whichwayisup Posted October 30, 2007 Share Posted October 30, 2007 This is where I need to get to. Somehow! It's time for me to give up this disguisting habit, I just don't know how to get in the proper frame of mind, to be strong and not cave. I'm scared of who I'll turn into when I quit. The withdrawals, not only physical but the mental/emotional side of it too. This is stupid, (though I hope most smokers or exsmokers will understand this part) I am so used to smoking, it's become part of me. Who I am, in a way. I'm real good at giving advice, but not great at receiving it but I do need help here and it feels like something in me is just stopping me from being strong, quitting and getting over the nic fits and cravings. Link to post Share on other sites
cokeexhibit Posted October 30, 2007 Share Posted October 30, 2007 No! No! No! Don't smoke! Think of the Kids and those around you who you affect with second hand smoke! Go NC with those cigs! Think of your Life! Link to post Share on other sites
Lovegod Posted October 30, 2007 Share Posted October 30, 2007 If you want the right mindset to quit smoking, you won't get it through nicotine patches, gum, or all those other gimmicks. You probably won't even get it on this message board. Go pick up the book called "Allen Carr's Easy Way to Stop Smoking". Believe it or not, this is how I quit along with a few other people I know. It only costs about two packs of cigarettes, and it was worth every cent. I've been smoke free for almost two years now. But don't take my word for it. The reviews on Amazon speak for themselves: http://www.amazon.com/Easy-Way-Stop-Smoking-Nonsmokers/dp/1402718616/ref=pd_bbs_sr_1/103-5393970-9935037?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1193766711&sr=1-1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author whichwayisup Posted October 30, 2007 Author Share Posted October 30, 2007 Thanks Lovegod for that link. And congrats for being an ex-smoker for 2 years now! I don't plan on using the patch or zyban/chantix to help me quit. I need to do it cold turkey and live with the withdrawals. I don't believe in taking meds that alter one's mind. Link to post Share on other sites
reboot Posted October 30, 2007 Share Posted October 30, 2007 whichwayisup, I wish you much luck. I am so used to smoking, it's become part of me. Who I am, in a way.I so saw myself there. I don't even bother trying to quit. Maybe you will inspire me. And to LoveGod, thanks for the link. I think I'll get that book. Link to post Share on other sites
Kasan Posted October 30, 2007 Share Posted October 30, 2007 Thanks Lovegod for that link. And congrats for being an ex-smoker for 2 years now! I don't plan on using the patch or zyban/chantix to help me quit. I need to do it cold turkey and live with the withdrawals. I don't believe in taking meds that alter one's mind. Good luck to you--quitting smoking wasn't that hard for me. I did it cold turkey (third attempt) 25 years ago...but I had only smoked for 8 years. I just made up my mind and did it. I remember going to bed and telling myself that tomorrow would be easier than today....day after day. I don't remember the withdrawals so much, so I guess they weren't that bad. The kids were little then, so chasing around after them probably took the focus off the smoking. I can honestly tell you that being around cigarette smoke now makes me physically sick. Good luck...you will love losing that smoker's cough! Link to post Share on other sites
Author whichwayisup Posted October 30, 2007 Author Share Posted October 30, 2007 whichwayisup, I wish you much luck. I so saw myself there. I don't even bother trying to quit. Maybe you will inspire me. And to LoveGod, thanks for the link. I think I'll get that book. Wow, you got it! Thanks for the luck, I'm going to need it. Good luck...you will love losing that smoker's cough! You have no idea how much I'm looking forward to that! I remember going to bed and telling myself that tomorrow would be easier than today....day after day. I don't remember the withdrawals so much, so I guess they weren't that bad. This is the thing, getting into that mindset and being stronger than the withdrawals. I know myself well enough that I could tell myself, 'tomorrow is the day I quit' and then wake up the next and still smoke. Think that book will help and I also just thought of calling my local hospital to see if there's a support group to join. Link to post Share on other sites
blind_otter Posted October 30, 2007 Share Posted October 30, 2007 This is where I need to get to. Somehow! It's time for me to give up this disguisting habit, I just don't know how to get in the proper frame of mind, to be strong and not cave. I'm scared of who I'll turn into when I quit. The withdrawals, not only physical but the mental/emotional side of it too. This is stupid, (though I hope most smokers or exsmokers will understand this part) I am so used to smoking, it's become part of me. Who I am, in a way. I'm real good at giving advice, but not great at receiving it but I do need help here and it feels like something in me is just stopping me from being strong, quitting and getting over the nic fits and cravings. Try reading The Easy Way to Stop Smoking: Join the Millions Who Have Become Nonsmokers Using the Easyway Method by Allan Carr. It worked for my boyfriend and smoker for 25 years. Lucky for you the addiction does eventually subside. I've been clean for about a year now. Well, almost a year -- and I can't remember, for the life of me, how I ever enjoyed smoking. Link to post Share on other sites
Author whichwayisup Posted October 30, 2007 Author Share Posted October 30, 2007 Thanks for posting B_O. I hope I find the strength to do this, stick with it and not give in to the nic fits. I don't want to go through what my father, what your father, went through. One day I'll be saying (hopefully!!!), "I've been clean for about a year now." Link to post Share on other sites
blind_otter Posted October 30, 2007 Share Posted October 30, 2007 Seriously try reading that book. My boyfriend was a heavy smoker for YEARS and he quit cold turkey with almost zero withdrawal symptoms. HE wasn't irritable or snappish or anything. It was almost twilight zone-ish. Link to post Share on other sites
Author whichwayisup Posted October 30, 2007 Author Share Posted October 30, 2007 HE wasn't irritable or snappish or anything This made me laugh! He's not a WOMAN though! LOL..I know myself and my moods especially around PMS time. Link to post Share on other sites
blind_otter Posted October 30, 2007 Share Posted October 30, 2007 Well I know I was a basket case for several weeks after I quit. For months afterwards I had to use pure willpower to stop myself from picking up the cigs again. But all it takes for me is remembering my Dad, and the way he died, and how heart broken he left everyone who wanted so badly to have just a few more years with him. Link to post Share on other sites
Author whichwayisup Posted November 13, 2007 Author Share Posted November 13, 2007 Well I know I was a basket case for several weeks after I quit. For months afterwards I had to use pure willpower to stop myself from picking up the cigs again. Well, this upcoming weekend we have my young nieces here so I won't be smoking much (they don't know I smoke) so hopefully this will be the kick start I need to be on the road to quitting. I also know my moods will be awful the following, so I might actually go buy the nicorette gum to help. If I can go 3 or 4 days with NO smoking, and make it out alive, , hopefully I can kick this thing for good. Gonna have to stop drinking coffee, let alone stay away from anyone I know who smokes. I know myself and can't be around it, otherwise I WILL want a cig. But all it takes for me is remembering my Dad, and the way he died, and how heart broken he left everyone who wanted so badly to have just a few more years with him My father died the same way, so I know what's ahead if I don't quit this year. I'm researching a place closeby where I live that has a support group for people who want to quit. Link to post Share on other sites
blind_otter Posted November 13, 2007 Share Posted November 13, 2007 Good for you. Baby steps, WWIU. Baby steps. Link to post Share on other sites
Author whichwayisup Posted November 13, 2007 Author Share Posted November 13, 2007 Thanks B_O. I swear I'll be taking it minute by minute if I have to. Link to post Share on other sites
Author whichwayisup Posted November 20, 2007 Author Share Posted November 20, 2007 From Friday afternoon to Sunday evening I only had 8 cigs! Main reason what kept me NOT smoking was we had my nieces all weekend and I don't smoke around them. I would wait until they were in bed...Then go outside and sneak one in. Tomorrow I will go buy the nicorette gum and get things started. I plan on cutting down more each week and also looked into that quitting smoking support group that's closeby where I live. Gonna be a beyotch to quit, probably gonna become a real beyotch too , but as my H told me during dinner earlier tonight, atleast the outcome is ME being healthier and not smoking. Baby steps is the way to go. PS anyone ever been hypnotized before? Just wondering if that is an option for me as well. That and the book recommendation. Link to post Share on other sites
Lovegod Posted November 21, 2007 Share Posted November 21, 2007 Tomorrow I will go buy the nicorette gum and get things started. Tried that. Didn't work. I plan on cutting down more each week Tried that. Didn't work. Baby steps is the way to go. Tried that. Didn't work. That and the book recommendation. Tried that. Been smoke free for almost two years ...again, go get the book. Spend your nicorette money on the book. Link to post Share on other sites
JamesM Posted November 21, 2007 Share Posted November 21, 2007 I don't know if this will help, but smoking doesn't fit the image I have of you. I have seen your picture (briefly) that you posted, and I have read many of your posts with such great advice. I have developed a personality for you, and it does not allow that you be a smoker. So, there...you have an image and a reputation to uphold. Please quit smoking. Link to post Share on other sites
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