Woggle Posted November 17, 2007 Posted November 17, 2007 See, you guys have to be careful how you put things. I guess I understand what you meant, but someone could easily interpret this like, "I prefer a half a man I can more easily control". I mean, haven't you already referred to yours as an abused dog? I think most of us married guys would prefer to be thought of as having been matured by marriage, and not "downsized" by it. This is exactly what it is about. I guess MM come pre-whipped and that makes it easier for a woman to keep them in line. Quote
White Flower Posted November 20, 2007 Posted November 20, 2007 Quote: Originally Posted by OWoman SGs are a lot more needy in that regard than MMs, in my experience! SGs still have this sense of entitlement, this demanding expectation that they become the centre of the universe in a R, while MMs have usually had those expectations downsized by M! But what SGs take for granted, MMs appreciate, because they have a point of continuous comparison, in the M, not just the selective memory of failed previous Rs. This morning when the alarm went off I put it on snooze so that MM and I could cuddle a bit more first before we had to get up for work. It cost 9 minutes of my life, and some heavier traffic, but the look of utter disbelief and overwhelming love in his face melted me. A SG would have thought nothing of it. Originally posted by reboot> See, you guys have to be careful how you put things. I guess I understand what you meant, but someone could easily interpret this like, "I prefer a half a man I can more easily control". I mean, haven't you already referred to yours as an abused dog? I think most of us married guys would prefer to be thought of as having been matured by marriage, and not "downsized" by it. Now, I had interpreted her as approving the maturity of a married man. It would have been the single guy who didn't appreciate the moment yet who would have acted as though he were entitled to it, in her experience. Quote
OWoman Posted November 29, 2007 Posted November 29, 2007 See, you guys have to be careful how you put things. I guess I understand what you meant, but someone could easily interpret this like, "I prefer a half a man I can more easily control". I mean, haven't you already referred to yours as an abused dog? Nope, the "abused dog" metaphor was someone else's. And no, controlling my MM is the last thing on my mind - he has a W to do that, anyway. I prefer a partner who's an equal, not a door mat. I think most of us married guys would prefer to be thought of as having been matured by marriage, and not "downsized" by it. reboot I'm not sure if you're deliberately misreading here, to stir up a response... Quote
reboot Posted November 29, 2007 Posted November 29, 2007 reboot I'm not sure if you're deliberately misreading here, to stir up a response... Me!? Stir something up!? Pshaw! Quote
noforgiveness Posted November 29, 2007 Posted November 29, 2007 Nope, the "abused dog" metaphor was someone else's. And no, controlling my MM is the last thing on my mind - he has a W to do that, anyway. I prefer a partner who's an equal, not a door mat. reboot I'm not sure if you're deliberately misreading here, to stir up a response... So if his wife controls him and he is a doormat to his wife but you are equal to him then that means you are on a lower level than his wife along with him. You being equal and all and him just being a doormat. Quote
OWoman Posted November 30, 2007 Posted November 30, 2007 So if his wife controls him and he is a doormat to his wife not any more, tho she tries. He stuck out his counselling and worked through that. She didn't, and hasn't. Which, I guess, is why he's chosen to be with me and not with her. Quote
OWoman Posted November 30, 2007 Posted November 30, 2007 Me!? Stir something up!? Pshaw! thought as much... Quote
JMC Posted December 1, 2007 Posted December 1, 2007 This morning when the alarm went off I put it on snooze so that MM and I could cuddle a bit more first before we had to get up for work. It cost 9 minutes of my life, and some heavier traffic, but the look of utter disbelief and overwhelming love in his face melted me. A SG would have thought nothing of it. I love that....it's beautiful!!! Quote
melbar68 Posted January 6, 2008 Posted January 6, 2008 OW are never a step below the wife on the contrary we are steps above the W Quote
whichwayisup Posted January 6, 2008 Posted January 6, 2008 OW are never a step below the wife on the contrary we are steps above the W ?????? ........ Quote
White Flower Posted January 6, 2008 Posted January 6, 2008 Yeah, as an OW, I'd like to know too. Quote
OWoman Posted January 6, 2008 Posted January 6, 2008 OW are never a step below the wife on the contrary we are steps above the W This is a rather odd way of looking at things. Why does one have to be "above" or "below" the other - is life a ladder? Quote
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