my ex boyfriend wants me back

[daisy]

My ex and I were in a long term relationship. The last couple of years our relationship was just going downhill. He started behaving differently and seemed to just want his freedom. He wanted to hang out with his friends more and he even lied to me a couple of times. At the time, I had just finished university and felt it was time to settle down. We decided to mutually break up because we were getting into a routine of breaking up and getting back together again. I thought that this time it would be for good. It has almost been a year since we broke up. I am in a different relationship now which is going well. My ex boyfriend recently told me that he wants to work things out again, misses me, and wants me back. He says that if I decide not to work things out, he will back off, respect my decision and be out of my life. He says that we can work it out if we both try. I feel I should stay with my current boyfriend but I can't help but wonder if I should give my ex another chance.

 

Does anyone have any advice?

[Kat]

It is entirely up to you. No one here can tell you what you should do, or what is best.

 

You need to figure out on your heart which one you choose. Do you spend your life not knowing if you had just tried again if it had worked, or do you spend your life not knowing if only you had stayed and not given you ex another shot, would you be happier.

 

Sorry sweety, can't help here

[stewh]

Daisy how long have you and the ex been apart?

[daisy]

my ex boyfriend and I were together for six years, we have been apart for almost a year now.

[yes]

do u think it can work out, considering u didnt stay together after 6 years? i dunna - that on and off pattern makes me suspicious.

 

i'm voting for the new bf, although like tohers said, nobody but you can decide

 

good luck!!

-yes

[shatteredheart]

Hi daisy,

 

I don't mean to discourage you, but I strongly believe a relationship ends for a reason. And since that reason happened in the first place that caused the break-off, it may resurface again if you were to get back together with him.

 

If you contact your ex you will likely get sucked back into an on-again-off-again relationship with him. Do you really want to do that? Before you decide with whom you want to be with, you need to evaluate your situation with new eyes.

[daisy]

Hello all,

 

I just wanted to update on the situation and that I am thankful for your comments and suggestions. Since putting my first post I realized that it was worth giving my new relationship a chance. I could say to myself that if I went back maybe it might be better this time around, maybe things would change but is it really worth losing my current relationship for a bunch of maybe's? Just because we have a long history together does not mean that our relationship will be better.

 

I wanted to meet with my ex to tell him this all in person, but it was impossible to. He couldn't meet one day because he had to meet someone else. On another day we were supposed to meet somewhere but he showed up 45 minutes late. I had already left. I realized that his behaviour justified my decision. If you wanted someone back you would be anticipating what the other person would have to say, wouldn't you? He told me later that he had to drop a couple of his friends home before meeting with me that's why he was late. Like before, I wasn't a priority to him.

 

That just opened my eyes and I knew he will never change. I agree with the above post. We would probably go back to our old ways. Maybe he didn't really love me like he said he did, maybe since he isn't dating anyone, he is just lonely. I really can't be sure. All I know is that I am not ready to leave my current boyfriend, things are going too well for us and he does make me happy.