blackdood Posted November 9, 2007 Share Posted November 9, 2007 Ive been going out with my girlfriend for about 9 months now and things are going pretty good but around our like 4 month of going same time we had our first sex(we were both virgins) my ex friend tried to get her to cheat with him it was to the point when they were about to have sex and she said she wasnt going to...She told me about it and i was mad but i eventually forgave her..Then over the summer she went on a cruise with her family and some arab guy kissed her even after she told the dude she had a boyfriend..again she told me about it and i forgave her..but ive been having trust issues i cant seem to get over them like i know that she does love me so i guess i should trust her but im just afriad to put myself out there...Well recently this guy in her class has been talking to her shes guyanese and hes trinidadian so they talk about south american and everything well she tells the guy about our sex life nothing bad just how many times we do it how good i am etc etc, then the guy in front of the class or something is going on and saying how sexy she is and she is always teasing him and she told me not to worry that she isnt attracted to this guy i mean am i just jealous? insecure etc? Help plz Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted November 9, 2007 Share Posted November 9, 2007 You should tell her to keep her mouth shut about sex. She shouldn't be telling guys in her class what you two do. That's disrespectful to you and also disrespectful to herself. Girls maybe. But not guys. When she does that guys are gonna take notice. Cause hearing a chick talk about sex IS sexy. I don't think you should be jealous though. These guys pay attention to her because they just want to get into her pants. Maybe you should let her know that if she wants to see other people that's cool with you as long as you can too. She'll probably stay but if she doesn't then after she's been used by a guy or two she'll probably come back to you. Link to post Share on other sites
Cobra_X30 Posted November 9, 2007 Share Posted November 9, 2007 Yes, This girl is snakey! I would be worried. Attention whores are bad girlfriends. I think you should just make her an FWB and go after a girl that's worth you time. Link to post Share on other sites
Author blackdood Posted November 9, 2007 Author Share Posted November 9, 2007 trust me this girl is worth my time she does have a bit of an attention problem but yeah i guess i should tell her to stop talking about it:laugh: and what is an fwb? Link to post Share on other sites
Cobra_X30 Posted November 9, 2007 Share Posted November 9, 2007 trust me this girl is worth my time she does have a bit of an attention problem but yeah i guess i should tell her to stop talking about it:laugh: and what is an fwb? Friend with benefits. Its where you keep the physical part of your relationship with her... and start dating other girls too! Link to post Share on other sites
Author blackdood Posted November 9, 2007 Author Share Posted November 9, 2007 no i cant do that she and i are very close we have a very very good idk how to say its i guess talking relationship its not just about sex.. Link to post Share on other sites
Cobra_X30 Posted November 9, 2007 Share Posted November 9, 2007 no i cant do that she and i are very close we have a very very good idk how to say its i guess talking relationship its not just about sex.. Your a very nice guy! She should realize how lucky she is! Actually, you should make her realize how lucky she is. I have to admit I am very risk adverse in these situations. I wouldnt want to see you get hurt. Either way it sounds like she is worth the risk, so Best of Luck! Link to post Share on other sites
Author blackdood Posted November 9, 2007 Author Share Posted November 9, 2007 Thanks honestly she knows am a nice guy and after thinking about it i am a little jealous she knows that i love her and i know she loves me her parents dont really approve for superficial reasons so she is putting alot out there to date me. God yes i treat her wonderful and she treats me just as good im just afraid of being hurt its a small possiblity but the more i try not to think about it the more i do. I love to surprise her with flowers that match her outfit:laugh: ahah oh and about the friends with benefits not only are we able to talk very closely but i respect her to much to ask her that. We can just be like hanging out and i will just enjoy making her laugh yes i will admit that i might be horny but i would be content with just making her laugh..well my question is what should i tell her cuz i told her i need to talk to her should i just tell her i feel threatened by this guy? saying she is sexy because that pisses me off if i see this guy i might break his jaw..? and what do you mean make her realize she knows i guess but it wouldnt hurt to remind her p.s she gets very very very jealous well not jealous possive omg if were walking at the mall she will notice which girls are looking at me and god forbid a girl even talk to me.. Link to post Share on other sites
Author blackdood Posted November 10, 2007 Author Share Posted November 10, 2007 well can i get anymore insight on this cobra? or anyone else? Link to post Share on other sites
Cobra_X30 Posted November 10, 2007 Share Posted November 10, 2007 well can i get anymore insight on this cobra? or anyone else? Well, If you walk away with only one thing from me, its this. Be nice, dont be a doormat. Dont be permissive and allow her to do whatever she wants. Guys dont just kiss a woman for no reason! She gave him some signals that made him think he had a greenlight. You need to let her know exactly how you feel about that kind of behavior, and exactly what you will do if it continues. The problem is not with her kissing other guys. It starts way before that! Link to post Share on other sites
JosieMcCoy Posted November 10, 2007 Share Posted November 10, 2007 She sounds like trouble to me! I have a feeling this girl flirts so bad when you are not around, that you are just convenient to her. Time to go shopping!!! For a new girl that is! Link to post Share on other sites
kayla56 Posted November 10, 2007 Share Posted November 10, 2007 I'd give her another chance and all, but you should really tell her, politely, to stop talking about your personal life. Also, if she happens to tell you about another incident with another guy, you might want to consider breaking up... She obviously can't handle a relationship... Link to post Share on other sites
Author blackdood Posted November 12, 2007 Author Share Posted November 12, 2007 Well i know she doesnt flirt when am around she is just a very bubbly person but i asked some of my friends and they said that she isnt about the attention whore thingy i told her that and she got a little offended lol and she said it wasnt just the guy she was talking to that it was also a bunch of other girls who were having a conversation..well about her talking to other guys i was like you can if you want to but am gonna talk to other girls because prior to this i didnt really talk to girls but i commented two of my friends who were girls and she like flipped out not on me but the girl she messaged her saying my bf just messaged you cuz he was trying to make me jealous and that she should go eat a hamburger ahah but she said sorry after and she said that she just gets jealous because shes afraid that if we dont see each other for a long time i will get attached to another girl..or something and that she would rather have me talk to only her which i dont mind cuz we are really close and she was like she isnt gonna talk to guys and etc etc..and am starting to think that maybe i overreacted a bit i mean i dont mind how much she is attached to me because i love her alot but is her jealously normal? Link to post Share on other sites
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