JustinCass01 Posted November 10, 2007 Share Posted November 10, 2007 i have been going out with her for about a year and i just found out an hour ago she was really drunk and had sex with a guy. she called me crying and i didnt know what to do. so i took her back. i dont think i could leave her. i love her way to much. i need help. i took 7 vicodin pills to get high and forget it happend. all that did was give me crazy convusions so i threw them up and i am fine now. i need so much help right now... Link to post Share on other sites
Ocean-Blue Posted November 10, 2007 Share Posted November 10, 2007 i have been going out with her for about a year and i just found out an hour ago she was really drunk and had sex with a guy. she called me crying and i didnt know what to do. so i took her back. i dont think i could leave her. i love her way to much. i need help. i took 7 vicodin pills to get high and forget it happend. all that did was give me crazy convusions so i threw them up and i am fine now. i need so much help right now... Are you OK? I am not a medical expert so I don't know what kind of damage those pills you took can do...nor do I know that it's all out of your system. I'd suggest you seek medical attention ASAP. Worry about everything else later! I'm sorry she cheated on you. How long ago did the cheating happen and when did she tell you? You may need some time to yourself to think about all of it (allow it to process) and then decide what to do. Continue to post on LS to gain some perspective. There are some great people on here. Link to post Share on other sites
Author JustinCass01 Posted November 10, 2007 Author Share Posted November 10, 2007 she just did it a couple hours ago. she called me like right after it happend. as far as the pills go i am fine i threw them all up Link to post Share on other sites
Ocean-Blue Posted November 10, 2007 Share Posted November 10, 2007 she just did it a couple hours ago. she called me like right after it happend. as far as the pills go i am fine i threw them all up OK, glad to hear the pills are out of your system. Just to be safe, here are some things you might consider doing to be on the safe side. - drink lots of water - try to throw up some more - keep drinking water - once you're done purging (and you'll probably feel gross), mix water with a bit of salt and more sugar (you're more likely to hold it down if it's mixed like this) As for the gf... If you really want to make it work with her, you should take some time to think about what she's told you. Is it realistic for you to ask yourself to forgive her so quickly? If the answer is yes, then you need to sit down with her and let it all out. Tell her exactly how you feel. Such things don't get better with time. The best you can hope for is open communication from this point forward. After that, you need to focus on rebuilding trust. Link to post Share on other sites
Author JustinCass01 Posted November 10, 2007 Author Share Posted November 10, 2007 ok thanks. i still feel hella bad... but i guess thats what i get for a LDr Link to post Share on other sites
Ocean-Blue Posted November 10, 2007 Share Posted November 10, 2007 ok thanks. i still feel hella bad... but i guess thats what i get for a LDr I'm in an LDR, so I can understand how difficult it can be. It must be all the more difficult for you to handle because she is not there to kiss and touch you. I'm sure that just makes this thing worse. Do you think you two could meet up perhaps? Link to post Share on other sites
Author JustinCass01 Posted November 10, 2007 Author Share Posted November 10, 2007 i am 16. i was suppose to be coming in a week but she got kicked out of cosmotology for being dumb so now i cant go.. then she cheats on me.. like i feel betrayed.. Link to post Share on other sites
Ocean-Blue Posted November 10, 2007 Share Posted November 10, 2007 i am 16. i was suppose to be coming in a week but she got kicked out of cosmotology for being dumb so now i cant go.. then she cheats on me.. like i feel betrayed.. Do you think you could talk to your parents or a school counselor to help sort out your feelings? Link to post Share on other sites
Author JustinCass01 Posted November 10, 2007 Author Share Posted November 10, 2007 i think i just need time.. i dont know tho.. i hate this feeling. Link to post Share on other sites
Ocean-Blue Posted November 10, 2007 Share Posted November 10, 2007 i think i just need time.. i dont know tho.. i hate this feeling. What you're feeling is normal. You were cheated on - you feel betrayed by someone you really cared for. It'll take time to really heal (and to forgive). It may help you to read some other posts here on LS (from people who've been cheated on and those who've cheated). Might provide you with some perspective and some copings tips. Link to post Share on other sites
Author JustinCass01 Posted November 10, 2007 Author Share Posted November 10, 2007 ya.. i tried to sleep and i couldnt. i spent all night crying. over some dumb mistake that she did. i hope she feels worse than i do. Link to post Share on other sites
dancinggal Posted November 11, 2007 Share Posted November 11, 2007 That sucks. It really does. You're a big person for taking her back. I think it would be really hard for me. As for the pills, so not a good idea. Yeah, talk it out with someone instead. Maybe a friend, just something. At the risk of sounding like a lame ad, don't do drugs. It won't make the problems go away. Make sure you have plenty of communication with her. Find out why she did it (I don't think drinking is a valid excuse, did she miss you? How can you fix it?) Keep us posted! Link to post Share on other sites
Ocean-Blue Posted November 11, 2007 Share Posted November 11, 2007 ya.. i tried to sleep and i couldnt. i spent all night crying. over some dumb mistake that she did. i hope she feels worse than i do. I hope you're feeling better today JC! Link to post Share on other sites
Author JustinCass01 Posted November 11, 2007 Author Share Posted November 11, 2007 she used to call me JC... Link to post Share on other sites
Ocean-Blue Posted November 11, 2007 Share Posted November 11, 2007 she used to call me JC... I take it then that you two have broken up? Or is it that things are a little weird now? Link to post Share on other sites
Author JustinCass01 Posted November 11, 2007 Author Share Posted November 11, 2007 i cant leave her. like i just cant do it.. i could tell she was sincere about it being a huge mistake so i am just trying to put it behind me Link to post Share on other sites
Ocean-Blue Posted November 11, 2007 Share Posted November 11, 2007 i cant leave her. like i just cant do it.. i could tell she was sincere about it being a huge mistake so i am just trying to put it behind me Justin, you need to realize that such things take time. Don't push yourself too much to "get over it". If you do, it may rear its ugly head at a latter time. Take the time to get angry, to cry, to be bitter... I know that sounds a bit silly, but I think it's healthy to feel whatever it is you are feeling...and THEN to try to move on. Talking to your gf about how you're feeling is a good idea. But also try to talk to your friends or family. They may provide you with insight and perspective. Link to post Share on other sites
Cobra_X30 Posted November 11, 2007 Share Posted November 11, 2007 i cant leave her. like i just cant do it.. i could tell she was sincere about it being a huge mistake so i am just trying to put it behind me Ocean is correct in this matter! Do not feel as though you must rush to get over this. It will affect you for a long time to come. You dont know her true level of sincerity, so pay no attention to her words. Watch closely her actions. What is she willing to do to keep you? Will she give up drinking and partying? Oh, try not to view this as a get laid free card later on down the road! Revenge of that sorts rarely feels good. Link to post Share on other sites
Author JustinCass01 Posted November 11, 2007 Author Share Posted November 11, 2007 no i know two wrongs do not make a right. Link to post Share on other sites
JosieMcCoy Posted November 11, 2007 Share Posted November 11, 2007 Oh Justin please take care!!! Being cheated on SUCKS! It's SOOO SELFISH!!! Be good! Link to post Share on other sites
Author JustinCass01 Posted November 11, 2007 Author Share Posted November 11, 2007 thanks. and worste of all i am grouned and i have to stay home and its a 3 day weekend so that is all i am thinking about. i am drowning my sorrow in alcohal. i have been drinking for 2 days straight..bymyself...alone.. Link to post Share on other sites
Jade 02 Posted November 16, 2007 Share Posted November 16, 2007 Thats not the easy way out of the problem right now hun,Don't Ya know there are plenty of fish in the sea,and ones that would worship you(just go find one) Your a good person don't throw your life away on booze,I promise is you do you will pay for that. Its bad ****. I also promise you will find another,we care here,dont drink yourself to death k,and try no to drink and drive k? Your a good kid with feelings woman like that;) Link to post Share on other sites
bish Posted November 16, 2007 Share Posted November 16, 2007 i have been going out with her for about a year and i just found out an hour ago she was really drunk and had sex with a guy. she called me crying and i didnt know what to do. so i took her back. i dont think i could leave her. i love her way to much. i need help. i took 7 vicodin pills to get high and forget it happend. all that did was give me crazy convusions so i threw them up and i am fine now. i need so much help right now... Dude, I know you think you love her and can't live without her, but you can. Sorry, but you need to dump her. She spread her legs for another guy. You took her back, which in my opinion is a big mistake. I've been right where you are at bro, and I'd have been so much better off in the past if I had the philosophy of cheat once and your gone. That is my philosophy now. She will cheat again...especially if she is into going out drinking and partying. Ya...blah blah blah...she got drunk. Sorry, no excuse. Only thing being drunk does is gives one the courage to do what they wanted to do sober, just didn't have the guts. I know you won't want to do it, but for your own sake, ditch her and find someone worthy. There are great women out there.....sorry to say, your gf isn't one of them. good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
bish Posted November 16, 2007 Share Posted November 16, 2007 i cant leave her. like i just cant do it.. i could tell she was sincere about it being a huge mistake so i am just trying to put it behind me then I'm afraid your doomed. She is going to walk all over you. And she WILL cheat again. Link to post Share on other sites
Author JustinCass01 Posted November 16, 2007 Author Share Posted November 16, 2007 Bish- Not everyone is the same person. i know statistics are numbers but people arnt numbers. if i can kick drug addiction she can kick her cheating problem. and no i am not letting her walk all over me. and on the side i am getting back together with my ex, so if i get back together with my ex i am kicking my girlfriend to the curb. its sounds sad, but she put me through too much and the only reason me and my ex broke up was cause i was in rehab. Link to post Share on other sites
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