Should i ask her out?

[amazed]

Im still friends with my ex , although she has asked for space and doesnt like me texting her. We broke up over a month ago and still see each other most days in university and i drive her in. We're both 20 and were together for 2 years, i was her first boyfriend and she was my first serious girlfriend. Ive posted on here a few times before.

 

The other day she clearly saw that i was jealous when she was chatting to a guy on msn but she assured me they were just friends. I have seen her refer to the guy as 'cute' in a comment on her personal webspace, but this was around 3 weeks ago. I also think she lied to me about how she knows him, but i cant be sure.

 

The same day she saw me looking at her body when she stretched and she saw me, laughed and joked that i was a pervert. Then said i never looked at her that way when we were together, i said things change.

 

I have genuinely changed for the better, however im not sure if she sees this. The changes could only truely be seen in a relationship. I know that she would love me if we got back together.

 

I am meant to be going out with her in a few weeks, for drinks as friends, but this seems too distant just now. I am tempted to ask her a few questions, but im not sure how she would react. I want to ask her..

 

If shes seeing someone else.

If we took our past out the equation, would she find me attractive.

Would she come out on a date with me.

 

Obviously i hope the answers are no, yes and yes. But i cant be sure. She still wants space and seems to hate me texting her. I think she wants space because we're not together and this is the same reason she doesnt like me texting.

 

I love this girl and it would destroy me if shes found someone else. I dont know if i should wait or make a move now. I cant predict how she would react. Odds are on negatively.. but it would make me the happiest man in the world if she agreed to get back together again. This girl wanted to marry me not so long ago, so there has to be love for me somewhere.. more than just as a friend.

[amazed]

Nevermind, i blew that. I asked her if she would go out with me, she said not on a date.

 

I caved in. I told her how i felt. She told me she didnt love me. I still argued for a second chance, i told her she had no idea how i felt. She got angry, said all shes thought about is how i feel, and blocked me on msn. After a few text messages apologising, telling her i value her as a friend more than anybody and I was selfish. She allowed me again.

 

She said she didnt want to talk about us again. She just wants to be friends. I think ive blew any hope of us getting back together.

 

Dont do things my way. I wish i had given her space. I still love her so much and its killing me knowing she doesnt feel the same.

[Lee725]

Amazed, if she has allowed you back into her MSN and said that she just wants to be friends, it does not nessecarily mean that you have blown any chance that you had with her.

 

As hard as it will be for you, try to keep it as friends.

If you stand any chance of reconciling with her in the future you may want to keep the friends door open.

You might however have to prepare yourself for the situation that she might spend time with someone else.

 

She has asked for space, you can give it to her and be her friend or you can cut contact with her and not be her friend.

Either way will be hard on you, but if you push her she may block you out of her life completely.