dedo Posted October 28, 2007 Share Posted October 28, 2007 I am a female dumpee. We have been apart for about 7 months. I have given him lots of space for the first 5 months and then have slowly started to email and chat with him. We have met a few times to chat about remaining friends. However, I want him back. He knows this. He still has feelings for me, I can see it in his eyes. I have read a lot about NC and I am new to dating games, even though NC is beneficial for other purposes too. I feel as though he is keeping me at bay as a back-up and on a string at the same time. I just recently invited him out to a halloween party on a sunday night. He said that he doesnt know what he will be doing on a Sunday night. He is quiet and shy....he doesnt have many friends....and its a Sunday night. He said that he is leaning towards a "yes", but he will let me know Sunday afternoon!!! And every once in a while out of the blue he will email me with some weird blurb about nothing in particular, just to see if I am still around. I've had enough. So, I am going to go NC....well low contact actually. We have a mutual dance class that we take together once a week. I dont want to quit on the basis of this. My question to you guys who are the dumpers: Have you palyed the game where your dumpee is on a string or you treat her as a back-up? What if you discover that your dumpee is no-longer waiting for you, how would this make you feel? Would you be curious to what they are doing and want them back? I'm just wondering if this will work? Link to post Share on other sites
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