BearHugger Posted October 30, 2007 Share Posted October 30, 2007 When in the last relationship they cared so much they would tell you to text them when you got home to make sure you got home ok. However there was no chemistry and ended up deciding we get along better as just friends. To this very day, we are still friends that talk every so often. Now in my current relationship, I feel like I'm always trying to strive to see him. I feel like I am the only one making the effort. He doesn't tell me to text him to make sure I made it home safe. Nor does he go out of his way to see me much. That may have something to do with the fact that he only works part time so... gas money..ect... all things to consider... We got into an arguement on Saturday: I told him it felt like he didn't care. He got very pissed off at me and told me with this bitter tone "If thats how you really feel" and ended with "You went over the line.... im going inside. bye" It's now Monday and I still haven't talked to him, nor do I feel as though I should call him. I don't feel as though I went over the line. I told him it felt like there has been a billion times where I was always going out doing things alone instead of together. I am actually jealous in a way. Some couples see each other every day, with us its been once a week, if that. It pisses me off that we only live a 20-30 minute drive, whereas before ( I moved out 3 weeks ago) it was a 15 minute drive from my house to his house. He makes it seem like we live on different sides of the planet, which is crap. I tried to have a mature conversation with him Saturday, but it ended badly. We are both stubborn people so I guess I shouldn't have expected much results. IN DETAIL: Saturday I woke up early and I had plans to go hiking with my friend CJ. I make it halfway across to this hiking trail... about a 30ish mile drive on the freeway. His (Not CJ, the guy I'm dating) work is in between it so I thought I would stop into work and say hi first. Turns out he went home early, so I was kind of bummed about that. I get into my car and text him "Hey I was gonna say hi to you but you left already" and all I get back in a text message is "Ya". My nerves get a little shot because I hadn't heard from him since yesterday morning, and all I got was two letters.I grumble and try to forget about it. I get back on the road and CJ calls and says he's not really feeling like hiking anymore. I try to act cool about it, but am really fustrated and upset because I had looked forward to going. It was Saturday, it was nice out, and for once the weather was actually decent. I felt kinda lonely and didn't feel up to hiking by myself. I pull over at the nearest exit and did something very immature. I texted the guy I was dating who the only thing he texted me this morning, was "Ya", a message... it said "You suck" and then another saying "Especially for a boyfriend". I just remember being really pissed off and driving home. Mid way through driving he calls up and goes "Hey whats up??" I grumble and am like "not much, you know. " eventually tell him I got stood up, and he invited me over for awhile. Him and his dad were going to look at a jeep for sale, and said I should come over. UNFORTUNATELY... I took out my anger on him. The weird lonely feeling I got sitting on the exit from the freeway, trying to decide if I should just head home came back and for some reason it made me go commando on him. It made me feel like he didn't care. all the things different about this relationship compared to the last. I was used to getting text messages or phone calls saying "goodnight" or just hi. or driving out to see me at odd hours just "because". but there were no feelings in that relationship though... what should I do? I feel like I need to take a chill pill and try to forget how I was used to be treated in relationships, because this one is obviously different. Link to post Share on other sites
norajane Posted October 30, 2007 Share Posted October 30, 2007 Yes, it sounds like you took your anger out on him. BUT, you had a lot of resentment built up already because you haven't been feeling good in this relationship, nor have you been happy with the way he treats you, for a long time. If you feel like you're making all the effort, then of course you're going to be upset. It may seem wrong to compare this relationship to your past one, but there is NOTHING wrong with wanting to feel cared for, appreciated and like he wants to see you as much as you want to see him. Don't settle - you deserve a warm, loving relationship if that's what you want. If you accept less, then that's what you'll end up with. Link to post Share on other sites
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