Did your ex ever come back bc they realized that they made a mistake?

[Heartbrokenprincess]

I just wanted some stories of personal testimony, both good and bad. (Mostly good though, lol.)

 

What were your ex's reasons for leaving in the first place? How long were the two of you apart? Was there any contact, or no contact at all? What made them realize that they made a mistake? Did they really change for the better, or was the "reunion" short-lived?

 

***I am not, by any means, waiting around in hopes of my ex coming back. (I would love it if he would), but I am trying to move on with my life one day at a time. (You can read the story of out break-up in a previous post). I just really want to know what others have been through. Thank you in advance for your feedback....

[Lyssa]

My ex left me because of a misunderstanding with his mother and at the same time she changed her perception of me due to a third party. X and I were together for almost 3 years and we have talked about getting married etc. After he broke up with me, I fought hard with myself not to contact him but whenever I was online, he would PM me if he was online too. The usual "how are you".. HTF do you think I'm doing, you a$$wi*e! LOL.

 

After that I told him I can't have any contact with him as it hurt me too much so we went NC for about 4 - 6 months and he finally called me. Cried and told me how he couldn't live without me etc. He said he should have stood up to his mother yada yada yada. It was a little too late then. I moved on. Went out on dates with other guys. I was enjoying my single life. I would think he has changed for the better. He isn't a mama's boy anymore. He let his mother dictate his every move, let his mother have a say about his girlfriend etc... but I noticed he no longer let his mother do that. Oh I know because we are pretty good friends now.

[ninjaturtles]

What were your ex's reasons for leaving in the first place? How long were the two of you apart? Was there any contact, or no contact at all? What made them realize that they made a mistake? Did they really change for the better, or was the "reunion" short-lived?

 

 

Erm, Iv had 2 exes come back...and there was this other 3rd guy i was seeing, not actually boyf/girl but we were seeing eachother for about 8months and he came back later as well.

 

Ok, the 1st BOYF, i guess he just got tired or whatever...i mean we had the normal relationship, a few arguments here and there...he had an eye for other women which made me very paranoid etc,i i was jjealous,..but so was he... he was my 1st,etc, we were very close.He sometimes partially cheated emotionally, and maybe even physically!maybe....but we loved eachother etc...

 

We were together for 2 years...I moved and he started acting weird, wouldnt call me, sometimes he wouldnt take my calls..he started seeing other people as well. I remember once i calld him and he gave the phone to some woman to answer..(I almost died). He actually became mean to me etc...I got the point...tried to move on but was extremely depressed..thot i would never get over it....I was in a state.

He then moved countries and didnt even tell me!. So the situation i was in , was this- a man i loved, totally abandonned me, started messing around with other women..I thought after a while he would come back but he moved countries and didnt even tell me. For 6 goodmonths, he did not contact me...thoes months were hell!!!..But i had no choice but to move on, afterall i had no way of contacting him as he didnt even leave his number.

 

I got a phonecall 6 months later, and by that time i had so much hate for him. God knows i didnt belive it was him, when i picked up the phone. I thought this guy was gone for ever...like he had just vanished into thin air!!I never ever belived we would ever speak again, talkless of reuniting!

He wanted me back, he begged me so much, he told me he missed me, he loved me. no one else compares etc...I wonderd to myself..'how could you be so mean to me, simply cos you were seeing other people, how could you treat me this way'?etc. Anyway,i didnt get back with him cos he was in another country(which was not far away from me) but i did not love him the same way as i was talking to someone else. Till date, we still talk, he says he wants to marry bla bla... i guess a part of me will always love him but right not im going through a breakup soo.....my mind is not really on him.(if you understand what i mean)

 

The 2nd....this guy told me' i think our relationship was a mistake'. so ****in dregrading!! so upsetting..anyway we kept contact for a bit but it was too painful for me cos he didnt want me as a girlfriend...it was painful and i didnt give him the time to miss me.

So cut contact, for a few months, 3 or so...and then i think we saw eachother out by chance, he told me i looked nice etc. A month later, started trying to get back..wanted to see me etc. I actually went to his house for a weekend, (on his request) but i couldnt even kiss him..i had fallen for someonelse.lol. (altho this person i had fallen for wasnt even anything serious). Anyway that weekend wasnt great cos he got the message..i was not intersted anymore. He still tried to fix up other dates..i would agree then cancel plans 30mins before. I even got impatient when he tried to say stuff on the phone etc...i started rememebering what he put me through in the past...we are good friends now however..lol..i NEVER gotback with him cos i was over him when he came back..lets say, he came back after 6 months....about 3 months contact, then 3 montsh NC..

 

The final guy,...he just went off....and started trying to talk to me about 5 months later, the same guy who did not reply my 5 paged letter!!he ignored it.... wanted to talk about everything now !!....He said he was busy in the past, bla bla...didnt have time for any relationhips etc!. Anyway, i was over him cos i met my most recent ex!! arghhh..now im trying to get over this one...i HOPE he will come back...

 

The thing is, they come back when you;ve moved on..well in my experience...and when iv moved on i remember the hurtful way i was treated...this often prevents me from going back.

Now, i am trying to get over my most recent ex, ALONE.......i hope he comes back cos i miss him so much..but the way he treated me towards the end..showed me a DARKSIDE..HORRID side.....

 

sometimes they come back, sometimes they dont...

we can only move on with our lives.

[lexi29]

first guy that left and came back was my first love- many years ago- he broke up with me bcause he didn't trust me (his ex fiance had cheated on him) and he had all these issues. He went away for a week, came back and I was grounded (was in high school at the time) and he thought I was lying to him. He left me and came back two weeks later saying he missed me and his life was miserable without me. Obviously that relationship didn't work out.

 

next guy that broke my heart was my ex who left me a month ago. he left becasue he wanted to try things out with his first love (he is 30 now). He didn't tell me this though, just said he wanted to be single. I found out by accident. He dated his ex (first love) for 3 weeks and left her. Found out she wasn't what he expected. What I went thru after the break up was truly horrible- cried non stop, couldn't eat, sleep, missed him etc. We were in no contact (my idea) but he called me twice during this time. The day after the 2nd time he called me he broke up with his new girlfriend (first love) and a few days after that he wanted me back.

 

Right now we are in the talking stage. I'm still hurt by what he did but I also still love him and his son. I have no idea if we'll get back together or not- its all he talks about- but I"m taking my time to make the decision. I dont' know if I could ever have the same level of trust and strong feelings for him again knowing he left me to try out someone else. I mean I'm happy (in an evil kind of way) that he didn't enjoy his time with her and that the relationship only lasted 3 weeks before he couldn't stand her (as opposed to dating me over 3 years) but I'm just not sure I can do this again. Thought my life would be perfect if my ex came back to me (never expected him to) but its not- just more confusing now.

[bigheartkindsoul]

I will come back to you on this in more detail.

 

Ex left 4months ago, I had just had surgery and was suffering alot, crying in pain and had little use of my legs for a few days. He left because of this to my knowledge.

 

I have not heard from him since, nor do I want to as for me with a SO one whom wanted to get married (so he profressed anyway) in marriage vows its for better or worse, sickness and health and all that jazz. To walk away when someone had this wrong with them, shows he was not the right committed man he kept saying he was.

[jerbear]

I have gotten back to ex's and even got calls out of the blue from "ex's". My ex's are those that I have liked as in said the ILU or offered a ring.

 

One called out of the blue after 5+ years and wanted to "talk." I said no and just said lets keep the status quo. I realized she was a mistake on my part and I've since learned my lesson.

 

For a guy to offer a ring and everything he owned, that is kinda scary. But hey I did it and survived to tell about it, for now...

[Toolate]

Its so true they come back when you have moved on. I couldnt handle the calls/text from her not pertaning to the relationship. I cut all contact out of necessity and bought a motorcycle to keep from going insane, 2 weeks later she finally admit all the attempts to contact me where to try to talk about things but she was scared i would turn her down.

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I met mine far away from home when i was on student exchange, we were together for a year and done long distance for another we were enganed all of a few months when, She broke up with me recently because:

 

1. she felt there was more to experiance

2. She felt she wasnt able to be her self<---- can any one tell me what that means

 

Will she come back i dont know, she had e mialed me this week to say she has found some one else, but still wants me around. So i would say no shes never coming back.

 

Too much water under the bridge i wouldnt go back to being treated badly no mater how much i love her and i do love her.