I want him back!

[Hurt_chick]

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Hey..ok..i dated this guy for a year and i really fell in love with him and visa versa. We broke up like 8 times at the very end of our relationship because he couldn't make up his mind on what he wanted to do."He wanted to be single". He would always come back and tell me he still loved me alot and wanted to be with me, then he would break up with me again. Well we finally just broke it off but still kept talking to each other and hookin up. It eventually became very hard for me because I still loved him very much and i felt like i was just being used for sex. Well at this point we have been broken up for 10 months. But he is still sorta playing with my mind i guess you could say. Like i'll finally think I'm progressing and getting over him and he'll talk to me again. And we'll hang out or whatever and my feelings come back because I really do love him. But he has this big issue with makin it known that he isn't in a relationship. He is just really big on caring about what other ppl think. Lately he won't even talk to me at school and then he'll talk to me over the internet and just act like it doesn't matter that he pays no attention to me at school. He changes his mind all the time. When i asked him if anything was ever goin to happen again he told me he didn't know because he still liked me but he just doesn't want a girlfriend. And so far he hasn't had one. He just acts really strange around me..like he won't give me eye contact when he is talking to me..but he like wants to hang with me on the weekends and talk to me on the internet..I feel like i'm getting really mixed signals. It's killin me because i really love him and i want to tell him how i feel but i don't want to make things even weirder. And he has a big problem with expressing his feelings so it' s really hard to communicate with him. i just don't know what to do..i really want to be with him and i just want to know what he is trying to do. There is alot more to this story but this is the biggest problem. Please give me some advice because i keep finding myself wanting to be with him again because we were so close and he was my best friend and we just have alot in common..Advice would be very appriciated..THanks

[cindy0039]

I think you should make a clean break with this guy and move on. Don't let him keep playing with you. Each time you start things back up with him it's like opening an old wound, and that's not good for you. You deserve better! I would just avoid all contact with him, for your own good.

[niko1999]

I agree with Cindy. you said that he doesn't act like anything is going on when youre in person, but he talks to you on the internet? He isn't worth it and you can find someone much bette than that. Men have a tendency to try and come back into your life when you think youre getting over them. it is alsmost as if they know that you are getting over them. And I imagine that women are the same as well. But yes, you need to move on and leave him in his dust, and let him be an a*s to someone else, not you. My boyfreind was confused for awhile and needed to sort things out, but he never acted like we werent together. Good luck:)

[LondonChick]

You need to understand that he is young and hence still immature. You need to let go, and that mean no contact whatsoever! No phone calls, no returning his emails, and definetly no hanging out together!!!!!

 

You need to be honest and ask yourself if he is the only guy in your town that you can date? Is he? Is he really the best looking guy you have ever met? Does he have the greatest personality you have come across in your whole life? I'm sure the answer to those questions is 'NO'!!!!

 

Spend more time with your real friends. People who wont mess you around like that guy has been. Good luck with school!

 

P.S I hope you were having safe sex.

[Hurt_chick]

tHAnks so much for your replies...i've really been lettin myself forget about the past and i've been thinkinG about new possibilities..thank you alot for replying!