My Boyfriend has female friends...how do I get used to it?

[SmyrnaGirl]

He has lots and lots more friends than I do. I'm more private and only become comfortable with certain people. I've always been this way. I suppose I have more introverted than extroverted qualities, while he has more extroverted than introverted qualities.

 

All of my friends are female.....I don't truly have ANY male friends. He on the other hand, has many friends (men & women) that he talks to on a regular basis. When he talks or texts with the female friends, it's a little hard for me to understand.

 

Should I suggest meeting his female friends so that it won't feel so awkward?

[miss_T]

Have you had a discussion with him about this yet? If this is a feeling you can not get over, ask him if he can discuss it with you. If he is open with you about texting them and calling them then hopefully you do not have much to worry about.

 

When he introduces you to his friends do they include both the male and female friends? My recent ex was similar in that he had lots of female friends, but I was only ever introduced to his male friends and he would lie if going to visit his female friends or when he was texting or calling them because he didnt think I would like him doing it. So if he gives you a chance and is totally honest with you, I would trust him, his personality is a big part of why you fell for him and his friends are just a part of that.

[MerryMelodie]

I think as long as he isn't spending more time with his female friends then he is with you then I wouldn't worry too much. I have a couple male friends one I work with and only talk to at work and the other I hang out with maybe once every few months. My man gets very jealous though. I've always been kinda a tomboy and hung out with guys play video games,play guitar and smoke but my male friends were never more then friends but I understand why my man gets jealous so I really don't hang out with the guys anymore! Honestly I would probably be jealous if my man had female friends. Unless a guy is gay what would a guy have in common with your average woman? My man doesn't hang with girls though so I don't have to worry but he does go to the bar a lot a talks to women sometimes but I know he's not trying to get with anyone so I don't worry about it. He gets real jealous of my male friends though! I think you should meet all his friends and see how these other girls act towards your man. You'll be able to tell if there's more than friendship going on.

[squeak]

You should have met all of them. I'm not too keen on guys with female friends, odds are one or more of them will be catty or competitive/overstepping boundaries. They don't make for good relationship material. And the texting-that can be annoying. But I'm sure you know that already.

 

This is what a woman really thinks when meeting her new BF's female friends: "hmmm, maybe he will forget about her friendship after going out with me for awhile, I really don't want them around"

 

This is what one or more of his female friends are thinking: "Gee, I hope my friendship with him doesn't change....hmmm, I intend to make sure it doesn't!"

 

A bit of conflict already, yes?

[confuzedgurl]

mee too...i have the same problem and i dont know wat to do...my bf spents tons of time wit his female friends and his exes...i trust him ans all but i get jealous..yesterday, he called me and i heard lots of girls from the background and i was pretty jealous...i talked to some of my friends, they told me to dump him but he is my very first bf....btw..i dont have any male friends whereas he's friends are almost all girls