Ms_Natalie Posted November 22, 2007 Posted November 22, 2007 I know this is highly tricky and unbearable but you have to move on, try and ignore the feelings in your heart and your head. You are obviously still very fragile and making rash and spontaneous decisions will cause problems for everybody involved. The worst thing an ex lover, partner can see is "you" getting on with your life, looking happy, radiant and acting like you couldnt get less... It will be difficult, i understand, but eventually it will make you feel a whole lot better! Hope this helps, maybe even just a little bit. ~xXx~ Ms Natalie ~xXx~
Author forbidden fruit Posted November 25, 2007 Author Posted November 25, 2007 I know this is highly tricky and unbearable but you have to move on, try and ignore the feelings in your heart and your head. You are obviously still very fragile and making rash and spontaneous decisions will cause problems for everybody involved. The worst thing an ex lover, partner can see is "you" getting on with your life, looking happy, radiant and acting like you couldnt get less... It will be difficult, i understand, but eventually it will make you feel a whole lot better! Hope this helps, maybe even just a little bit. ~xXx~ Ms Natalie ~xXx~ Just to give everyone a update for all those who care. The fog has lifted because I have been away. Out of sight out of mind. It has given me some clarity and what I see now is what is important and that is my H and kids. I am in the phase now of disgust if there is a phase of that. Anyways, I can't believe I actually fell for my xmm. In my mind now he is so gross and when he comes around I am just going to say to him you make me sick and stay away from my family and then I will walk away. I am so ashamed of myself for believing someone who was so obvious to everyone except me a pathological liar and a player. I don't care who has won the only thing that matters now is my family and to start to repair some of the damage I have caused. When I think of some of the things i have done in the "name of love" it makes me sick. She can have him because he was never and never will be good enough for me. thanks to all the tough love advice and all the people who think I am still doing the wrong thing:)
nadiaj2727 Posted November 25, 2007 Posted November 25, 2007 Just to give everyone a update for all those who care. The fog has lifted because I have been away. Out of sight out of mind. It has given me some clarity and what I see now is what is important and that is my H and kids. I am in the phase now of disgust if there is a phase of that. Anyways, I can't believe I actually fell for my xmm. In my mind now he is so gross and when he comes around I am just going to say to him you make me sick and stay away from my family and then I will walk away. I am so ashamed of myself for believing someone who was so obvious to everyone except me a pathological liar and a player. I don't care who has won the only thing that matters now is my family and to start to repair some of the damage I have caused. When I think of some of the things i have done in the "name of love" it makes me sick. She can have him because he was never and never will be good enough for me. thanks to all the tough love advice and all the people who think I am still doing the wrong thing:) Good for you, FF!! You have come a long way, I am very proud of you. I'm glad you're seeing this guy for who he really is, and becoming a better person because of it. You are so right -- this is no guy you want!! I particularly like the line you bolded, about realizing that your family is most important. Congratulations on recognizing this and moving forward FF!!
bestadvisor Posted November 25, 2007 Posted November 25, 2007 When I think of some of the things i have done in the "name of love" it makes me sick. She can have him because he was never and never will be good enough for me. thanks to all the tough love advice and all the people who think I am still doing the wrong thing:) Good enough for you? Please, get over yourself; you're a cheater just like him.
bestadvisor Posted November 25, 2007 Posted November 25, 2007 Does that mean you are going to be completely honest with your husband? NO more secrets? I highly doubt she is going to; remember, she's just like OM, who like to have secrets and not open with their spouses.
whichwayisup Posted November 25, 2007 Posted November 25, 2007 I'm glad to hear that FF. Take things day by day and as they come...Keep busy! That is the key here. Out of sight, out of mind. Focus on what's real in your life - Your family.
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