coco_milkshake Posted November 2, 2007 Share Posted November 2, 2007 Im not sure if this is the right forum but I wasnt sure where else to place this. As most LSers know, I have been self-harming for over a year but have managed to restrain myself for the last 2 months now. I feel really low when I see my scars, especially when I am changing my clothes or in the shower. I am trying everything to not make them look so obvious. I am using Palmer's coco butter formula which smoothes scars and I am also using E45. I have always been self-consicous about my physical appearance and I feel anger at myself cos this is self-inflicted. My confidence has gone down hill lately. A part of me is happy I am single cos then I wouldnt have to show them to any guys. I prefer bring single as a result. But another part of me feels really sad. Ive even thought of putting foundation over it to try and make it less noticeable but that would look ridiculous on my thigh. :( Link to post Share on other sites
Lyssa Posted November 2, 2007 Share Posted November 2, 2007 It's good to know that you have restrained from hurting yourself for the past 2 months. Keep it up, Coco - I'm sure you can! As for the 'cover-up' - I have no advice nor solutions for that. I was going to suggest the Cocoa Butter - hehe - you're using it already so no point there! Hey, I am sure any guy that dates you wouldn't mind the scars cause they'll be busy looking at your face and I heard you have a nice bum-bum? So there you go!! *my poor attempt at making you feel better!!!* [[[Coco]]] What's great about you is that you have a good heart and any guy would fall for that. Link to post Share on other sites
Author coco_milkshake Posted November 2, 2007 Author Share Posted November 2, 2007 Hmmm...I wish I could get laser on that to remove the scars LOL. Ah well, they are a part of me and are a permanent tattoo of the bad times. Sometimes I look at them and come to realise I have come a long way from that. All I can hope for is that they will fade with time. Link to post Share on other sites
norajane Posted November 2, 2007 Share Posted November 2, 2007 I've seen some products at the drugstore that supposedly remove or minimize injury scars. I can't remember the names, but I've seen them on the shelves where the band-aids are. Link to post Share on other sites
quankanne Posted November 2, 2007 Share Posted November 2, 2007 tattoo ... it might be a tacky idea, but would you consider making them a thing of beauty by incorporating them into a small tattoo? one poster (different forum) said she had a white blemish on her hip that she absolutely hated, then came up with the idea to incorporate it into a tat of the the Pink Floyd prism … and says she doesn't see it as something ugly anymore! you might also check with a pharmacist or physician to see if there is a topical ointment that'll help reduce the scarring ... as for the other, well, you know my opinion: You're definitely a cutie-pie, kiddo :love: hugs, q Link to post Share on other sites
Author coco_milkshake Posted November 2, 2007 Author Share Posted November 2, 2007 I've seen some products at the drugstore that supposedly remove or minimize injury scars. I can't remember the names, but I've seen them on the shelves where the band-aids are. Oh? I might go to my local pharmacy and try and find that out. tattoo ... it might be a tacky idea, but would you consider making them a thing of beauty by incorporating them into a small tattoo? one poster (different forum) said she had a white blemish on her hip that she absolutely hated, then came up with the idea to incorporate it into a tat of the the Pink Floyd prism … and says she doesn't see it as something ugly anymore! you might also check with a pharmacist or physician to see if there is a topical ointment that'll help reduce the scarring ... as for the other, well, you know my opinion: You're definitely a cutie-pie, kiddo :love: hugs, q Tattoo..it would have to be a pretty big one!! I think it would look quite tacky TBH. As I said above..I will have a word with my local pharmacy. Thanks q. Link to post Share on other sites
Saxis Posted November 2, 2007 Share Posted November 2, 2007 My X had some rather large scars on her arms/shoulders from self-tattoos that her parents had surgically removed. She was always self-conscious because of them, and hated wearing formal dresses and tank-tops because they would show. Never bothered me a bit, and when she brought them up, I would sometimes kiss along her arms and shoulders and always reassure her that she was gorgeous. She seemed to become quite comfortable with them, at least with me. I don't think you have anything to worry about! Link to post Share on other sites
Author coco_milkshake Posted November 2, 2007 Author Share Posted November 2, 2007 Thanks Saxis..I hope my guy will be able to do that to me when I start to feel down about them. Link to post Share on other sites
Star Gazer Posted November 2, 2007 Share Posted November 2, 2007 Mederma - works wonders. There's also patches with the same product on it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author coco_milkshake Posted November 2, 2007 Author Share Posted November 2, 2007 Mederma - works wonders. There's also patches with the same product on it. I have never heard of that before...is it cream?? Patches??? Sorry Im a bit Link to post Share on other sites
Star Gazer Posted November 2, 2007 Share Posted November 2, 2007 I have never heard of that before...is it cream?? Patches??? Sorry Im a bit Umm, it comes in a tube, and it's like a clear gel that you rub on like twice a day. There are also patch-like things out there, kinda like a mamma jamma band-aid that have a similar gel stuff on them - like a silicone sheet - that help the scars even more because the stuff is on there 24/7. Sorry I'm not very articulate about it. http://www.mederma.com http://www.dermstore.com/product_Scar+FX+Silicone+Sheeting+-+1.5+x+3+in._11966.htm Link to post Share on other sites
norajane Posted November 2, 2007 Share Posted November 2, 2007 Mederma - works wonders. There's also patches with the same product on it. That's it! That's one of the products I saw in the band-aid section! Link to post Share on other sites
bigheartkindsoul Posted November 2, 2007 Share Posted November 2, 2007 Im not sure if this is the right forum but I wasnt sure where else to place this. As most LSers know, I have been self-harming for over a year but have managed to restrain myself for the last 2 months now. I feel really low when I see my scars, especially when I am changing my clothes or in the shower. I am trying everything to not make them look so obvious. I am using Palmer's coco butter formula which smoothes scars and I am also using E45. I have always been self-consicous about my physical appearance and I feel anger at myself cos this is self-inflicted. My confidence has gone down hill lately. A part of me is happy I am single cos then I wouldnt have to show them to any guys. I prefer bring single as a result. But another part of me feels really sad. Ive even thought of putting foundation over it to try and make it less noticeable but that would look ridiculous on my thigh. :( Hey hun have you thought about seeking the doctors advice, they might refer you to a speialist that might be able to perscribe something or get you to a skin clinic. Also might be able to refer to help with your self esteem. Scars of allsorts incl mental can be dealt with. It's great you have not been doing this for 2months, wow that shows a great amount of courage, strength and self belief. Personally not gone through this, but have been and still struggle with self destructivness in other forms so am impressed with 2months. Don't give yourself a hard time, everyone deals with problems and struggles in a different way. Also as well as docs there are here as you might know quite alot of plasters n things to help with scarring so perhaps a trip to boots tomorrow?? Keep up with that lovely smile of yours xxx Link to post Share on other sites
tanbark813 Posted November 2, 2007 Share Posted November 2, 2007 Scars are sexy. Link to post Share on other sites
Author coco_milkshake Posted November 2, 2007 Author Share Posted November 2, 2007 Scars are sexy. Lol mine arent believe me. Link to post Share on other sites
Cobra_X30 Posted November 2, 2007 Share Posted November 2, 2007 Lol mine arent believe me. Coco, How bad are the scars? Is it something microderm abrasion may be able to fix? Or a chemical peel? Ive seen both those pocedures remove facial scars. I work with lots of plastic surgeons, so I get exposed to most of the procedures to remove scars. Link to post Share on other sites
Author coco_milkshake Posted November 2, 2007 Author Share Posted November 2, 2007 They are not that severe but they are noticeable. When I self-harmed, I cut deep enough to draw the blood out but there were a few times that I cut deeper than I intended to and the blood dripped down my leg. I dont think I could afford the money for the procedure if it was possible. My family would find out for starters and that would create a lot of problems and I have plenty of that already. Link to post Share on other sites
Cobra_X30 Posted November 2, 2007 Share Posted November 2, 2007 They are not that severe but they are noticeable. When I self-harmed, I cut deep enough to draw the blood out but there were a few times that I cut deeper than I intended to and the blood dripped down my leg. I dont think I could afford the money for the procedure if it was possible. My family would find out for starters and that would create a lot of problems and I have plenty of that already. Well then, just know that you can get rid of them in the future! Till then, find a guy who loves you and doesnt see the scars. Thats what happens when a guy falls in love with you... all of you. Those scars cease to exist in his mind. Have you addressed the reason you were cutting? Link to post Share on other sites
Author coco_milkshake Posted November 2, 2007 Author Share Posted November 2, 2007 Thanks. I dont know if he exists Cobra. Sometimes I feel I am better off alone to avoid all those awkwardness and fears of rejection. Yup. I have addressed my reason for self-harm head on. My family and ex BF are the reason I started self-harming. Its more my family more than anything cos the ex has been out the picture since April last year but the shyt he did afterwards f*cked up my head. My family denied me counselling and I was suicidal (they dont know this) but cos I was too much of a coward to go ahead with that, I resorted to cutting and it became an addiction. It has stopped since I started getting counselling behind my family's back. Link to post Share on other sites
Cobra_X30 Posted November 2, 2007 Share Posted November 2, 2007 Thanks. I dont know if he exists Cobra. Sometimes I feel I am better off alone to avoid all those awkwardness and fears of rejection. Yup. I have addressed my reason for self-harm head on. My family and ex BF are the reason I started self-harming. Its more my family more than anything cos the ex has been out the picture since April last year but the shyt he did afterwards f*cked up my head. My family denied me counselling and I was suicidal (they dont know this) but cos I was too much of a coward to go ahead with that, I resorted to cutting and it became an addiction. It has stopped since I started getting counselling behind my family's back. I'm very glad to hear about that. That man does exist... as long as you continue to believe and hope, you have a chance that you will find him! Its when you stop hoping that you know you've lost. Fear of rejection fades with self acceptance. Your not perfect Coco... you never will be... your not supposed to be. Love your flaws too! Link to post Share on other sites
Author coco_milkshake Posted November 2, 2007 Author Share Posted November 2, 2007 Thanks Cobra. You have really cheered me up. I hope I do find that guy one day. He seems to have found a very good hiding place at the moment. *gives massive hug to Cobra for being a sweetie* Link to post Share on other sites
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