shadowplay Posted October 29, 2007 Share Posted October 29, 2007 just ignore him. don't call him or bend to his needs. Link to post Share on other sites
Ali4134 Posted October 29, 2007 Share Posted October 29, 2007 just ignore him. don't call him or bend to his needs. you're right. I haven't called or written him at all today. I'm gonna go home, take a nice bath, read, and finish packing. Maybe watch my shows and forget that he even mattered to me for now. Link to post Share on other sites
plainoldjared Posted October 29, 2007 Share Posted October 29, 2007 Yeah, except I was out with his female roommate. Two of her guy friends went, but he knows I have no interest in them. Other than that a friend of mine thinks he might be upset because I'm moving and that may be. But I don't deserve to be ignored and all that. He should just tell me for heavens sake. Geez. Well then yeah that definitely shoots down my theory, he definitely needs to speak up, at the very least. Link to post Share on other sites
shadowplay Posted October 29, 2007 Share Posted October 29, 2007 I wouldn't bring it up or start a fight. Just IGNORE him. Only discuss what's bothering you if he comes begging for answers. Nothing sends a clearer message than ignoring somebody. If you start a fight you're just showing him how much you care. Honestly, I'd forget about him all together. He sounds like a douchebag. Link to post Share on other sites
plainoldjared Posted October 29, 2007 Share Posted October 29, 2007 I'm happy with my body. I have always been. I was told by a few guys that they were not too happy with my body. Although I don't give a rat's ar$e about it... it gets to me. It's weird cause I am a confident woman! I think thats totally normal. If someone points out something negative about me or my work I get offended upset and defensive, I try not to let it show though until I figure out why I am so upset. Usually I just think, F'em and move on with my day but it does bother me initially Link to post Share on other sites
milx Posted October 29, 2007 Share Posted October 29, 2007 Aren't some these posts belong to another thread? Aren't you all thread-jacking? Link to post Share on other sites
Ali4134 Posted October 29, 2007 Share Posted October 29, 2007 maybe a little....but i really dont think the origional poster minds. She loves us. Link to post Share on other sites
milx Posted October 29, 2007 Share Posted October 29, 2007 Well, I'm sure she wouldn't mind... but don't you think it's about respect? Just my thoughts. Btw, I think women with or without curves do not matter. It's who you are deep inside. Link to post Share on other sites
reboot Posted October 29, 2007 Share Posted October 29, 2007 Btw, I think women with or without curves do not matter. It's who you are deep inside.Oh sure, absolutely. But we all have physical attributes that attract us to someone on the front end. I guess the OP was just curious if there was a type that most are attracted to. Link to post Share on other sites
allina Posted October 29, 2007 Share Posted October 29, 2007 Ali and BHKS you're both beautiful, curvy and in good shape. My problem with terms like curvy is that they mean something different to anyone. Women anywhere from size 0 to size 22 will call themselves curvy so it's a tough call. I'm not a guy but I think men want a thin woman with a feminine shape. Link to post Share on other sites
reboot Posted October 29, 2007 Share Posted October 29, 2007 I'm not a guy but I think men want a thin woman with a feminine shape.Some men. I think you'd be surprised how many men prefer a girl with some meat on their bones (so to speak). But we've had this argument before in another thread. Link to post Share on other sites
Author bigheartkindsoul Posted October 29, 2007 Author Share Posted October 29, 2007 Body fat percentage is a better indicator than BMI. BMI is no good really, it doesn't take into consideration your bust size, butt size, whether you are in fact big boned, you could also be a body builder/extremely fit (muscle weighs more than fat) without an ounze of fat but classed as overweight/obese as far as BMI is concerned. Link to post Share on other sites
Author bigheartkindsoul Posted October 29, 2007 Author Share Posted October 29, 2007 Ali and BHKS you're both beautiful, curvy and in good shape. My problem with terms like curvy is that they mean something different to anyone. Women anywhere from size 0 to size 22 will call themselves curvy so it's a tough call. I'm not a guy but I think men want a thin woman with a feminine shape. Thank you and yes you are in fact right, my original vent was cause someone referred to me as chubby on here and said I would have problems finding guys because of not being stick thin. Link to post Share on other sites
allina Posted October 29, 2007 Share Posted October 29, 2007 Some men. I think you'd be surprised how many men prefer a girl with some meat on their bones (so to speak). But we've had this argument before in another thread. I admit that's just something I cannot believe, from everything i see it just isn't true, it would be nice if I was wrong but I can't grasp that. @ us having this argument before. Link to post Share on other sites
Author bigheartkindsoul Posted October 29, 2007 Author Share Posted October 29, 2007 Very nice. Kate Moss looks like a pile of dog shyt. Thank you I just wanted to say that you are all very attractive women. The men you have been with that have made you feel otherwise are worthless losers. You're beautiful and any man would be lucky to have you Thank you, and would you like a wife?? LOL Link to post Share on other sites
Author bigheartkindsoul Posted October 29, 2007 Author Share Posted October 29, 2007 I admit that's just something I cannot believe, from everything i see it just isn't true, it would be nice if I was wrong but I can't grasp that. @ us having this argument before. I've heard its good to talk/vent......Lol Link to post Share on other sites
allina Posted October 29, 2007 Share Posted October 29, 2007 Thank you and yes you are in fact right, my original vent was cause someone referred to me as chubby on here and said I would have problems finding guys because of not being stick thin. Who the heck called you chubby?! You're beautiful. I'm a girl that has issues with weight. When it comes to me I feel like the smaller the better but even with my twisted views you're far from chubby. Link to post Share on other sites
plainoldjared Posted October 29, 2007 Share Posted October 29, 2007 I admit that's just something I cannot believe, from everything i see it just isn't true, it would be nice if I was wrong but I can't grasp that. @ us having this argument before. I posted this originally, I think its relevant to what youre saying here.. I myself absolutely love a woman with curves. The first thing I notice is physique, and I think this applies to most anyone. It is not the deciding factor but it is the first thing I notice then the eyes, the smile, the personality and so on. I like a woman that feels and looks healthy, a nice soft tummy and waist, soft hands, pretty feet, sexy neckline, pretty face etc. Weight is not an issue, however I would like a gf that is active and can keep up with my interests and also a woman that has the confidence to dress up for me feel, sexy and know that I think she's sexy too. I would take a womanly body over a skinny uninteresting body anyday. However, I've never been attracted to a woman that is too heavy, nothing against her but I cant help but assume that she would never want to go hiking or snowboarding, or on any highly physical activities and that would never work because I am very much that kinda guy... Link to post Share on other sites
Author bigheartkindsoul Posted October 29, 2007 Author Share Posted October 29, 2007 I posted this originally, I think its relevant to what youre saying here.. I myself absolutely love a woman with curves. The first thing I notice is physique, and I think this applies to most anyone. It is not the deciding factor but it is the first thing I notice then the eyes, the smile, the personality and so on. I like a woman that feels and looks healthy, a nice soft tummy and waist, soft hands, pretty feet, sexy neckline, pretty face etc. Weight is not an issue, however I would like a gf that is active and can keep up with my interests and also a woman that has the confidence to dress up for me feel, sexy and know that I think she's sexy too. I would take a womanly body over a skinny uninteresting body anyday. However, I've never been attracted to a woman that is too heavy, nothing against her but I cant help but assume that she would never want to go hiking or snowboarding, or on any highly physical activities and that would never work because I am very much that kinda guy... Understable that you would like someone fit enough to partake in your hobbies and likes. You seems to have such a great attitude, wish they were all like you. Yes I am flirting a bit..... Link to post Share on other sites
Author bigheartkindsoul Posted October 29, 2007 Author Share Posted October 29, 2007 Who the heck called you chubby?! You're beautiful. I'm a girl that has issues with weight. When it comes to me I feel like the smaller the better but even with my twisted views you're far from chubby. See post about "What is a great girl to date"! think I put a link somewhere in here too. Link to post Share on other sites
plainoldjared Posted October 29, 2007 Share Posted October 29, 2007 Thank you Thank you, and would you like a wife?? LOL you're beautiful and have a cute personality... It really upsets me that there are people that are so cruel and oblivious to everyone but themselves. My momma isnt thin, in fact she never has been but she is unbelievably popular with the men. They love her confidence and she is gorgeous but they love that she can stick up to anyone that is even slightly hinting at anything negative about her. Shes quick to say "you better clear that up real quick before I get to clearing you up myself" Link to post Share on other sites
allina Posted October 29, 2007 Share Posted October 29, 2007 I posted this originally, I think its relevant to what youre saying here.. I myself absolutely love a woman with curves. The first thing I notice is physique, and I think this applies to most anyone. It is not the deciding factor but it is the first thing I notice then the eyes, the smile, the personality and so on. I like a woman that feels and looks healthy, a nice soft tummy and waist, soft hands, pretty feet, sexy neckline, pretty face etc. Weight is not an issue, however I would like a gf that is active and can keep up with my interests and also a woman that has the confidence to dress up for me feel, sexy and know that I think she's sexy too. I would take a womanly body over a skinny uninteresting body anyday. However, I've never been attracted to a woman that is too heavy, nothing against her but I cant help but assume that she would never want to go hiking or snowboarding, or on any highly physical activities and that would never work because I am very much that kinda guy... Thanks, I think you put that in a lovely way. I think my "view" comes from two separate areas. For one, I'm a US size 4 and really want to get back to the 0/1 I was at 18. I'm very fit and I feel like if I was bigger or "curvier" I would feel sloppy and not be able to run, hike and be active. The second issue I have with the "men love curves" argument is that people like Scarlett Johannson are considered super curvy. Yes she has curves but she is still trim and in good shape. I feel like it's more that men like trim women that have a visible waist and bust. I'm not sure if this makes sense it's how I feel. Even on dating sites most men check off boxes like thin and athletic for their possible match, not thick or big. Link to post Share on other sites
pollywag Posted October 29, 2007 Share Posted October 29, 2007 Hotdiggiddy Plainoldjared, you make me want to terminate my devotion to god. Is there room for two loves in a nun's life? what a fine peice of man you are, and they do say man's best friend is a dog. Mother Magdalen always tells us that the body of a woman is sinful which is why she makes us cover up. I remember one night Brother Neil had come by the pavillion to borrow some sugar, and I just happened to have some under my habit next to the fish. The habbit is a great place to store groceries, and tools and small villages. It was that day that he realised that the curves of a woman is determined not by the size of her habit but by what she does with it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author bigheartkindsoul Posted October 29, 2007 Author Share Posted October 29, 2007 you're beautiful and have a cute personality... It really upsets me that there are people that are so cruel and oblivious to everyone but themselves. My momma isnt thin, in fact she never has been but she is unbelievably popular with the men. They love her confidence and she is gorgeous but they love that she can stick up to anyone that is even slightly hinting at anything negative about her. Shes quick to say "you better clear that up real quick before I get to clearing you up myself" Oh god now I am swooning even more, cause you sound like me, I don't like cruel people and people without compassion for others. If OP are not like that then just keep your opinions to yourself rather than saying something hurtful! Link to post Share on other sites
plainoldjared Posted October 29, 2007 Share Posted October 29, 2007 Understable that you would like someone fit enough to partake in your hobbies and likes. You seems to have such a great attitude, wish they were all like you. Yes I am flirting a bit..... I appreciate hearing that, Ive been depressed and pathetic for 2 wks and I finally feel like myself again. I definitely need to meet some nice girls... I dont know about the internet dating though, I saw a post from you about that topic I'll go read it now Link to post Share on other sites
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