Im breaking down does he still love me?

[minaforsaken]

I have been married a year now, im 19 my husband is 24.. we just had our first child 6 weeks ago and since then there’s been this weird feeling, im still 30lbs heaver then i was before having my child... and i truly wanted to know if i was still attractive to him... to find out im not... we still have "sex" but he doesnt do much foreplay with me and i feel it is because he does like the way my body looks... normal i have on a long t-shirt in which i normal sleep in and he doesnt even take it off me during sex... i think also it is because of my body. which now i dont mind him not taking it off because he told me my new weight has made me unattractive to him and I don’t even want to take my clothes off…. I dont even like looking at my own body now... my heart feels broken... I even said I would stop eating totally to lose the weight and he said he would help me not eat… just showing how much he really hates the way I look… not only that but me and him talked when we first got together and both of us decided to never watch or masturbate to porn unless the other person was watching it with us and a few days ago he was watching porn and masturbating it to a porn star he really likes and has for a few years... she is very pretty and i guess more his type ... she looks nothing like me... it has gotten so bad i cant even get undressed or dress in front of him because my feels are so hurt.... I think about it 24 7 and it keeps me from enjoying my days…

 

I would really like some advice… if anyone could give me some that would be great…

 

can you love someone and not find them attractive?...

Advice on anything I wrote is really needed

[jerbear]

He is using porn as the other woman to get away from life. Kid, SO, and getting away from life by using porn as a crutch.

 

he seems to be under alot of stress and realization that he is married and has a kid!

 

Some advice is to nip the porn thing in the butt and it seems that you two communicated about watching porn together. I wouldn't bash him over watching porn. Maybe next time, you just go to him, get naked, and do him.

 

The other concern is your weight, you feel it is a burden; well most women keep some weight. I would suggest working out and getting those endorphines running plus he'll realize hey I have a hot wife.

[WaterTiger]

First of all, congratulations on your new baby:bunny:

 

Secondly~ Go to the Doctor and tell him you're depressed, and need a good diet menu! (Don't let him put you on pills if you're breastfeeding)

 

Concentrate on losing the weight. Your husband still loves you, but the new baby is always taxing on a relationship.