I want my ex to come back to me!

[Heartbrokenprincess]

We were together for almost 2 years. He's 21, I'm 20. We were deeply in love and were best friends. He told me I was the woman of his dreams and that I would be his wife one day. We were each others first loves. Then, we both transferred to different schools, but still made time to see one another. (This wasn't a long distant relationship. Our schools were very close still). For a while things seemed fine, but then I noticed a change in him. He started to grow distant and had random girls from his new school calling his phone really late at night. He assured me that they were only his friends and that I had nothing to worry about. Then, about 3 weeks ago, he admitted to kissing a girl in his school. I was devastated. He said it was a mistake, but I broke up with him anyway. I decided to give him another chance about a week later and we reconciled. But then he tells me that he loves me so much and wants to give me the world, but doesn't know what he wants right now and doesnt want to hurt me again. I don't understand how you can love someone and not want to be with them. Is this possible, and could he regret this later? He still wants a friendship, but I don't think i can.

[yippkiyay]

OK princess this is a textbook situation and yes he will regret and yes there is a slight chance you could get him back the problem is you seem like a newby and your not gonna like what me and most evrybody else on this site is going to tell you. You want him back? Then you gotta not want him back. Focus on yourself. Do not return his calls....or at least for a day or so. Think about things you'd like to be doing but set aside for him. do them! Look around see what other guys are out there. Show a backbone. Show independence. Show you have a pasion for something that he could never take away. Show you will be fine with out him. At first he'll freak and show you more attention. a week or so he'll ask to get back together with you. If you stick it out more then that he will grovel and beg and you'll pitty him. Do not sweat these other girls. The only reason he is playing the field is because he knows your safe and secure on the back burner. Not stuff you want to hear but subconsiously this is what he is thinking and you have to address that. Good luck Be strong its easier said then done. Do nottry logically talking this stiff out with him. It will push him away more. I'm afraid your not gonna take my advice. If you don't take my advice and he comes back. he will not respect you and you will find yourself in a vicius cycle. good luck

[Heartbrokenprincess]

Thanks for your reply Yipp The only thing is that he aksed me to please maintain a friendship with him because he does not want me out of his life. I told him that I don't think I can do that right now because I am hurt. He told me he hopes that in the future I will change my mind, but he has to respect my wishes. So basically, we don't speak. I wrote him a one-lined message online to wish him a happy birthday on Oct 17th. He responded by saying, "Thank you very much.", and that was it. I so desperately want to just get over the pain and develop myself and love myself more, but I feel like he's not going to want me back because we don't speak and he won't be able to know how well I'm doing. We are still friends on facebook, but that's the only type of contact there is right now. I refuse to call him.

[yippkiyay]

Hang in there be strong. Juist the time away will get the gears going in his head wondering wht your upto. This may take a couple weeks though. What is she doing? has she moved on? has she met someone else? is she hitting the gym? reead my story to take your mind off it for a while. You may find you don't have things so bad. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t133540/ tell me what you think