How do I stop thinking about the hurt he has caused me?

[NEONINK]

Forgiveness is for you, not him. Forgive him, and you will be set free.

 

Remember the serenity prayer as well:

 

God grant me the serenity

to accept the things I cannot change;

courage to change the things I can;

and wisdom to know the difference.

 

And don't accept unacceptable behavior; you were right to stand up for yourself. That set a precedence of what you will and will not allow. Also remember your own self-worth.

[daisywindmill]

Neo, many thanks for those words.

 

The prayer is very correct; I can't change what happened.

 

I have forgiven him. I had not even thought of that until your post. So, when I see him on Thursday I shall tell him so.

 

However, I do have too much self respect to go through anything like that again, so should he decide to be stupid again it will be time to say goodbye.

 

But, I don't think he will.

 

(So why the feeling, deep down inside, of fear that it will happen again?) No, not because I don't trust him anymore, but a small feeling of insecurity.

 

Is this natural? 98% per cent of me is sure of him, but that little tiny 2% is lingering still.

[NEONINK]

Honey, if you are only 2% unsure, then you are doing good.

In today's global village, I wonder if anyone is 100% sure bet.

Enjoy him, and then if he screws up, leave him. You will survive.