tontitadeamor Posted November 2, 2007 Share Posted November 2, 2007 I am into this LDR too and I already am engaged (next Feb will be our first engagement anniversary). I have so far almost 2 years into this relationship [ I met my now fiance on Nov05 and we became friends before deciding going any further - and so far it had worked pretty good]. I just had seen him so far only 3 times [sept 06 first time we met, Feb 14th our engagement day and this sept too] Our relationship, i can describe it as growing up every day more and becoming more mature. As long as I don't have visa, My family traveled to the USA this year and has met his parents and part of his family. my mom told me so many good things about them as they told me about my family too. Gotta mention that I have very good communication with this family too. but the thing is that sometimes.. our communication as a couple [me and my fiance] someway is hard, meaning that sometimes hes very busy at work and we don't talk for about a week or couple days. It's not something that gets me worry like getting an overwhelming feeling [like if he would be cheating on me or something] cuz i really trust him alot. but sometimes i get sad bc i would like to be with him and share with him and his family [whom are great to me]. I already feel like they are part of me [like i care about them]. My fiance says that he loves me and he mentions alot he loves the fact i am going to be his wife and he keeps telling me about [when i have some trouble here] to do not get worry cuz in the meantime, I will not be living here anymore nor we wont be apart too. but i get confused sometimes cuz he doesn't like talking to much about plans for the our wedding but he only mentions hes working so hard to save up money to have a great wedding. also he mentions about the place we are going to live when I go there. but again, It gets me sad that we don't talk too often.. what can I do? __________________ Link to post Share on other sites
catrocks Posted November 3, 2007 Share Posted November 3, 2007 Have you guys set a date for your wedding? If you have an end point to look forward to (even if it's a vague end point) then it becomes a lot easier in some ways. In an LDR it's inevitable that things will get in the way of talking as often as you'd like. It's more annoying when you're engaged because (this is how I felt) once you've decided you want to get married and spend the rest of your lives together, you don't want to have to wait a year before you can actually move to be with him. I think it's even more frustrating in that way. But all you can do is wait, and keep remembering that soon you'll be together and the LDR part of the relationship will seem like it was a lifetime ago. Also, if he doesn't always want to talk about plans for the wedding, I wouldn't worry too much.... my husband was great during the planning of our wedding but at the end of the day, he would have rather eloped (as would I have, as we got closer to the wedding!). Planning is stressful, and some people just aren't as interested in the details as others. By the way, are you planning on entering the US on a fiancee visa? If you are and you haven't started the process yet, bear in mind that it took me about a year between when we first started the process and our wedding.... lots of frustrating waiting around time. Link to post Share on other sites
taiko Posted November 3, 2007 Share Posted November 3, 2007 As a general rule we show love by providing support. In his case talking about the house or apartment where you will live. Also we don't dream about our weddings, we go along with the storybook ceremony and party for your sake and to announce ourselves as a couple to the extended family and community. If there are no extended family or community ties expecting a big party he would be just as happy, happier since he won't have to pay for it, to step infront of a judge and move you in as the storybook scenes. Frankly they bore us. Link to post Share on other sites
Author tontitadeamor Posted November 4, 2007 Author Share Posted November 4, 2007 yes, we are planning my entrance to the US by fiance visa. but in our case, he sent the paperwork already on march and we were supposed to wait for the answer at least from the place where they let you know if they received the files. which is really frustrating bc we havent get NOTHING at all and we dont know what to do. Link to post Share on other sites
catrocks Posted November 5, 2007 Share Posted November 5, 2007 If I remember correctly, we sent the paperwork last November and got the response in March.... but apparently that was very quick and unusual. Do you have a case number - if so you can check on the status of your case on uscis.gov. If you think it's been longer than it should be, you can call a customer service line - info is here http://www.uscis.gov/portal/site/uscis/menuitem.5af9bb95919f35e66f614176543f6d1a/?vgnextoid=66f70531eaa9e010VgnVCM1000000ecd190aRCRD&vgnextchannel=a9243529fdb7e010VgnVCM1000000ecd190aRCRD I understand how frustrated you must be - I've been there and the whole process is one long frustration - but just have faith and keep talking about your frustrations... and just think, once you're here, it'll have been worth all the stress. Feel free to pm me if you want to vent about it! Link to post Share on other sites
rinibell-2003 Posted December 8, 2007 Share Posted December 8, 2007 Sounds like me my fiance is in Germany and we have had a LDR for a while we got engaged and It's hard to know that I am not with him when he is going through stuff he tells me he loves and can't wait for me to be his wife. But I also hate not deing able to talk to him because he works so hard but once he is done with his tour he is out of the army and we will have normal time together. Link to post Share on other sites
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