Jamie.Ashe Posted November 2, 2007 Share Posted November 2, 2007 The guy I like seems to talk to me a lot more when it's just me and him. But around our other friends he doesn't say much at all. Is this normal for a guy? I asked him at dinner (dinner with him plus all our other friends) if he wanted to hang out and watch a movie, and he just said, yeah, sure, and i asked about what time his class was over, and he told me, but we didn't say anything else about it. He didn't say anything about what time we'd watch it but I assumed he'd call me after his class because that's what he did last time. I mean, if he didn't want to hang out with me, he wouldn't have agreed to watch the movie, right? Is it normal for a guy to ignore the girl he likes when he is around his guy friends? Do guys give each other a hard time about flirting with other girls and stuff? I just need a guy's perspective on this, I don't know what to make of it. Link to post Share on other sites
Lunar Sonata Posted November 2, 2007 Share Posted November 2, 2007 Yeah my friends did that because they thought talking to a girl in front of the guys was so gay. Ahh, I miss those days. Link to post Share on other sites
Krytie TV Posted November 2, 2007 Share Posted November 2, 2007 No. A real man wouldn't act significantly different to a girl he was interested in if his friends were around. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
MR2Aaron Posted November 2, 2007 Share Posted November 2, 2007 I mean, if he didn't want to hang out with me, he wouldn't have agreed to watch the movie, right? Is it normal for a guy to ignore the girl he likes when he is around his guy friends? I think what you're seeing probably has more to do with other stimuli being present than any pattern of behaviour on this fellow's part. When I'm with my guy friends, we're usually doing guy things like cleaning carburetors, playing video games or scratching ourselves and talking about breasts. It's not that we're deliberately ignoring the women in our group, but merely that we're consumed with the task at hand, so we dismiss whatever it is they want from us as quickly as possible. I wouldn't read too much into it. Do guys give each other a hard time about flirting with other girls and stuff? I just need a guy's perspective on this, I don't know what to make of it. My experience has been that the answer to this is generally "no" unless it's a situation where the guy is too drunk to realize he's hitting on a woman who is obviously sub-par. That usually earns you a well deserved ribbing. Link to post Share on other sites
peace_pipe Posted November 2, 2007 Share Posted November 2, 2007 Do guys give each other a hard time about flirting with other girls and stuff? Not if the girl is smokin'. Just the way it is... Link to post Share on other sites
Poboy Posted November 2, 2007 Share Posted November 2, 2007 The guy I like seems to talk to me a lot more when it's just me and him. But around our other friends he doesn't say much at all. Is this normal for a guy? I asked him at dinner (dinner with him plus all our other friends) if he wanted to hang out and watch a movie, and he just said, yeah, sure, and i asked about what time his class was over, and he told me, but we didn't say anything else about it. He didn't say anything about what time we'd watch it but I assumed he'd call me after his class because that's what he did last time. I mean, if he didn't want to hang out with me, he wouldn't have agreed to watch the movie, right? Is it normal for a guy to ignore the girl he likes when he is around his guy friends? Do guys give each other a hard time about flirting with other girls and stuff? I just need a guy's perspective on this, I don't know what to make of it. there is good chance he likes you Link to post Share on other sites
Sean0775 Posted November 3, 2007 Share Posted November 3, 2007 Do guys give each other a hard time about flirting with other girls and stuff? I just need a guy's perspective on this, I don't know what to make of it. Flirting? No, not at all. If a buddy has his girlfriend with him when it's supposed to be just "The Guys", I usually find myself telling them to get a room at least once over the course of a night. If I want to watch that, I have TV and Youtube. Link to post Share on other sites
tmarie55 Posted November 3, 2007 Share Posted November 3, 2007 At that age, I'm assuming college? Yeah he will act weird trying to be macho around his friends...and I assume you haven't been dating long enough where it is assumed you will be hanging out later. Don't sweat it. The real question is did he end up calling you after class and getting together. If not...prepare to get over it and move on. Link to post Share on other sites
Timberlane Posted November 3, 2007 Share Posted November 3, 2007 Well, when you are in a group people tend to talk more to the people that are putting themselves out there in the conversation. I had dinner with some other people and a girl I absolutely adore a while back in a group and really, we didn't talk directly to each other that much. She was seated across the table and to her right was a friend that had a lot to say and he pretty much did most of the talking. I interjected here and there, but you could hardly say I was giving the girl a lot of attention. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Jamie.Ashe Posted November 7, 2007 Author Share Posted November 7, 2007 So I haven't been on here in a week and decided I ought to update on some of my previous posts! He did end up calling me after he got back from his class. It was just us watching the movie because our other friends were busy/needed sleep. Nothing happened between me and the guy other than that we watched the movie and talked about it afterwards and talked about some other general things before we called it a night. While we were still watching the movie, near the end of the movie, one of our friends came to the room and knocked and came in to say bye since he would be gone for the weekend. It was weird that he came to the room to say bye in person, though, because he didn't want to watch the movie because he needed sleep since he was getting up early the next day, so he could've watched the movie with us since he was obviously still up two hours later... A girl friend told me that saying bye was a good excuse to come to the room and "check" on us. She said that maybe my crush likes me, and our other friend knows, so he wanted to come to the room and check on us or whatever. I'm not sure if I believe that, it was just a friend's theory. It's just that my crush still never acts like he likes me, never makes any extra effort to spend time with me or talk to me. Is it SUPPOSED to be obvious when a guy likes me, or does a guy sometimes just hide his feelings completely until the girl makes a move? I've had another friend suggest that it's possible he likes me, but he isn't doing anything about it because he doesn't know if I like him or not. How can I make it obvious that I like him when it's so difficult to in a group? I was thinking about suggesting me and a him hang out again and watch a movie, but that really is something that just friends can do. Plus it's really difficult to get any one on one conversation going. I wish I could find out what he thinks of me, but I don't want to ask our mutual guy friends because then my guy friends will know that I like him! I am still at a loss for what to do. I am trying to wait until a good moment to talk to him about movies or something and ask if he wants to watch another one. Could somebody help me through this, though? What should I do now? Link to post Share on other sites
Phateless Posted November 7, 2007 Share Posted November 7, 2007 Confidence is sexy. Don't worry so much about what he is thinking and just enjoy talking to him. Make eye contact, laugh at his jokes, touch him occasionally, etc... He's probably just shy. Invite him out to something fun to break the tension. If he's shy, the pressure of a "date" might make it hard for him to make a move, even if he wants to! Something like bowling is a good idea because there's a fun distraction, you guys can talk smack, there's movement so you have plenty of opportunities to touch or tickle or tease him, and if you want to be bold, you can even go sit on his lap. He'll get the point... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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