thelegend Posted October 30, 2007 Share Posted October 30, 2007 Hello all, I recently went through a situation a lot of us go through particularly guys. And I wanted to give some guys some insight on how to handle the situation. A lot of times guys don't know who to turn to or which way to go when trying to make up with their ex. So I wanted to share my wisdom to all that need it. First i'll give you a little bit about the situation. A young lady (21) and I (27) where together for 10 months. I know that's not an eternity compared to most couples but it wasn't up to me to shorten it. Needless to say we quite fond of one another. Spent a lot of time together and shared a deep love. I was told often that although she's had a couple of bf. I was the only one she had ever fell in love with. We had ups and downs like any relationship and her immaturity at times was very nerve recking. A lot of times she just didn't know how to be a gf. I make no excuses for her nor myself we were 2 grown people and we made mistakes. At different times we cheated on each other early in the relationship. But for some reason we just couldn't seperate i know it sounds crazy but it was true. During one particular moment in my life she was the best woman a guy could ask for. I was in the hospital and she came to take care of me in the hospital and when i returned home. Our bond that had been seriously dented in the beginning began to strengthen and I began to think in long term. We talked about marriage and the whole 9 like most couples. And everything was looking as if we were going to actually make it. Then for some odd reason things took a turn for the worst. I guess it shouldn't be that odd considering her situation but all of a sudden she wanted to argue over the smallest things. The fights never became severe but she would say things caught my eye. Never the less one particular Friday matter of fact our last real date we had a great time and made the night beautiful if you catch my drift. That following Saturday we were supposed to spend time but it never came to pass and that Sunday we had a horrible fight over me not offering to buy her a cell phone. Silly huh. But getting to meat, by Wednesday she had said maybe we should break up. Of course i didn't want to comply. But unbeknownst to me there was another guy in the picture. And I tried to keep us together we even made love several times and i thought that was the answer when that was a mistake on my part. We officially broke up on my birthday. She didn't know i knew about the other guy but i found out through his girl that is cousins with my boy. So anyway her mother got involved she spoke me out and told me never to contact her again. I was devastated because i really loved her. But i let go. We did NC for a month and then i decided to write a simple letter. Again fellas a no no. NC is just that NC. Stay with it. But to my suprise she called the same day she got it. She left me a voicemail and then called me the next morning. Obviously dying to talk to me. I had suppressed my feelings about what had happened to me in the past and i talked to her and it felt funny. She was sad sounding and really had no life in her voice. Anyway we agreed to become friends and left it at that. I texted her a few days later and she was upset with the content of the text. I was asking her for advice on a female i was seeing. She obviously was not cool with it. I then called her 2 days later and she was more of her old self. Talking kind of freaky with me and just playing around. Again another no no. I then called her again the next day because i knew she still had feelings for me. She told me she still wore my promise ring on the same ring finger but not because of me but because she liked the jewerly (yeah right) and she also told me she misses me sometimes. Hearing these things did stir up old memories but again fellas it was just a game. Do not allow yourself to get caught up. So feeling the way i felt i poured my feelings out to her that night and to my suprise she really wanted to hear it. She even called me back that night to say she was thinking about me and to have a good night. By this time my heart was over joyed not thinking that duh she does have a bf. What the hell was i thinking. So the next day i poured some more feelings out and she responded to them. Saying she thinks about me a lot and she wants to see me. And that we needed to talk and she'd call me later. Guess what she never called. All weekend i got the same thing i'll call you tomorrow. I was dangling like a string in front of her. Finally furious I demanded she make a decision on who she wanted because it was obvious she had feelings for me but she didn't want to leave her bf. She said that's who she wanted and whom she was happy with but she still wanted to be my friend and that we could still talk. Some more bs as it's obvious she doesn't know what she wants. The moral to the long story is fellas an ex is an ex for a reason. I know it seems like you'll never love again but trust me you will. If you are in NC stay there and never look back. In the bible looking back caused people to turn into salt. And that's just want you'll be by trying to hold on salty. If the woman of your dreams that left you really loves you she would have stayed with you in the first place. And she would defintely come back if sh knew she messed up. Didn't want to make this long but i wanted to paint the picture so you can see that you have to look out for you. And leave the past in the past. Link to post Share on other sites
Scorpio13c Posted October 30, 2007 Share Posted October 30, 2007 Good post Legend, I hope you're doing o.k. Scorp Link to post Share on other sites
Author thelegend Posted October 30, 2007 Author Share Posted October 30, 2007 Hey thanks for reading. Yeah i'm great. I just want to help the brotherhood out because i've heard my story from different guys. So i wanted to help out Link to post Share on other sites
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