kayla56 Posted October 27, 2007 Share Posted October 27, 2007 Okay, me and my boyfriend, well ex-boyfriend, were dating for a year. I cheated on him during the summer when I went to my old town with my ex. He forgave me and we didn't break up. Then, last week I went and cheated on him again, with a guy from an older grade, and they were sort-of good friends. My boyfriends sister found out, so i thought i should tell him what happened. He broke up with me that day (yesterday). He tells me that he cant trust me at all, but he still loves me, and someday we could possibly go out again. How do i gain his trust back? And how do i make sure he knows I will change? Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted October 27, 2007 Share Posted October 27, 2007 You don't know if you will change so how do you expect him to know. I am sorry but you cheated on him twice so do you really blame him for not trusting you? I would give it time and maybe eventually he can trust you again but right now it is over. Link to post Share on other sites
gman0hsev Posted October 27, 2007 Share Posted October 27, 2007 Honestly you may never gain his trust back. He forgave you once and then you go and do it again. As for letting him know you will change...... actions speak louder than words. But you have to ask yourself why to you keep on cheating on him? Do you want out of the relationship? Are there problems? Link to post Share on other sites
PandorasBox Posted October 27, 2007 Share Posted October 27, 2007 Don't worry about gaining HIS trust back at this point. You need to work on trusting yourself first. Its probably best right now to do some soul searching and figure out what you really want from a relationship. Until then just date some. Don't get into a committed realtionship until you understand what it means. Link to post Share on other sites
with_out_a_safteynet Posted October 27, 2007 Share Posted October 27, 2007 Why would you want to get back with him. Obviously your not ready for relationship and you cant handle one. Link to post Share on other sites
Cobra_X30 Posted October 27, 2007 Share Posted October 27, 2007 Okay, me and my boyfriend, well ex-boyfriend, were dating for a year. I cheated on him during the summer when I went to my old town with my ex. He forgave me and we didn't break up. Then, last week I went and cheated on him again, with a guy from an older grade, and they were sort-of good friends. My boyfriends sister found out, so i thought i should tell him what happened. He broke up with me that day (yesterday). He tells me that he cant trust me at all, but he still loves me, and someday we could possibly go out again. How do i gain his trust back? And how do i make sure he knows I will change? I'm guessing that you are young. You really need to sit down and evaluate your actions. Why do you cheat? It's possible to gain his trust back. But it is really really hard, and it takes a lot of risk on your part. How bad do you want him back? What are you willing to do? Link to post Share on other sites
lino Posted October 28, 2007 Share Posted October 28, 2007 I think your chances to get this guys trust again are next to zero. Link to post Share on other sites
dbtmarley Posted October 28, 2007 Share Posted October 28, 2007 Go get your man back and do it to him again. I heard it once said that the third time is a charm;). Link to post Share on other sites
shadowofman Posted October 29, 2007 Share Posted October 29, 2007 You should find a man that is ok with you sleeping with ex-bfs. There are plenty of us. I suggest you learn to be ok with them having sex with theirs as well. Link to post Share on other sites
Cad Rake Posted October 29, 2007 Share Posted October 29, 2007 I agree with shadowofman. Sounds like you need an "open" relationship. I never get jealous if/when a girl I'm dating screws around with another guy. I just screw around with other girls. Fair, isn't it? Link to post Share on other sites
LikeNoOther Posted October 29, 2007 Share Posted October 29, 2007 Get yourself a counselor. Why would he trust you now that you have cheated on him twice? Do you have any idea how a relationship works? I don't think so. Link to post Share on other sites
jr650s Posted October 31, 2007 Share Posted October 31, 2007 ask yourself this question, what makes you want these people when hes not around, is it the thrill? is it a high? im serious here people cheat for various reasons you just have to find out why, as for your boyfriend him forgiving you he is a better man than i because i dont forgive at all, 1 and done but i do the same i have never cheated on any of my GF's the only thing i can say is if they break up with my i end up sleeping with their friends, and i know thats not any better, do you love your ex BF? and do you know what love is? or is it a relationship that hasnt involved love and maybe subconsciously you are searching for it thru sexual actions with other men, as a drug is released everytime you have sex and it always different.. i dont have the answer only you do. Link to post Share on other sites
bish Posted October 31, 2007 Share Posted October 31, 2007 Okay, me and my boyfriend, well ex-boyfriend, were dating for a year. I cheated on him during the summer when I went to my old town with my ex. He forgave me and we didn't break up. Then, last week I went and cheated on him again, with a guy from an older grade, and they were sort-of good friends. My boyfriends sister found out, so i thought i should tell him what happened. He broke up with me that day (yesterday). He tells me that he cant trust me at all, but he still loves me, and someday we could possibly go out again. How do i gain his trust back? And how do i make sure he knows I will change? Uh...he'd be a fool to take you back. And you can say you will change...doesn't make it so. How do you gain his trust back?..hmm...lets see...you cheated on him once and he forgave you....so how do you repay his forgiving nature and trust?...by cheating again. I'd say move on and leave him alone. You've done enough to him already. Link to post Share on other sites
reboot Posted October 31, 2007 Share Posted October 31, 2007 Getting trust back once is nearly impossible. I would never even consider trying to get it back a second time. Link to post Share on other sites
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