CBright7831 Posted May 16, 2003 Share Posted May 16, 2003 Okay, first let me say that I am a junior in highschool and this girl I know who is a Senior in high School (who is graduating tommorrow) has given me her number twice, once in the yearbook, and again yesterday. now I gave her my number yesterday also, but I feel I should call first. There's a problem, for some reason whenever I call somebody, who is in my age range, etc. I become scared and I don't know why. It dates back to a little kid when I first talked to friend over the phone and it didn't sound like my friend at all (voices sound different over the phone) and it was just wierd. And what I'm really worried about is, when I call her, I honestly don't know what to say or get a subject started. I was thinking about calling her later today, and asking her what graduation is tommorrow, but still I'm nervous, as this is my chance to finally get a life, but I don't want to blow it. She was single the last time I checked, and I've known her for a long time, but I got to know her really well this year because I used to be friends with her (now) ex-girlfriend. I'm 17 years old and have never has a girlfriend before,and I am attracted to this girl. Even if we didn't go out, maybe we could hang out, if that sounds wierd considering it's a boy and girl hanging out with each other, but still. If anybody could help me, I would be much appreciated. I apologize if I posted this in the wrong forum, but I'm new here. Link to post Share on other sites
luvmyboys Posted May 16, 2003 Share Posted May 16, 2003 Aw, don't feel so bad. Just about everyone goes through phone jitters at your age. When you call, all you have to do is first ask how she's doing, and then just some lightweight conversation, for example; what she's got going on for the weekend; how'd she do on a particular test at school....just anything that's real casual. Is there any school activity you could mention that's all the buzz around school? Or what does she think about the way a particular teacher teaches, etc. I'm sure she'll put you at ease and probably just start talking and asking you things too. Just try to relax and don't feel you're the only one who's without a girlfriend. My sixteen year old son is extremely shy as is my 21 year old. Some guys and girls just start hanging out sooner than the rest and it is just part of growing up. Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
LondonChick Posted May 18, 2003 Share Posted May 18, 2003 This girl is probably just as nervous as you are. I'm in my twenties and I get nervous when I'm going to phone a potential date. Try not to think of her as a future girlfriend just yet. See her as a friend. Talking about her graduation is a great start. Ask her about what she intends to do aftter graduation. Tell her stuff about yourself. Find out if you have similar interests and take it from there. She obviously likes you and hopefully she is single so arrange to meet. If she does say no, dont despair, if she finds you attractive it is likely there are other girls who like you too. GOOD LUCK! Link to post Share on other sites
HokeyReligions Posted May 18, 2003 Share Posted May 18, 2003 Just dial the phone and talk to her. Hi, it's [name] Hi I'm just calling to ask if you want to go see the Matrix with me? Sure I'd love it! The movie starts at [time] are you free then? No, can we make it later? or tomorrow? Sure, what's a good time for you? I'll pick you up and we can grab a bite to eat first. or Hi, it's [name] Hi I'm just calling to ask if you want to go see the Matrix with me? Oh, well, that's not really my type of movie Oh, well, yeah, I can understand that. What kind of movie would you like to see? script it out if you have to, but call her. it won't be so awkward once you actually start talking. Link to post Share on other sites
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