DarkShadowLegion Posted November 1, 2007 Share Posted November 1, 2007 Theres this Girl In my Band Class that i think likes me. The Other Day we were standing around, and she was standing right behind me, And she was talking to one of her friends and all of a sudden touched my ear, and then my shoulder. I Turned around and looked at her and she was smiling, and i smiled Back (i don't know why). Yesterday, I Was leaning against the lockers that have the instruments in them, because we are both percussionist and we were taking a test on the xylophone, once i got done walk over to the lockers and leaned on them, a minute later she walked over a leaned on them to, a few seconds later she leaned closer to me, when i think she knew i was behind her. She Constantly Looks at me during class, i have talked to her a couple of times. Where in High School and my school is big so i hardly see her. Shes in 1 Grade Higher Than me. Oh ,and about a week ago i was sitting down, and she looked at me when i was talking to someone, and she smiled at me and i smiled back. I really don't want to consider that she likes me because im not fully sure yet. And im kind of the Quite type around some girls that i think like me, if its a friend thats a girl i will talk alot but, with her i don't say much. Sometimes she will look at me and then quickly look somewhere else. And in the Past month iv been have a few dreams with her in them but i will post them on the forums that deal with dreams. Can Someone help me out with this one, im not sure what to think. Link to post Share on other sites
Pedigree Posted November 1, 2007 Share Posted November 1, 2007 I really don't want to consider that she likes me because im not fully sure yet Which is why you should make a move and find out for sure. Nothing worse than doing nothing and not finding out. if its a friend thats a girl i will talk alot but, with her i don't say much That's just like me. But at least you've got some signals from her to work off. I usually don't have any touching or leaning to work off so it's worst for me. I suggest you act as if you're talking to just any other person so you come out more natural. Link to post Share on other sites
Author DarkShadowLegion Posted November 1, 2007 Author Share Posted November 1, 2007 what can i do to get to know her better, so i can work up to that. I Can't Think straight because of the dream i had last night with her in it and im wondering is that a sign. Link to post Share on other sites
norajane Posted November 1, 2007 Share Posted November 1, 2007 "and one time, in band camp..." Anyone else get flashbacks of American Pie? Dude, talk to the girl! Keep smiling and making eye contact and then take the next step and say hello, how was your weekend? Or, what are you doing after class? Or, talk about your xylophone test. Or, ask her if she's ever seen American Pie... Point being, nothing is going to happen if you don't talk to her. You dream is only sign that you are thinking about her during the day...your unconscious is processing it at night and coming out as a dream. Link to post Share on other sites
Author DarkShadowLegion Posted November 2, 2007 Author Share Posted November 2, 2007 Ok, i hear you. And i Talk to her its just not a daily bases. I Guess i have to work pass my nervousness. Just Not Sure How. And Thanks about tell me about the dream thing. Because For Some Reason somethings that take place like in a real situation and not a fantasy one, will always come true and this one might happen Link to post Share on other sites
Author DarkShadowLegion Posted November 2, 2007 Author Share Posted November 2, 2007 im still deciding what im going to say tomorrow i hope i do say something if not talk look for more signs. Link to post Share on other sites
Citizen Erased Posted November 2, 2007 Share Posted November 2, 2007 Aww I miss High School... the anxiety of having a crush on a person you barely even know... those butterflies in your stomach when you both look at each other at the same time and then quickly look away... *sighs* Link to post Share on other sites
Author DarkShadowLegion Posted November 2, 2007 Author Share Posted November 2, 2007 Thats how i fill when im near her, and i can't get here out of my head, like i said i talked to her at marching band practice the first day i went and we were talking, smiling and laughing. And the thing is i don't have to make friends by talking and can be my quite not talking much, self and i can meet new people, i guess thats how we started talking that day. Link to post Share on other sites
Author DarkShadowLegion Posted November 2, 2007 Author Share Posted November 2, 2007 Ok, today i failed. We were in a pep rally, and i keep saying to my self i was going to talk to her when it was over, i was walking right behind her in the hallway , and i knew what i was going to say, and i punked out. I Hate when i do that. I Need the courage to talk to her Monday but i don't think i can build up enough, any pointers? Link to post Share on other sites
BlueEyedSarah Posted November 2, 2007 Share Posted November 2, 2007 Sounds like she wants to make out with you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author DarkShadowLegion Posted November 2, 2007 Author Share Posted November 2, 2007 anyone know what i should do? Im so pissed off at myself. Can Someone help me out im out, im not sure what to think anymore. Link to post Share on other sites
Trimmer Posted November 2, 2007 Share Posted November 2, 2007 Ok, today i failed. We were in a pep rally, and i keep saying to my self i was going to talk to her when it was over, i was walking right behind her in the hallway , and i knew what i was going to say, and i punked out. I Hate when i do that. I Need the courage to talk to her Monday but i don't think i can build up enough, any pointers? First of all, don't tell yourself that you "failed." It will only increase your tension, and you didn't fail, you just put it off until another time. The more you can relax, the more you will be in control of yourself, and the more comfortable you will feel. By all indications, she feels positively towards you; she seem to be taking positive actions to look at you, smile at you, be near you sometimes... Sometimes the thing that makes a guy nervous is that he builds up a girl to be some big obstacle to be overcome, a fear to be conquered, or a judge that will pass judgement on him. Don't think that - she's just another kid you age, who is probably just as uncertain about things as you are. Consider this: she may be shy about making any more significant move until she gets some positive feedback from you. Smiling and making eye contact back (as it sounds like you have done) are great starts, and it sounds like she is still reaching out to you, yes? Realize that she will probably like it if you talk to her, because it will let her know that you are "getting" her. It's like you are each accepting the other's invitation to break the ice. Don't think of her as some giant thing that will pass judgment on you. Relax - she's a kid like you, with a nice smile, who would probably like to get to know you better. Here's one possible opening... tell her, in a relaxed way, with a little smile on your face: "Hey, you know it distracts me when you smile at me in class..." (Your words tell her, "I notice you noticing me", and your smile tells her "it's OK".) She may answer in a number of ways: Her: "Oh, I'm sorry..." to which you can say something like "Oh, don't be sorry, I like it..." Her: "oh... why?" (in other words, why does it distract you...) to which you could say "Because I'm thinking about why you're smiling..." which then sends it back over to her... Her: "Yes, I know..." in which case you now know she is totally flirting with you, and you can then smile back and say almost anything from serious ("How about that xylophone test...") to more flirting, if you can pull it off. Watch her as she answers. If she seems confused (like a confused "why do I distract you") then just make sure she understands that you're kidding around and that you like it. On the other hand, if she's smiling and acting coy (like "yes, I know, tell me why I distract you...") then like I said, you'll know she's flirting, and you can take it anywhere from there, smile, like you get it, but then drop into a serious conversation, or you could continue flirting if you want, whatever... Aww I miss High School... the anxiety of having a crush on a person you barely even know... those butterflies in your stomach when you both look at each other at the same time and then quickly look away... *sighs* Oh yeah - I wish I had then the confidence I have now. I'm not so arrogant to think I would have been some kind of Cassanova, but I would have at least put myself out there and tried more than I did... DarkShadow: relax, take some breaths, stay calm, give it a shot. No one can guarantee you success, but there are definitely signs in your favor. Believe in yourself, talk to her... Like norajane said: nothing will happen if you don't try. Link to post Share on other sites
Author DarkShadowLegion Posted November 2, 2007 Author Share Posted November 2, 2007 K, i understand now. I Really don't want to think about it the whole weekend because when it comes time to talk to her ill be even more nervous. And another thing is that i don't like talking to some girls when there are alot of people around thats why when i was walking behind her in the hallway it was the perfect moment. Link to post Share on other sites
Author DarkShadowLegion Posted November 2, 2007 Author Share Posted November 2, 2007 Ill give a shot Monday, ill say Hi If i get a Chance in Class Link to post Share on other sites
Author DarkShadowLegion Posted November 3, 2007 Author Share Posted November 3, 2007 For Some Reason i can't get her out of my head. Link to post Share on other sites
Pedigree Posted November 3, 2007 Share Posted November 3, 2007 All the more reason not to "punk out" next time you see her. I suggest practicing what you're going to say to her when you meet her. Link to post Share on other sites
Author DarkShadowLegion Posted November 3, 2007 Author Share Posted November 3, 2007 Im still think what should i day. But i forgot to mention during the pep rally. I only saw her look at me once, and she was kind of ignoring me or something, I want to see what happens Monday Link to post Share on other sites
Author DarkShadowLegion Posted November 3, 2007 Author Share Posted November 3, 2007 Still Thinking Link to post Share on other sites
Author DarkShadowLegion Posted November 3, 2007 Author Share Posted November 3, 2007 I decided ill say, "Hey', or "Was sup", If i walk pass her in class or i see her in the hallway, which might not happen. So she won't suspect anything, Ill see what happens. Link to post Share on other sites
Author DarkShadowLegion Posted November 4, 2007 Author Share Posted November 4, 2007 anyone have any suggestions Link to post Share on other sites
Author DarkShadowLegion Posted November 4, 2007 Author Share Posted November 4, 2007 Somethings wrong i keep going back and saying to myself, im not going to say anything to her. But Tomorrows monday and im going to go ahead a talk to her, i think. Link to post Share on other sites
Author DarkShadowLegion Posted November 5, 2007 Author Share Posted November 5, 2007 I didn't talk to her today, but we did make eye contact once or twice. Ill see how tomorrow goes. Link to post Share on other sites
Author DarkShadowLegion Posted November 5, 2007 Author Share Posted November 5, 2007 Anyone got anymore advice i can use? Link to post Share on other sites
Author DarkShadowLegion Posted November 7, 2007 Author Share Posted November 7, 2007 I Didn't talk to her today but im trying to. She Kind Of ignored me today Link to post Share on other sites
Author DarkShadowLegion Posted November 8, 2007 Author Share Posted November 8, 2007 Shes not giving me anymore signs, so i think she doesn't like me, Thx For The Help Link to post Share on other sites
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