Should a certain LoveShack member get a divorce?

[Touche]

Hey, Wog. Guess what? I know you have money and you're smart and have almost paid your house off and everything...but guess what?

 

Money doesn't equal class. You're lacking in class. You also lack common sense. You're going to blow it with your wife. You're being a fool. She's going to be on to you soon. You better sit down with her and tell her the truth about you. Tell her how you hate women. Tell her how you think most are scum.

 

I thank my lucky stars above every time I read your posts. My H grew up with 4 sisters and a mom. His dad moved away and he only got to see him during vacations. He looks up to women. He treats me so well. He treats his sisters so well. (His mom died.) But when his mom was alive, he used to travel 40 minutes to mow her lawn and when he was in the army, he sent her money.

 

I'd be so upset if I found out that my H secretly hated women. I'd feel so betrayed. I'm not perfect so if he admitted this to me, I would forgive him, but you better not wait. The longer you wait, the worse it's going to be.

 

You'll never make it past your 5th anniversary if she really doesn't know what you're all about and who you are. I guarantee it.

[Citizen Erased]

eh don't worry

[johan]

Woggle shouldn't seek a divorce. He should try to forget all this stuff that makes him crazy. And he needs to remind himself that he is in a marriage as much to make his wife happy as she is to make him happy.

[lonelybird]

maybe Woggle just have his "PMS" period , he will pass this mindset soon.

 

Woggle maybe you should see how Betty loves her husband (Church Channel), even moved me. I envy them, how adorable they are, and they are in their 60' maybe. many adorable couples proved that successful marriage are possible

 

not easy to find one who love you and you love her, cherish it or not depends on you

[Trialbyfire]

It is more than my mother. I admit that I tend to generalize women but I know so many men experiencing what I am afraid of and even when you look on this board you see so many women who seem to hate their men and so many men in pain because the woman they loved turned on them. If all you see is negativity around you how can it not make you afraid?

Why are you allowing external influences to affect your marriage?

 

Think about it this way. Why should women stay in marriages because the statistics reflect that men have a 50% more chance of heart attack/stroke, therefore, it's best to divorce y'all now, before men become emotional and financial drains on women. Pretty ridiculous, don't you think?

[Woggle]

I got into it with my friend tonight because he is the one that keeps telling me to divorce my wife so we can be players together. I told him to stop trying to ruin my marriage just because his blew up in my face. I think he is 100% right for not taking his STBX back because she cheated on him and only wants back in now that OM left her so he is better off without her. Tat being said it doesn't mean my wife will do the same thing. I understand he is better and I do sympathize with him but for the first time tonight I saw what I must look like to others.

[Citizen Erased]

I got into it with my friend tonight because he is the one that keeps telling me to divorce my wife so we can be players together. I told him to stop trying to ruin my marriage just because his blew up in my face. I think he is 100% right for not taking his STBX back because she cheated on him and only wants back in now that OM left her so he is better off without her. Tat being said it doesn't mean my wife will do the same thing. I understand he is better and I do sympathize with him but for the first time tonight I saw what I must look like to others.

 

Okay then, see you in a few weeks for your next freak out about your wife.

[Trialbyfire]

I got into it with my friend tonight because he is the one that keeps telling me to divorce my wife so we can be players together. I told him to stop trying to ruin my marriage just because his blew up in my face. I think he is 100% right for not taking his STBX back because she cheated on him and only wants back in now that OM left her so he is better off without her. Tat being said it doesn't mean my wife will do the same thing. I understand he is better and I do sympathize with him but for the first time tonight I saw what I must look like to others.

Excellent. Now keep that mindset.

[Woggle]

Okay then, see you in a few weeks for your next freak out about your wife.

 

You are probably right but I will work on it.

[Citizen Erased]

You are probably right but I will work on it.

 

Sorry, didn't mean for that to come across so bitchy I hope you do work on it, your wife deserves it.

[Woggle]

Sorry, didn't mean for that to come across so bitchy I hope you do work on it, your wife deserves it.

 

Nah sometimes I deserve to be hit upside the head with the truth.

[Woggle]

It's unreal how much this guy reminds me of myself right after I split with my ex. I want to be there for him but when he starts trying to destroy my marriage I need to draw a line.

[Gunny376]

No you shouldn't divorce your wife ~ sounds to me ~ from your previous posts ~ that you lucked-up and found a good and decent woman.

 

You've got money, you've almost got your house paid for ~ and that's a lot of stress that you don't have to deal with.

 

People think that making more money is the answer ~ while the answer is learning to live of what you make. Once you've minimized your housing and transportation costs? You've got half the game one ~ and if you've got half the financial game beat hands down? Then you've got a lot of the martial game won!

 

If you've got so-called friends telling you to get divorce then you need to get new friends. I'm willing to bet good money most of them are divorced themselves? What do they know about making a marriage work? You need to find people and become friends with people that are successful in their relationships and marriage ~ not the losers that aren't?

 

If you wanted to become successful in something would you go and surround yourself with people that weren't successful? No! You'd go find someone that was successful ~ would you not?

 

Your thinking about this pre-emptive strike business is flawed?

 

We're all ~ each and everyone of us are going to die ~ does that mean we should go out and suicide ourselves and get it over with?

 

The single greatest complaint women have about men? Emotional neglect.

 

Not physical abuse!

 

Not emotional abuse!

 

Emotional Neglect! Men's apathy toward their wives ~ and women become so starved for something ~ anything ~ that yes many of them do go and cheat. And then blame their husbands for making them do it!

 

Women can and do put up with a lot of crap from men. As do men with women. But if your fulfilling a woman's emotional needs? You're half way there.

 

Instead of focusing on "what-if" scernarios ~ concentrate on "what-is"! What it took to get her is what it takes to keep her! You've got to date your mate! You've got to read about romance ~ and I'm not talking about "romance novels" but about how to be romantic~ its doesn't come natural to men ~ you have to learn it. And it doesn't take loads of money, and diamonds ~ simple ~ little things ~ mean a lot!

 

For example? My last LTR GF had really bad allergies. I was out and about one day, and I spied a silver pill box ~ so I bought it for her and just matter of fact gave it to her to keep her allergy medicine in. As a man? I didn't think it was a big deal ~ but to her? I was thinking about her and of her when she wasn't with me?

 

You're NEVER going to understand women! So give it up! You're not a woman!

 

The only thing you need to understand? Is that women are all the same ~ yet all different! Unique! They like men ~ are a paradox. A "mystery" of themselves, to themselves.

 

There's "no" understanding women ~ because women don't understand themselves ~ same as men.

 

Face it Woggle? You lucked up! You found a good woman! And you can't and don't want to admitt it!

 

You're starting to sound like Groucho Marx ~ "I don't want to be a member of any country club that would have me as a member!"