.

 

!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

We had planned to road trip home together with this group of friends, and I had no other way to get back down to Texas. I was forced to be in close quarters with him for four days. He was driving. On the way back he insisted on stopping to visit this intern in DC, the one for whom he had thrown me over. I waited with my friends at a Denny's while he visited her.

 

After the road trip, he went back to college in another state. He didn't write me for months, although I sent him heartfelt letters, etc. I became OCD about checking the mailbox. After never writing me, he came back for Christmas, tracked me down and proceeded to start things up with me, but just as a FWB thing. Perhaps it was out of convenience or just for a warm body. Like a ninny, I accepted the downgrade because I still loved him.

 

He went back to college. A month later he wrote me to tell me he was getting married (to yet a different girl). The letter was all about how wonderful she was. At the very end of it he asked if we could go back to being just friends.

 

I was hysterical. I wrote him back attempting to hide the frenzy I was in and to seem offhand, cold and beyond caring. When signing off, I wrote, give my regards to X (his fiance). I was proud of what I had written, but after mailing it I realized I had spelled regards as reguards. I knew immediately he would notice it. He was brilliant, a flawless speller, and a perfectionist. I felt like a moron.

 

To this day I have Post Traumatic Spelling Disorder. Ha ha.

 

He is still married to that girl/woman and has two children. We have never spoken since.

[sunshinegirl]

Mine is also an emotional damage story.

 

The punchline is that my first serious boyfriend turned out to be gay. But while we dated, he was still in serious, serious denial, so much though that he treated me like crap (after all, he didn't actually want to be close to a woman), yet blamed me for all of it - made me out to be needy and clingy. His behavior was actually not far from narcissism personality disorder, and it included him insisting that I convert to Catholicism before we got married...even though he was actually doubting God and faith altogether. ("No, you still need to convert because if God exists, I'm pretty sure he's Catholic and it's the right religion.")

 

I didn't know how to "do" relationships so didn't understand that I should have run away. To me, love was unconditional, so I thought I should stay with him and 'love' him out of his hurtful treatment. (yeah, right!)

 

Over many months, his treatment took me from a self-assured, independent, strong, centered woman to a quivering, self-doubting, cowed, cowering mess. By the time he broke up with me (over email, the day before finals week), I actually believed him when he said "I want to be with a woman who 'shines' and who turns heads when she walks into the room. You don't do that, you don't have any passions in life. Maybe you should get counseling.")

 

To this day, he has never acknowledged or apologized for anything related to how he treated me. This despite the fact that he finally came out of the closet (a pretty brave thing to do, actually, given his family), has really mellowed out as a person, and continues to work in the same field and professional community as me, ensuring that we occasionally run into each other at events.

 

A true ***hat.

[Krytie TV]

Spit on me.

[Storyrider]

Spit on me.

 

Crabs.

 

Kidding. I just wanted to one-up you on conciseness.

[shadowplay]

This isn't so bad compared to most stories on here, but it hurt me a lot. My ex boyfriend told me he wanted to be with me forever, that I was his soulmate, blah, blah blah. Then he suddenly became convinced that he was transgendered and wanted to transition to a woman. I doubted the whole thing for various reasons (he has a history of sudden identity changes/phases that don't last. he seems to suffer from borderline, and he had no history of transgendered behavior.). I shared those doubts with him because I was scared he would make a terrible mistake he wouldn't be able to take back. He lashed out at me for doubting him and decided he wanted to dump me because he felt I didn't trust his decision making abilities. After we broke up for a bit, he met some transgendered people, got freaked out, and came to the realization that I was right and he wasn't transgendered. He still blamed the breakup on me for ever doubting him, though. Even though he realized I was wrong, he thought I should have supported him without asking any questions. Finally he took me back and went back to telling me he wanted to be with me forever ad nauseum. Then one day we had a minor tiff, and he told me a few hours later that he thought he was gay and had never really loved me. What a mess. He's still convinced he's gay and I try to keep NC with him but he comes to me whining about his problems trying to hook up with guys now. I've lost all respect for him -- he just uses people -- and I deeply regret ever being involved with him.

[Pyro]

-Cheated on me and tried denying it when I found proof of her cheating.

 

-Took advantage of my kindness.

 

-Told me that she wanted to reconcile, but never tried to make things work.

[ShoeGirl]

He cheated on me with guys for over 2 years, denied that he was gay, called me/texted me many times a day for over a month trying to get me back, told all of my friends a different story than what really happened so they all hated me until I could get them to listen to me, moved to the city where I live, started stalking me, I finally talked to him and got him to leave me alone.

[lost4ever]

Oh where to start..

1st boyfriend, we dated for two years, he was "born again" after 1.5 years and decided if I wanted to be with him I had to become born again too, OK- they made me quit cheerleading and track and dance because the clothing, he ended up being my first, the next day he told the paster at the church that I was a sinner and was for of lust (or whatever they say) they made me stand in front of the whole church and tell everyone what I did, then they told me he and I couldn't see eachother anymore...two days later he was dating the pastors daughter---they are now married

 

Next boyfriend, at my graduation party he gets really drunk and ask if I will take him home (at like 6pm) I do afterwards I stop by 10pm, he has a 300# whore in his bed, the next day she drives him to my house and they both want to beat me up, had to call the cops

 

Next boyfriend, We go on a trip to Germany, we meet some cool people end up going to a party at their house (ends up being a swap a partner party) I am grossed out and go outside, 15minutes later start looking for my BF to go home, he is in the bedroom having an orgy with 5 girls, he left me in Germany and I didn't see him again for the whole four days until we got on a plane

 

next BF, In hawaii, we go to the clubs, he picks up a girl at the bar and leaves me, I get a DUI for cruising the streets trying to find him

 

Oh I have so many of them...I really know how to pick-em:sick:

[oppath]

My ex's haven't done anything bastardly too me but they did some emotional damage. One of them, when she found out I had been on antidepressants prior to dating her, said "I don't want to date someone who is so weak that they need to go on drugs to solve his problems." That was why she became an ex.

 

My most recent ex...is it cheating for your ex bf to fly into town, pick you up at 9am, hang out with you all day, ask "are you dating someone?" and be told "NO" when you have a bf you have said I love you too, and for him to spend the night at your house? I'd say yes. No different than many stories here, complete with lying for a couple weeks. It gets worse, but I'm finally moving past it. I've learned from it and am quite thankful I had the experience. It really toughend up my boundaries and communication skills.