deadmansfloat Posted November 11, 2007 Share Posted November 11, 2007 wow. after breaking up with me, my ex dates a new guy for 2 and a half months (plus 1 month of LD with him) and is already planning to move across the country with him. she started dating him ater 2 weeks of our break up (we dated for a year). i was certain it was a rebound but i guess not. just when i thought i was over the situation, i hear this and am back to ground zero. i've even been on NC or a month; it's like stating all over again Link to post Share on other sites
hopeforlove243 Posted November 11, 2007 Share Posted November 11, 2007 I feel your pain. my ex-bf started seeing other woman right after he asked for space in July, I am still heart broken. Hope we all can get over this someday. Link to post Share on other sites
Author deadmansfloat Posted November 11, 2007 Author Share Posted November 11, 2007 yeah - it was a big enough shock when i learned she was dating someone new - she kept it a secret from me for 2 months! now i hear shes moving with him to live together. how do people move on so fast and never look back? it seems inhuman(e) Link to post Share on other sites
Racquel Colette Posted November 11, 2007 Share Posted November 11, 2007 yeah - it was a big enough shock when i learned she was dating someone new - she kept it a secret from me for 2 months! now i hear shes moving with him to live together. how do people move on so fast and never look back? it seems inhuman(e) When she broke up with you, she probably had already become emotionally detached and had fallen out of love with you by that point. Also, since you broke up, it really isn't your business who she dates, so why would you expect her to tell you about it? It seems she broke up with you because you weren't the right guy for her, and she met someone else and she fell for him completely. Sometimes that's just what happens. She didn't do anything wrong unless you consider moving on with her life and not dwelling on the past as doing something wrong. Of course, as a dumpee you feel you are owed something but really you're not. Link to post Share on other sites
Author deadmansfloat Posted November 11, 2007 Author Share Posted November 11, 2007 wow. thanks raquel. but the funny thing is that she was literally packed to move across the country to live with me one week before our breakup. one week. also, as she later admitted, it wasnt clear that we were broken up when she started dating the other guy. we still contacted each other almost every day when she started with him. and nowhere did i say she 'did anything wrong.' although there is a lot more to the story that exceeds 'wrong.' anyway you look at it, however, it still hurts me. Link to post Share on other sites
FindingMyselfAgain Posted November 11, 2007 Share Posted November 11, 2007 That's crazy, but I have crazier: My gf/fiancee broke it off because she wanted to give the father of her child another try. It's been 13 years, during which he's gotten 5 felonies, "kicked crack" a million times, and wracked up a string of domestic violence charges against girlfriends, wives, and -- yes -- even his MOTHER. So she talks to him for 30 days after he gets out of jail (again). She's all like "He found Christ, he's different now!" and within one day of him coming to see his daughter, they're sleeping together. Three days later, they're engaged. Less than two weeks after that, he's moved in (from Florida to Georgia.) She is soooooo screwed and she has no clue. On my side? It was a lot easier letting go when I discovered she is stark staring insane. Link to post Share on other sites
FooledOnce Posted November 11, 2007 Share Posted November 11, 2007 I feel your pain. My ex-gf of 5.5 years started dating some dude 2 weeks after breaking up with me. Whether it's right or wrong has nothing to do with it. It still hurts to be replaced so quickly and easily, like you weren't anything special. Link to post Share on other sites
LakesideDream Posted November 11, 2007 Share Posted November 11, 2007 Don't you guys get it? Women generally already have a new penis lubing their vagina's by the time they break up with you. Not every time, more often than not though. I hear it, see it over and over. I've personally experiance it. Stop being suprised. Link to post Share on other sites
hopeforlove243 Posted November 12, 2007 Share Posted November 12, 2007 Well, my ex-bf started sleeping with other woman soon after he asked for space (he didn't even breaking up with me at that time), so, guys can do that too! Link to post Share on other sites
Author deadmansfloat Posted November 12, 2007 Author Share Posted November 12, 2007 finding out my Ex was daing somebody new was a big enough shock; but finding out she was getting an apartment with him after only 3 months of dating blew me away. it's good in these sense that i know we're completely done. i just can't believe shes moving so incredibly fast with him... i don't know whether to think she's forcing this new relationship to work or truly fell for him. but either way it isnt my business anymore Link to post Share on other sites
Newtotheblogthing Posted November 12, 2007 Share Posted November 12, 2007 I just found my ex bf who I have slept with a few times since he started dating his new gf of 3 months is planning on living with her when he gets back to our town. He had to leave after he got in a serious car accident and went home to his parents. What worse is that they had broken up a couple of weeks ago and he never told me they got back together. He continually dicks me around.. I am always here to take it. I actually IM'd her and found out. Yeah, I had some psycho moments on Friday... It hurts so much!! I couldn't believe he was planning to do this.. but I guess now, nothing surprises me. Link to post Share on other sites
bigheartkindsoul Posted November 12, 2007 Share Posted November 12, 2007 Thats a big blow deadmansfloat, I feel for you. I hate my ex, he prob has some new dolly bird on my arm and yes that would hurt but I try not too think about it. As much as I can I try to have fun myself, go out with friends, and be kind and selfish (not in a bad way) to myself. Perhaps if not already try making some great plans for yourself to have some fun over the coming weeks and take your mind off the above situ. ((((hugs)))) Link to post Share on other sites
Author deadmansfloat Posted November 13, 2007 Author Share Posted November 13, 2007 Newtotheblog - i definitely feel you. at first i thought my ex kept her new guy a secret because she wasnt sure if she'd come back yet. this type of thinking encourages false hope. the reason they keep it a secret is probably more due to cowardice. i'm not sure how i would act in their shoes, but i highly doubt i would keep my new partner a complete secret while stringing along the EX. it sucks! all i could think of was completely cutting her out of my life. she protested against this and tried contacting me - but what other choice do i have!!?? i've never been soooo decieved! so my advice is to get militant; amputate him completely. sometimes you'll feel the "phantom limb" of him, but eventually we'll come to terms with reality. bigheartkindsoul - thanks so much! it's crazy how i thought i was over her, and then i find out about her getting an apartment with him and get tossed back to square one. one thing i wish is that i don't hate her. i wish i was indifferent! that would be freedom. but yes, i still harbor a loooot of ill feelings towards the situation. this is why i have fanatical certainty that total severance of any communication between us is the way to go. the only way out is through! you're right Big Heart, pamper yourself, don't let the hatred eat you up while they are having fun! Link to post Share on other sites
Newtotheblogthing Posted November 13, 2007 Share Posted November 13, 2007 Thanks deadmanfloat. I really didn't know what was what.. It's just such a shock that after 3 years.. he can't find it within himself to be honest and respectful, although I have been picking up the scraps for a while now so why would he. I do believe he gets something from our drama just as I do but enough is enough. Time to take some suggestion.. militant/ amputation. Started today. I hate to say it but I wish I hated my ex.. at least for a little while. To get over the hump.. Indifference as you said would really be the way to go!!! Link to post Share on other sites
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