dead-dyke Posted January 17, 2009 Share Posted January 17, 2009 Be careful of putting up the "Mission Accomplished" banner just yet. There are issues that caused her to bolt in the first place. Four weeks is nothing. And she is pregnant. Good luck, but there are still issues that *may* creep up in the near future. I agree. I forget his SN, but he basically said, so long suckers! We're back together, and I'm outa here for good! Guess who was back less than 2 months later? I hope it is yours, and I wish you well. Link to post Share on other sites
Mountains10 Posted January 17, 2009 Share Posted January 17, 2009 I agree with you BHKS about getting on with things. I will not try and let this get me down too much. I think doing nothing in this situation only makes me feel more depressed and lonly.I don't know if I should give her an ultimatum or not to make up her mind in say 3 months or something as she may think I am trying to get rid of her. Macca, FORGET the ultimatums, take it from me. I tried 6 or 7 times with ultimatums, you won't get anywhere with them. Link to post Share on other sites
mendsley Posted January 20, 2009 Share Posted January 20, 2009 Don't try to reason with her, that won't get you anywhere. Usually once a woman hits that point where she doesn't feel *it* for you it's a done deal... sorry... start movin on right now. No point in waiting around for her to change her mind ... again ... The more you fear losing something or someone the more likely you are to lose them... life's funny that way. There are rare cases of people getting back together after separation but usually it doesn't work out. Just work on yourself for a while the rest will come in time and be prepared for anything without any expectations. VERY TRUE!!!! I saw a big difference when I was trying to prepare myself of letting her go. She would call and check on me and just drop a quick text saying she hopes I have a good day, but as soon as I start trying to take it a step further BAMM, back to square one. So I guess what I am saying is if you do not want to lose her, you have to except that you probably are gonna lose her, confusing I know. I am struggling hard with that idea but in order to make yourself happy again you have to focus on YOU, not her. If she wants you she knows where to find you, so don't force yourself, or her, to have what YOU want it should be an equal WANT! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Macca96 Posted January 30, 2009 Author Share Posted January 30, 2009 she came back after 4 wks, hey great for you:) BUT she pregnant, i'd be checking in to if it's yours. om could of told her to take a hike. but good luck. lol i know the baby is mine. She it sounds like some of you ppl are assuming she conceived while we were separated but thats not the case. We made babies on boxing day so she is around 5 weeks pregnant and we couldnt be happier. Link to post Share on other sites
imagine Posted January 30, 2009 Share Posted January 30, 2009 Thanks for the update. I hope you will continue to keep her happy! Good Luck! Link to post Share on other sites
Searching49 Posted January 31, 2009 Share Posted January 31, 2009 Macca, I'm glad things are going great for you now and you're back in happy land with your wife. There is a lot of bitterness on this site, but the sad thing is they are all usually right. USUALLY. The fact still remains that there was a major lapse in her feelings for you and her view of your future together. As great as things seem, talk to her about what happened, go to a marriage counselor. It sounds like you were also feeling guilty about some of your shortcomings in the marriage. Fix them now, but also remember that you shouldn't have to be superman to be with someone. You're having a child now. Congratulations. Just make sure the world you are bringing your child into is a happy one by addressing the issues in your marriage now or it may resurface with a small child to deal with also. Best of luck to you. Link to post Share on other sites
artchick88 Posted January 31, 2009 Share Posted January 31, 2009 If you love her and dont want to loose her you must learn why she isnt in love with you anymore and decide if these are things you are willing to change. Under no circumstance should you plan on temporary change to win her back. You must really take to heart what she says and during this 6 months break work on yourself and then sweep her off her feet. And you must search yourself too and realize and accept whether or not you really can make her happy in the future and vice verse. Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Macca96 Posted February 12, 2009 Author Share Posted February 12, 2009 Macca, I'm glad things are going great for you now and you're back in happy land with your wife. There is a lot of bitterness on this site, but the sad thing is they are all usually right. USUALLY. The fact still remains that there was a major lapse in her feelings for you and her view of your future together. As great as things seem, talk to her about what happened, go to a marriage counselor. It sounds like you were also feeling guilty about some of your shortcomings in the marriage. Fix them now, but also remember that you shouldn't have to be superman to be with someone. You're having a child now. Congratulations. Just make sure the world you are bringing your child into is a happy one by addressing the issues in your marriage now or it may resurface with a small child to deal with also. Best of luck to you. Thanx mate. Thats some good advice. I am not going to make out im someone else just to win her back. She likes me the way i am Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted February 12, 2009 Share Posted February 12, 2009 Why did you take her back? She is now pregnant so if she one day turns on you again which she probably will you can't just kick her to the curb and move on. You should have just let her go. Now you are stuck with her even when she walks away again. Link to post Share on other sites
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