PLEASE ANYONE WHO CAN HELP!!!

[Kate]

My Best Friend Broke up with this guy a while Back Here Recently I started to Date him She says It's fine and She's ok With it But She Also Told me that when were Together She's going to leave my Side Cause it makes her stomach feel funny

 

she tells me if i luv him Not to Break up with him

 

and I love him With All My Heart But I don't want to Loose my Best Friend

 

I don't neglect her at all in Fact I spend more time With her then I do With Him I don't know what to DO I love them Both so MUch!!!!!

 

Please Help!!!

[heartbroke]

Hi Kate,

 

My feelings that my best friends and I have always stuck true too... Best friends are forever, and more than likely men are not. If you really don't think that it bothers your friend, then proceede with caution. Just know that your friend especially the best ones, are always going to be there and love you for who you are. I admire your best friend for respecting your feelings etc., and I think you saying that you spend more time with her now is a way of making yourself not feel so bad. Put yourself in her shoes and see how you would respond, ya you want your friend to be happy, but it has to hurt a little. I don't know how long your friend and this guy dated and what the history is, but just remember that friends are forever...I hope this helps and good luck to all involved.

My Best Friend Broke up with this guy a while Back Here Recently I started to Date him She says It's fine and She's ok With it But She Also Told me that when were Together She's going to leave my Side Cause it makes her stomach feel funny

 

she tells me if i luv him Not to Break up with him and I love him With All My Heart But I don't want to Loose my Best Friend I don't neglect her at all in Fact I spend more time With her then I do With Him I don't know what to DO I love them Both so MUch!!!!!

 

Please Help!!!

[Totally Confused]

Your best friend sounds like a really cool and accepting person . It's hard to find friends like that. Did she break up with your BF or did your BF break up with her? Was she really effected by it or was it no big deal at the time that they broke up? How long ago did they break up before you started dating him? These are very important questions that you'll need to answer if you want a full assessment on the situation. If she's cool with the 2 of you dating, then she's not in love with him. If she gets a little bothered by it, it's a natural reaction, it doesn't mean she's still in love with him, it's just a pride thing. Think of a guy that you have dated from your past and think how strange it would make you feel if your best friend started dating him - whether you had feelings for him or not. You have to realize that everyone that we have dated (whether we were in love with them or not) we would like to think that we affected and meant more to them than any other person could ever had. It's all a pride thing. My bf that I broke up with 5 yrs ago, and the one I broke up with from 2 yrs ago - I hope that they feel I am the best gf they've ever had and that no one they've dated ever since me, could impact them the way that I did. Your friend probably feels that way too. It probably bothers her to see him so happy with you, but yet at the same time she's a good friend and happy for you. I would suggest you try not to be around both of them at the same time. If circumstances doesn't allow that, then you should ask him to be very distant to you when she's around, just until she gets used to you two being together.

 

Now, do you find her getting catty towards you - little digs aimed at him or you? Or do you find her trying to get extra close to you? If that's true, then she's still feeling strongly for him and has an anger towards you, cause she's hurt. She will eventually get to the point where she is so angry, that she won't be able to stay friends with you or you with her...and everything will end all on its own. Who is a better friend to you...him or her? Who do you think will be there for you in the long run? That's how you should make your choice. BF's come and go, friends are forever.

 

It's kind of hard to give full advice, because I don't know all the facts, so answer these few questions and I'll be able to give you better input. But just remember one thing for future reference...when it comes to ex bf's of best friends - stay away if you value your friendship. Once your friend has been with them, they really should be off limits. There will usually be a resentment on the best friends part. Just put yourself in her place and you'll know what I mean.

[Katie]

always remember...sisters before the misters!!! you may be head over heels in love with this guy but who's gonna be there for you when you begin to have the inevitable problems that come with relationships? your best friend, that's who. "Men will come and go in your life but friends are forever." If her stomach feels funny when she sees you together then she's really not okay with it. she wants to be okay with it but she's obviously putting your interests before hers, she wants you to be happy, she really loves you. return the love and continue to nuture your frienship with her. stay open to meeting new guys, ones that wouldn't cause your best friend to feel queezy.

My Best Friend Broke up with this guy a while Back Here Recently I started to Date him She says It's fine and She's ok With it But She Also Told me that when were Together She's going to leave my Side Cause it makes her stomach feel funny

 

she tells me if i luv him Not to Break up with him and I love him With All My Heart But I don't want to Loose my Best Friend I don't neglect her at all in Fact I spend more time With her then I do With Him I don't know what to DO I love them Both so MUch!!!!!

 

Please Help!!!