clueless2drugs Posted November 14, 2007 Share Posted November 14, 2007 My name speaks for itself. I dont know about drugs, dont care to know, and sure in the h*** dont wanna be involved with someone that does them. I have been with my fiance for 2 years now, and he "claims" he has been clean for that long as well. I found out this year, he hasnt only been drinking but also smoking pot. He lied to me about the both of them. He says he has stopped, again. (he is an addict) This is my concern: he gets paid in check and cash. He will give up his check with no problem, but he will give me the amount of cash he wants me to have. I have gone thru his wallet and seen money, and he will point blank lie and say he doesnt have any. Where he works, I have seen people outside smoking weed and I've had a conversation with another co worker and they told me "they" have brought rocks to other co workers. Tell me, if I am taking you to work, you can eat and drink for free and you have cigarettes all of the time, what else are you doing with your money? Our sex life has gone to s***. I am lucky if we have sex 2 times a month. The both of us are 36 yrs old too. There's days he will come home from work and he will take a shower and go to bed and other days he will stay up but will steady say he is "tired". There's time he will "not" shut up and other times he will not say a word to me. What am I to think when he lies about the money and he has nothing to show for it? Link to post Share on other sites
Author clueless2drugs Posted November 14, 2007 Author Share Posted November 14, 2007 Trust me, I understand what you are saying about me marrying him, but I have gotten myself in a situation, and I really dont know if there's any way out at the moment. We bought a home together 6 months ago, but because of circumstances beyond "our" control, we had to retain an attorney. The home is in both of our names, plus he was added to my land deed by the mortgage company. I can get his name off the land, but I can not make him move out because his name is on the mortgage. The really sad part about all of this is... he said my ex husband was a fool for letting me go, but yet he has chosen to do basically the same thing... lie and be sneaky... Link to post Share on other sites
Uhriventis Posted November 20, 2007 Share Posted November 20, 2007 What the? If you boot someone just because of marijuana then there is something seriously wrong. You can't be addicted to marijuana. It is impossible. I used to be a heavy marijuana smoker myself and one day just gave it up for no reason other then I didn't care for it anymore. Do boot someone because of pot. If it bothers you so much work compromise a little and see if there is someway to let him continue smoking if it doesn't effect you. That I think would be the right thing to do. But, of course the new fad is "If something doesn't work out then I will be hardheaded and not work things out" We know what happens next. :( Link to post Share on other sites
Citizen Erased Posted November 20, 2007 Share Posted November 20, 2007 What the? If you boot someone just because of marijuana then there is something seriously wrong. You can't be addicted to marijuana. It is impossible. I used to be a heavy marijuana smoker myself and one day just gave it up for no reason other then I didn't care for it anymore. Do boot someone because of pot. If it bothers you so much work compromise a little and see if there is someway to let him continue smoking if it doesn't effect you. That I think would be the right thing to do. But, of course the new fad is "If something doesn't work out then I will be hardheaded and not work things out" We know what happens next. :( So just because you could kick the habit doesn't mean everyone else in the entire world can! Plenty of people end up in rehab trying to kick their addiction to pot, I live in the land of the frigging leaf, trust me, it happens. Link to post Share on other sites
Uhriventis Posted November 20, 2007 Share Posted November 20, 2007 Yeah but, how many families loose someone to an "addiction" to marijuana. I think it is safe to say that it is safe. Addiction to marijuana . No, I've been around hundreds of people that smoke pot and not one has stolen from people and wrecked cars trying to get more. Marijuana addiction... Link to post Share on other sites
Citizen Erased Posted November 20, 2007 Share Posted November 20, 2007 Yeah but, how many families loose someone to an "addiction" to marijuana. I think it is safe to say that it is safe. Addiction to marijuana . No, I've been around hundreds of people that smoke pot and not one has stolen from people and wrecked cars trying to get more. Marijuana addiction... It being so cheap and easy to get makes it less likely for you to have to steal anything. I remember when I was in High School some people actually grew it at school. It supplied them with business for a year before the teachers finally found it. Drug bust and everything... got out of Science that day if I recall correctly... Whatever, I guess I'm mainly thinking of the idiots I grew up with who have done nothing with their life, sitting at home getting high every day. I'd prefer to have an actual job and life thanks. Link to post Share on other sites
Uhriventis Posted November 20, 2007 Share Posted November 20, 2007 Well, you shouldn't say marijuana is bad because of a couple of hippies that don't shower. I'm not fond of those people either but, I'm not about to judge the rest of the crew. Oh and Methamphetamine is a fairly cheap drug too. But we all know how they can get. Link to post Share on other sites
Letranger Posted November 20, 2007 Share Posted November 20, 2007 You do not want someone involved in drugs. Time to go. Link to post Share on other sites
littlekitty Posted November 22, 2007 Share Posted November 22, 2007 Whatever, I guess I'm mainly thinking of the idiots I grew up with who have done nothing with their life, sitting at home getting high every day. I'd prefer to have an actual job and life thanks. You can't tar everyone with the same brush! I had a successful career, good social life and friends and bought my own house all while being a daily user. And I quit full stop in January - no looking back. To the OP: Is he admitting smoking and drinking again? Was he alcoholic? Sounds like he's spending his money on pot and booze. You're clearly not happy in this situation, so you have to work out what you want to do, and what is acceptable for you. There's always a way out. Link to post Share on other sites
MrMichael Posted December 3, 2007 Share Posted December 3, 2007 the REAL question is: do you care about him???? if so, and knowing what you know about his use, why dont you suggest treatment? you are facing a sitaution that will only get worse in time if undealt with...I don't think kicking him out is the Initial thing to do..> I would sit him down, tell him he should get help, and if he refuses, THEN go to plan B. you are dealing with addiction here, I know you are mad and upset..sad to say, the lying is a very BIG part of any addiction, and, by NOT taking action soon, you are enabling him to keep on. I wish you both the best Link to post Share on other sites
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