In love with her still, she contacted me again..

[Rowen]

I'm still desperaetely in love with my gf.She broke it off around 5.5 weeks ago. We got into some arguing and she felt hurt by it at the end. That was her reason.

 

At first with my emotions raw and open I tried to win her back by puting my best words and shirt/cologne forward. It didn't work. We continued to talk off and on on msn and text but nothing was getting forward.. I was still desperate. I committed to no contact one night.. and that night she phoned crying, i started to spill emotions again and scared her off seemingly. Since then she has called me and denied calling saying it was accidental. She has initiated every msn conversation online, but shel just slide away offline quickly after a couple minutes.

 

After two weeks of NO contact, I called her on her bday to leave her a bday message. It was quick. She called back immediately to thank me and seemed very happy. We later conversed on messenger for about 15 minutes... she told me she had changed her career path from doctor to teacher, but she also hinted she "needed cheering up" before she went offline.

 

This was last saturday. There had been nothing since then, until last night when I was on messenger.. (she was not online) and i got a text from her saying "you're quitting your job?" (that was my msn name)

 

So she was either hiding and appearing offline or something.. becuase I have no clue how she saw my name on msn. Anyway... I decided not to respond to the text.. it's been 22 hours since the text.

 

I don't know if it means anything, but she has initiated 95 percent of contact since we broke up... and this is even after she said we should go on no contact.

 

Should I just not respond to her text? Maybe wait a few days and respond? Becuase I do want her back but I don't want to lose her thinking I don't care.. you know?

 

This is also her first text just asking a general question about my life in the six weeks that we've been apart.

 

Any advice? Reaction would be really appreciated... this is a hard time for me. I feel she is the one. I know she cares about me still becuase she tells me that all the time. She won't say she doesn't love me, or that she does either. I think she's just really confused with her life right now and maybe a bit scared.

 

Also.. a note: she couldnt stop talking about our 6 month and what we would do on it just days before she dumped me. I think this girl is just really confused and scared with her life in general.. not just with me.

[someone3434]

The one thing you are going to have to come to terms with that I have....is that if she wanted to be with you..she would.

 

Why beat yourself up and go through these mind games trying to figure out the little things....it shouldn't be that way.

 

She'd be with you if she wanted to. Walk away. If she wants to be with you..she'll come back and tell you..

[Rowen]

OK well I know this is really insignificent.. but it's so big for me. She sent it to me on wednesday and I have not responded. This is huge for me and I bet she's feeling it.. Becuase I have contacted her back every time she has contacted me and right away.

[Blurple]

Rowen please be careful. usually after a break up you will get the how are you doing contact. This only means that she might be feeling guilty about the break up. On the other hand she might be checking to see if you are still available. Like the other posters said. If she wanted to be with you than she would. Don't respond, I can understand if you are worried she might feel like you have moved on, but that doesnt ever really stop someone from getting back together with someone they want to be with.

[Rowen]

Rowen please be careful. usually after a break up you will get the how are you doing contact. This only means that she might be feeling guilty about the break up. On the other hand she might be checking to see if you are still available. Like the other posters said. If she wanted to be with you than she would. Don't respond, I can understand if you are worried she might feel like you have moved on, but that doesnt ever really stop someone from getting back together with someone they want to be with.

 

That's really good advice. Thank you. Back even before october started one night i had chatted with my good friend who irnonically was an ex from about 5 years ago... i stated "NO CONTACT" AND marked a red X on my calendar that night... 2 hours later she called crying... I was drunk and my emotions were raw becuase i said no contact.... and we ended up fighting, it was not pretty.

 

Alright.. what should I do if she calls? Or asks where I am or something?

 

The good thing with me right now is that I actually am making a commitment to change.. i'm working out 2-3 times a week, been on a couple dates (and yes they were tough) and I didn't give them my full attention and were bad dates.. but at least I went out on them.

[Rowen]

Just a side note..... to some things she said. One of the reasons I think she broke it off was becuase of her career (she was going into pre med) and scared to death... now she stated shes gonna be a teacher (alot less stressing)

 

Another note: She has mentioned she "needs cheering up"

 

Also in a convo a while ago she said to me "you need to figure some things out right now"

Also... she gave me call then denied calling me then said it was an accident.... i think she was embarrased becuase i didnt respond to her call until 5 hours later via text.

I do.. and I have been growing as a person so much, and i believe if I get another shot or not I will be better for it for sure.

 

As with many many relationships.. she said she wanted to spend the rest of her life with me.. we had even talked about long term plans.... we are young.. 22.

[Blurple]

what should I do if she calls? Or asks where I am or something?

 

arnt you in NC with her? that is that last of your worries. Who cares were you are. Your not her BF anymore.. Why do you think you need to answer to her? You only care to talk to her if she puts herself out there to come back.

[Rowen]

arnt you in NC with her? that is that last of your worries. Who cares were you are. Your not her BF anymore.. Why do you think you need to answer to her? You only care to talk to her if she puts herself out there to come back.

 

I know... but it's tougher when the situation arives you know. ive been getting alot better with it for sure as of late...

 

I look at it, as i'm getting my crap together in my life and I hope she is, as well. She is the one who contacts me all the time. Clearly.. she misses me or is keeping me around incase she comes back.

 

I don't see the real harm in LT=C as long as i'm not goated into any of her arguments she may want to intiate with me. Il just be calm if I do converse with her. Take everything in stride. It's almost like shes feeling guilty or regretting her decision , so subconciously comes a little more aggressive to spark soemthing... but that's just not going to happen anymore. That's where it got us into the mess in the first place!