GGRRRR... When long ago Ex's Strike...

[Lee725]

I need a big Vent.....

 

over 12 months ago i broke up with a guys i was with 3.5 years.

For the last 2yrs he lived with me in my Apt. We were both 29.

 

Long story short he treated me like a dog, starting smoking weed, told me he didnt love me (tried to take it back) Blah Blah Blah.

I kicked his sorry ass out... only finding out later he ran straight into the house and arms of a 37 year old woman who had 2 kids (one of them 18!!)... (no offence to Mums or kids) Later i found out He was seeing her before i kicked him out, hence the behaviour pattern before he went.

 

I dealt with it, all was good, moved on starting dating other people.. about 6 months ago i get a random call from him.. hi how are ya?

Started chatting.. "friend" kinda stuff.

 

I have had random calls on and off for the last few months, all good, cause i get a kick out of telling him about the new guys i have been dating. (bizzare i know), each call getting that little bit more personal from him ..... the alarm bells should have been ringing but were'nt.

 

Anyways, crux of the situation is now he has been ringing me with the "What went wrong with us" lines, "I miss you" lines.

 

i keep it to the point and say what i feel ....good/bad right/wrong, i have nothing to loose now with him.

 

Well this has now turned into the 11pm-2am bootie calls (have not slept with him since break up) but he TRIES so hard to meet up with me and he isnt hiding what he wants. (It is sick because he is still openly with the other woman)..

I say flat out no......

 

I have told him i want no further contact with him.

I just feel so Stupid because he says all the right things i wanted to hear so long ago and then when i least expect it he talks to me like i am a call girl he can have when ever he wants.... i think it is upsetting him that i wont meet up with him, it frustrates him that he cant have me.

 

GGGRRRRRR i should have known better to ever take a call from that B******D ... I consider myself fairly well educated and fairly "cluey", but when EX's from a long time ago strike it still hurts like a B***h, just when you thought you had put all that stuff behind you.

 

Anyone else going through this?

[Lyssa]

Oh yeah, hate when ex-es call up and act as if nothing happened. Like they didn't hurt you at all in the past etc.

 

Nothing like your situation happened to me but I have a guy friend who keeps calling me up and ask "when can we get it on??" - WTF is your problem? I have told him a lot of time that that isn't going to happen. Which part of "I have a BF" doesn't he f***ing understand?? I don't get some men. If you need to dip your di*k in a woman, go do it with someone else. Don't men have respect for their friendship with women??

 

I would just tell your ex off, if I were you. I cannot deal with those sort of people. I would cut him loose... totally out of my life!!

[Lee725]

I hear ya!.... and i have cut him loose, it really Sh*ts me though that after all this time, i am getting little hints of old emotions..... i dont want that Sh*it........been there done that!

 

If i had a male friend (not an EX) ringing me to get it on, i would meet up with him, smack him up the face and say ring me when you have respect for me!

(no would not do that really........ HATE violence, but the thought would be nice!)

 

Does your BF know what he is trying?

Gosh he would probably smack him up the face himself if he knew!

[Lyssa]

I hear ya!.... and i have cut him loose, it really Sh*ts me though that after all this time, i am getting little hints of old emotions..... i dont want that Sh*it........been there done that!

 

If i had a male friend (not an EX) ringing me to get it on, i would meet up with him, smack him up the face and say ring me when you have respect for me!

(no would not do that really........ HATE violence, but the thought would be nice!)

 

Does your BF know what he is trying?

Gosh he would probably smack him up the face himself if he knew!

 

Oh yes! I would love to do that too, smack him up! I would do it actually, if he as much as put his hand on my thighs, I would sock one on his face!

 

My BF does not know! I bet he would fly over and bash the guy up if I told him. I don't tell him stuff like that because I can handle it myself plus it would only make him even more pissed with my guy friends. I don't even think they are worth calling a friend, you know...