what do you think about this guy

[tamtamjoy]

Hi. Im 20 years old and in college. I have only had one boyfriend and he was very outgoing and made all the first moves, so Im pretty shy.

 

This guy friend Ive had, about 3 months ago him and his girlfriend broke up (they were together for a long time) and a couple weeks after that happened he started really flirting with me. One time when I was wearing a skirt my best friend caught him staring at me. He started always being around me at practice, always tapping me when he walked by and touched me alot. I remember one time I caught him staring at me from across the room.

Some of my friends noticed, my one friend who is close with him swore he must have liked me. He wasnt just pure flirting, he always asked me how I was and when I seemed sad he always noticed. One time, (i cant remember how we got to this, I think after he teased me too much) he actually said "You know I do care about you" Now, he is a very outgoing guy but he doesnt flirt with everyone. But after that, school got very hectic and I didnt see him alot and he seemed to back off anyway. I also started to pursue another guy, but it didnt work out because hes really shy too.

 

Anyway, Ive started seeing him more lately. When we went on a trip, he asked me to sign him up on the same bus as me. At his recital (he was playing with my best friend) he helped me look for her all over the buidling before he went on. He still always tells me I look nice all the time, but when I commented on that to him he just said "you're a nice dresser"

A couple nights ago, at a Halloween concert I was flirting with him because I was a papergirl and I chucked newspapers at him. I stood next to him during the concert and he def touched me alot (kept knocking off my hat, dancing close to me, one time he grabbed both my hands to salsa, which scared the crap out of me) and looked at me alot but I still dont know. My friend next to me said "Hes flirting alot with you." The next morning he was telling a story and wanted my opinion and he grabbed my arm the entire time while telling it.

 

Im not very experienced, so I cant tell if he is just messing with me or not. I have had alot of guys become interested in me this year (Im not trying to sound arrogant, its the truth. They all say its the "beautiful" and "crazy" thing put together) so I want to think he might like me.

 

On the other hand, he has ignored me too, if he does like me he doesnt always make it blatantly obvious. So im thinking if he does like me, it might be just a "thing" and not actually wanting a relationship with me.

[norajane]

Oh, yes, he's flirting with you. Flirt back, and invite him out sometime for coffee or something you'd like to do. Get to know him one on one, and find out what he's like when he's alone with you.