mermaid33 Posted November 2, 2007 Share Posted November 2, 2007 NEW HERE! Ok I'm shy, introverted and find it hard to have a conversation with anyone i don't know to well (unless i'm drunk). i'm not all that confident at the moment either! Been a bit sick with flu and weight gain, doing better as of now tho. So here's the deal: At a company on contract till the end of this year (DEC).. a guy started a couple of months after me, I am extremely attracted to him, I don't know what it is about him. I can't talk to him around others as I get too embarrassed... I can't hold eye contact without going red and almost passing out! On the odd occasion we have found ourselves walking to work at the same time (I go extremely jelly like and gibberish comes out), done a little small talk but that seems to be it (he doesn't say much, seems kinda shy around me, doesn't ask questions, i'll ask questions but then i'll get a one word answer and silence!) No after work drinks (if we do he stays with his work mates, i stay with mine), he doesn't seem to stick around for long... I've had a few of my other work mates take interest in me. Asking me out, but i'm not interested. He knows about this, as one of the guys works in the same office box. He is leaving in 3 weeks as his contract is up... what do i do? how do i ask him out? I've done the stupid stalker thing and worked out his email, but using it seems lame, i would rather do it in person. If i can't muster up the courage in the next 3 weeks, i'll regret it! I'll feel stupid if he says no... but i guess it will only be for 3 weeks! Aghh it's driving me crazy! Link to post Share on other sites
monkey00 Posted November 2, 2007 Share Posted November 2, 2007 I can't talk to him around others as I get too embarrassed... I can't hold eye contact without going red and almost passing out! On the odd occasion we have found ourselves walking to work at the same time (I go extremely jelly like and gibberish comes out), done a little small talk but that seems to be it (he doesn't say much, seems kinda shy around me, doesn't ask questions, i'll ask questions but then i'll get a one word answer and silence!) No after work drinks (if we do he stays with his work mates, i stay with mine), he doesn't seem to stick around for long... How about asking open ended questions where it won't be 1 word reponses? It's good that you bump into him going to work, you can use that as a time to ask him to lunch or coffee. though if you're already on good terms with him, just subtly go by his desk and ask him if he wants to go for coffee/lunch. Or even afterwork ask him for coffee. But the big question is, is he single? Link to post Share on other sites
Lovegod Posted November 2, 2007 Share Posted November 2, 2007 Write him a note. Women can get away with writing notes, men can't. Also, men enjoy 5hit like that; it builds their self-esteem, so don't worry about what he thinks of you for writing a note. Link to post Share on other sites
Author mermaid33 Posted November 2, 2007 Author Share Posted November 2, 2007 Thanks guys! The only way to talk to him at work is via a note or pulling him outside. SO many people around and the guy he sits next to asked me out a couple of weeks ago (I'm not inot him and said no). If i do see him going to work in the next 3 weeks before he leaves and we are alone i will ask him. Thing is I have asked open ended questions... the ones where you kinda expect to get asked back the same one... me: "how was your weekend?" him: "Ok!" I'm not sure if he has a gf! We've had a open day at work (I work for an animation studio) and everyone was able to bring in family. partners etc. But no one came along for him. That was a month ago now. He's always straight out the door at lunch and walks in the same direction, he told me that he goes to a mates coffee lounge in town... I know the mate is male, but I'm not sure if it's cause he meets up with a GF or anything! Last week there was a girl waiting outside of work for him, he came out and they walked off, but there was no hugging, kissing, holding hands or touching. So as for this note thing, what should it say!!?? Does it have to be long or short, do i stick my phone number on it? Do i just give it to him at work or when he's runnig off somewhere at lunch? Does that then force him to approach me? How would he respond?! Link to post Share on other sites
JCD Posted November 4, 2007 Share Posted November 4, 2007 Just ask him out. Walk up to him and ask him if he would like to go on a date. Make sure you mention 'date' to let him know that this is about a romantic outing and not just two friends going out and then wondering about if there is something more to it than friendship. Link to post Share on other sites
Lovegod Posted November 5, 2007 Share Posted November 5, 2007 Just say something simple like "Hey xxx, How are you? Since work is always busy, I never really get a chance to chat with anybody. I think it would be cool if you got together for coffee so we could chat a bit more. Give me a call at xxx-xxxx. Hope to hear from you! Simple, to the point, and he's got your number. Link to post Share on other sites
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