Author LittleFlower Posted November 26, 2007 Author Share Posted November 26, 2007 Update My husband was here at weekend looking for some travel books to give to someone at his work, apparently ! This morning I emailed him at work regarding some familty issues, and his 'out of office' reply was on, he is on holiday till Thursday. I text him to see where he was and he said he was just having a couple of day soff, not doing anything in particular. Thought I'd call his bluff and asked him to come tomorrow night to look after pets as I needed to go away overnight. He said he couldn't, no reason, I don't really need one, but I tried to phone him, he didn't answer and when I asked him why he couldn't he didn't reply. His silence speaks volumes. I cannot get out of my mind that he is away somewhere with his MW. He knows we cannot afford this, and if he has gone he has used a credit card, one I don't have access to. It still means I'm paying emotionally and financially for his affair as he will still need to pay his credit card from our joint bank account. I'm so angry and hurt, an emotional wreck. Just venting. Link to post Share on other sites
american-woman Posted November 26, 2007 Share Posted November 26, 2007 Is there anything you can do about that joint bank account so he can`t get any money to fund his affair? You need to protect yourself that way. Draw money out, change the PIN on it? Littleflower you need to discuss your marriage with your WH instead of living in fear of it. You need to make plans for yourself Link to post Share on other sites
redblack66 Posted November 26, 2007 Share Posted November 26, 2007 First your wife needs to stop all contact with the OM. As long as there is contact with him your marrige has no chance. I am sure about this. I do not know how she would stop. What is my husband doing now? He is doing everything to prove he loves me and only me. He lets me know everywhere he is going. Calls me when he is on his way hoome from work, when he is at a store ect. He is more thoughtful to my needs. We talk more about our feelings instead of yelling at each other. He does more things around the house such as dishes. We spend more time together. We did live like strangers for years in our home me on the couch him in our bedroom. Dont get me wrong this takes alot of work I still have many triggers but I let him know Im having a bad day and he is more understanding. Your wife is there at home for a reason if she REALLY wanted to leave she would. She wants to leave, but wants me to leave the house, so she has the best of all worlds. I am not leaving that easily. Well, I guess I have to work hard and consistently showing that I love her. It is difficult, especially when I feel she compares me in her head with the OM. Link to post Share on other sites
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