Tomcat33 Posted November 16, 2007 Share Posted November 16, 2007 Someone who has hurt someone in the worst possible way in real life should be able to take well deserved criticism in a forum such as this. Of course because two wrongs make a right? We should all continue on our merry way of gouging one another's eyes out, afterall we do all live in a concrete jungle.... it's survival of the fittest n'est-ce pas? Link to post Share on other sites
Virgo1982 Posted November 16, 2007 Share Posted November 16, 2007 Awww thanks babe, :love:them are big shoes to fill but you know what they say about big shoes.....big heart! What were you thinking naughty girl? I speak my truth as I see it through my fun-house/3-D/X-ray glasses We all form our truths as we see it don't we? That's why whenver I read someone post the words "you are wrong" it makes me wonder according to whom or what really? You're welcome Virgo. I think we are all entitled to ask questions and to look for truths but it's a very different thing to antagonize something "perceived as an absolute truth" out of someone. "One man's garbage is another man's treasure" and all that....No? Yeah that's becuase the horse has to be beat to death to make absolutely sure it won't come back to life, much like they repeatedly kill off zombies in Night of The Zombies movies...you can never be too sure. "Braiiiiiinnsss.....we need braaaaaiiiinsss" :lmao::lmao::lmao::lmao::lmao::lmao::lmao::lmao::lmao::lmao::lmao::lmao::lmao::lmao: Link to post Share on other sites
Virgo1982 Posted November 16, 2007 Share Posted November 16, 2007 Someone who has hurt someone in the worst possible way in real life should be able to take well deserved criticism in a forum such as this. I'm sorry, I only appreciate/accept/take constructive criticism and since I said I've left the situation alone, what value does your criticism have to me? Nada. Furthermore, if you're such a big fan of deserved criticism, why don't you accept any? Link to post Share on other sites
Tomcat33 Posted November 16, 2007 Share Posted November 16, 2007 Furthermore, if you're such a big fan of deserved criticism, why don't you accept any? Because some people are in perpetual victim mode, the onis is on anyone but themselves to make them happy again. Some people don't want to help themselves and have 0 control of themselves and because they can't fix themselves, they try to "fix" others. Link to post Share on other sites
Virgo1982 Posted November 16, 2007 Share Posted November 16, 2007 Because some people are in perpetual victim mode, the onis is on anyone but themselves to make them happy again. Some people don't want to help themselves and have 0 control of themselves and because they can't fix themselves, they try to "fix" others. True, but it doesn't seem to be working... I guess misery loves company, but I can beat 'em. There's no need to join 'em;) Link to post Share on other sites
Tomcat33 Posted November 16, 2007 Share Posted November 16, 2007 True, but it doesn't seem to be working... I guess misery loves company, but I can beat 'em. There's no need to join 'em;) Of course it's not working we can't fix others we can only fix ourselves. Misery loves company but Tomcat loves a good party! Join me? :laugh: Link to post Share on other sites
bish Posted November 16, 2007 Share Posted November 16, 2007 I'm sorry, I only appreciate/accept/take constructive criticism and since I said I've left the situation alone, what value does your criticism have to me? Nada. It means nada to you because it is clear that you didn't regret cheating and learned nothing from it. Furthermore, if you're such a big fan of deserved criticism, why don't you accept any? such as? Link to post Share on other sites
bish Posted November 16, 2007 Share Posted November 16, 2007 Because some people are in perpetual victim mode, the onis is on anyone but themselves to make them happy again. Some people don't want to help themselves and have 0 control of themselves and because they can't fix themselves, they try to "fix" others. Whats to fix on my end? oh ya...kicked out a cheating wife. My fix has already been applied...now she can cry in her own beer with her live in abusive boyfriend. Link to post Share on other sites
Virgo1982 Posted November 16, 2007 Share Posted November 16, 2007 Whats to fix on my end? oh ya...kicked out a cheating wife. My fix has already been applied...now she can cry in her own beer with her live in abusive boyfriend. Right. So her abusive BF saved you from her. There's always something to appreciate. Link to post Share on other sites
White Flower Posted November 16, 2007 Share Posted November 16, 2007 Of course because two wrongs make a right? We should all continue on our merry way of gouging one another's eyes out, afterall we do all live in a concrete jungle.... it's survival of the fittest n'est-ce pas? C'est vraiment la verité. Bonne poste! Link to post Share on other sites
Virgo1982 Posted November 16, 2007 Share Posted November 16, 2007 It means nada to you because it is clear that you didn't regret cheating and learned nothing from it. such as? Your tendancy to see things in black and white for one. You are very negative and abrasive. Your "criticism" is useless-which you don't seem to get. I'm sorry I can't bring spend the rest of my days dwelling on an affair that's ended. Perhaps I should curl up in my bed, holding my knees to my chest, rocking back and forth, living through the past, trying to transfer my misery to other people. Oh, wait, that's your job... Link to post Share on other sites
Cobra_X30 Posted November 16, 2007 Share Posted November 16, 2007 C'est vraiment la verité. Bonne poste! ?Thats the truth, good post? Hmm... that is the best translation I can do, for those of us who speak Human. Link to post Share on other sites
Tomcat33 Posted November 16, 2007 Share Posted November 16, 2007 Whats to fix on my end? Uhm for starters your attitude. You asked... Link to post Share on other sites
Tomcat33 Posted November 16, 2007 Share Posted November 16, 2007 C'est vraiment la verité. Bonne poste! Je ne sais pas si c'est la verité, il est ma verité. Link to post Share on other sites
Cobra_X30 Posted November 16, 2007 Share Posted November 16, 2007 Je ne sais pas si c'est la verité, il est ma verité. Ughh... Stop making me translate this! ? I do not know if it is the truth, it is my truth. ? Link to post Share on other sites
bish Posted November 16, 2007 Share Posted November 16, 2007 Right. So her abusive BF saved you from her. There's always something to appreciate. Yup...you nailed it. And after a face to face confrontation with him when he tried to intimidate me when he called my phone once, I told him just how much of a cheat she is. And with his insecure ways, word has it that they are not getting along too well right now.....a dish served cold. Link to post Share on other sites
bish Posted November 16, 2007 Share Posted November 16, 2007 Your tendancy to see things in black and white for one. You are very negative and abrasive. Your "criticism" is useless-which you don't seem to get. I'm sorry I can't bring spend the rest of my days dwelling on an affair that's ended. Perhaps I should curl up in my bed, holding my knees to my chest, rocking back and forth, living through the past, trying to transfer my misery to other people. Oh, wait, that's your job... No head case hugging the knees here pal. I'll admit, my experiences have left me hardened sure....but that is helping me from being played a fool ever again. Its a great shield. Link to post Share on other sites
Tomcat33 Posted November 16, 2007 Share Posted November 16, 2007 Ughh... Stop making me translate this! ? I do not know if it is the truth, it is my truth. ? Awww you're so cute! we should have treats for the apt pupils Link to post Share on other sites
Tomcat33 Posted November 16, 2007 Share Posted November 16, 2007 No head case hugging the knees here pal. I'll admit, my experiences have left me hardened sure....but that is helping me from being played a fool ever again. Its a great shield. It's a foolish shield because a person who walks around predisposed to think that the world is out to get them will only end up creating a self fulfilled prophecy, and people will indeed be out to get them. Link to post Share on other sites
bish Posted November 16, 2007 Share Posted November 16, 2007 It's a foolish shield because a person who walks around predisposed to think that the world is out to get them will only end up creating a self fulfilled prophecy, and people will indeed be out to get them. Its not a shield that says everyone is out to get me...just being cautious...and part of that shield is living by the motto once a cheater always a cheater....one strike and they are out....simple as that. Link to post Share on other sites
Cobra_X30 Posted November 17, 2007 Share Posted November 17, 2007 It's a foolish shield because a person who walks around predisposed to think that the world is out to get them will only end up creating a self fulfilled prophecy, and people will indeed be out to get them. Please note that a true fool, is the person who allows himself to be fooled. Link to post Share on other sites
Virgo1982 Posted November 17, 2007 Share Posted November 17, 2007 No head case hugging the knees here pal. I'll admit, my experiences have left me hardened sure....but that is helping me from being played a fool ever again. Its a great shield. Lol, I didn't think you were, but my point is, you don't have to be so hard on everyone else. Don't you feel like you learned something from what happened to you? Now that you won't "take any crap" from anyone? All I'm saying is sometimes the worst situations can wake you up. Nothing more. Nothing less. However, your future relationships will never take off if you make everyone else pay for the mistakes of your ex. Link to post Share on other sites
Virgo1982 Posted November 17, 2007 Share Posted November 17, 2007 Please note that a true fool, is the person who allows himself to be fooled. Anyone who can't find themselves somewhere close to the middle is a fool. I think anyone who walks aroung letting people walk all over them is behaving like a fool. I think anyone who walks around barking at everyone because SOMEONE hurt them is behaving like a fool. Link to post Share on other sites
Tomcat33 Posted November 17, 2007 Share Posted November 17, 2007 Please note that a true fool, is the person who allows himself to be fooled. Well there is a big difference in allowing oneself to be fooled with walking around looking to be cheated. Trust is something that is earned yes, but to go around with this ultra shield like everyone is out to fool you, utlimately will bring you nothing but misery. And by the sounds of it you can tell who the miserable people are, they simply cannot hide it. A shield is nothing more than a big neon sign for fear. And fear is fine we all have it but when it stops you from enjoying life then it is time to revisit why you are so intent of not being fooled. The same hurt you are trying to avoid you are creating for yourself. Link to post Share on other sites
Tomcat33 Posted November 17, 2007 Share Posted November 17, 2007 Anyone who can't find themselves somewhere close to the middle is a fool. I think anyone who walks aroung letting people walk all over them is behaving like a fool. I think anyone who walks around barking at everyone because SOMEONE hurt them is behaving like a fool. Could not agree MORE. Let's face it we have all been fooled at one point of another in our lives, does that makes us fools or does that just make it the inevitability of what life is about? As long as you learn from your past expriences and heed caution then there is NO reason to walk around with a chip on your shoulder waiting to pull the gun out of the holster. Failure is just another way of reminding yourself that you are actually growing in life. As long as you don't fail in the same things time and time again failure will happen every step of the way, it is the plateau that gets us to the next level up. Link to post Share on other sites
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