isntitironic Posted November 10, 2007 Share Posted November 10, 2007 1.If I start to have sex with somebody is it none of my business what they do with other people sexually? 2.If I should have a falling out with thaa person, is it unreasonable for me to expect them not to be sexual with someone else for at least a couple weeks? Link to post Share on other sites
MatsumeKazuo Posted November 12, 2007 Share Posted November 12, 2007 1. If you enter a relationship where you want to be monogamous, then yes. But if you're just having sex with a person, then there is nothing you can say about what that person is doing sexually with other people. 2. Well, if it's a falling out of a monogamous relationship, then I would think that person had feelings for you and might wait. But every person is different and that if you're just coming out of that non-monogamous relationship, then I don't think that person would wait. Link to post Share on other sites
shadowofman Posted November 13, 2007 Share Posted November 13, 2007 1.If I start to have sex with somebody is it none of my business what they do with other people sexually? 1. If you enter a relationship where you want to be monogamous, then yes. But if you're just having sex with a person, then there is nothing you can say about what that person is doing sexually with other people. I agree, but I would not concider this to be jealousy. This is possessiveness and is inherent in monogamy. If you want a monogamous relationship, then you are wanting to possess and be possessed by someone. 2.If I should have a falling out with thaa person, is it unreasonable for me to expect them not to be sexual with someone else for at least a couple weeks? 2. Well, if it's a falling out of a monogamous relationship, then I would think that person had feelings for you and might wait. But every person is different and that if you're just coming out of that non-monogamous relationship, then I don't think that person would wait. Again, I agree. If possession is mutually established (a monogamous relationship) then you have some right to expect continued fidelity. But, we can assume that this is just a verbal agreement, and there is nothing wrong with anyone breaking the contract. Feeling may be hurt, but if this person does not uphold monogamy, you have to decide for yourself if you want to re-establish the relationship. Still, I believe that all of this is possessiveness, not jealousy. Jealousy is more like envy, a self-esteem issue. Link to post Share on other sites
MatsumeKazuo Posted November 13, 2007 Share Posted November 13, 2007 That was good. Link to post Share on other sites
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