Moving On

[dodgerfan]

My ex-girlfriend broke up with me 3 months ago and it is no easier now then it was the day she did it. She went to her best friends wedding and when she came back she decided that I am a great guy but she does not want to marry me, she wants to move on. Our relationship lasted about 9-10 months in which that time things moved fairly slowly, I know she genuinely cared for me but at times failed to commit. She didn't cheat, just hesitant to jump into a relationship. Over time we worked things out and one day she told me she was in love with me. Things were great for a month and then she broke up with me. She said that something was missing, not sure what. She knows that she has no intention of marrying me so why stay with me? First off we are 25/26 and marriage wasn't on my mind.

Basically, I am crushed. She is a smart, caring, beautiful young woman. She was the type of girl that I never seem to get. I feel like I will never love again because I will always compare girls to her and in my mind she was perfect. It is so hard for me to move on. Recently I have been sleeping with a girl. She is very sweet and seems to like me a lot, she's not my ex and it will never work with this new girl. I am so depressed, I have lost all hope in love, I don't know what to do. I wish things could have worked out, we had a great relationship and I miss her so much. I feel like I will never meet anyone who will compare to her. I have tried everything to get over her. I am in therapy, I spend a ton of time with me friends, and I work out constantly, nothing works.

[Lovegod]

I feel like I will never meet anyone who will compare to her.

 

I'm going to give you a swift kick of reality here.... There are LOTS of women out there. I don't mean hundreds, I mean millions. Do you REALLY think this one woman is the only one for you, when you haven't even dated a small fraction of the women in the world? Guess what, I'll put my whole life saving on there being a better woman out there for you.

I am so depressed, I have lost all hope in love,

 

Go ahead and give up. Have sex with your hand for the rest of your life. After one female human being doesn't want to **** you anymore, your whole life is finished.

 

Now, look at what I said above. Isn't it retarded? Isn't this kind of thinking stupid? Giving up because you're not going to spend the rest of your life with a woman who doesn't love you? HOW STUPID! If she was the right woman for you, she wouldn't quit loving you!

 

When you get kicked down and 5hit all over, you've gotta get up, brush the 5hit off, and keep going. Go out and find that woman who won't quit loving you! And guess what? The only way you're going to find her is to time-test every woman you get serious with. If she won't stay with you, she's not your ideal woman.

 

Now THAT makes sense!