doughnut Posted November 16, 2007 Share Posted November 16, 2007 Hi all I and my wife of 10 yrs total together split in august. Mutually decided there was nothing there due to circumstances we thought we would try and see what we could do apart. Now i see my children 10 days a fortnight in the house we both own. Stay for dinner mon to sun one week then on late shift the week after. We have got to the stage where i want her back and am trying to see if i can be a better husband. (love attention etc) Not that i was a bad huby but with things outside in her family we went through a bad patch and we were not strong enough to cope with the difficulty and stress of the matter. This made everything else clamp together and we lost each other. Now i have come to my senses and want my princess back really badly. Thing is she said she i willing to let me try and make things better but cant promise we will become partners again we will have to see. Now heres the situation. I have a feeling she has someone else but she swears on childrens life (2 kids, Boys) she is not doing anything. I want to believe it but it is eating me up. She has sent me 2 texts on her phone by accident. One was AM I NOT GOOD ENOUGH NOW FOR YOU XXX cant remember the other. Sat next to a friend at work who uses an adult site called adultfriendfinder and told him about me googling her name accidently whilst looking for her xbox360 gamertag. Typed in the wrong name and she popped up all over the first 2 pages of google. The lad who sits next to me said he knew who she was and showed me his friendfinder account and sure enough she had been chatting to him but nothing rude or flirty. No pics either. She also went out monday whilst cooking me and my boys dinner as her mate needed her coat she had borrowed back. She returned 20 min later from the car and i thought this was fine. Wednesday she went out and i looked after my 2 sons and i thought i would get my snooker cue from behind the cupboard..... THE COAT WAS THERE ALL CREASED UP......? She also goes out for beers to town on saturdays and comes in at 5 or 6 in morning... Her excuse is she stayed on a friends sofa..... I got home to see my boys about 4 weeks ago and a car was on our rear drive. A lad was there from my work who i see but dont know. She texts constantly on her phone and gets angry when i try to make light of the texting saying things like oooh mrs popular or wow your lucky to have so many texts. Now all of the above and more but not want to go into them yet all have excuses. For the coat. Her friend needed a chat to make sure she was still her mate and my wife left the coat in the car...... Texts are mates nothing more nothing less. The bloke in my house was just a mate she met that plays football with her brother... The texts was to the same mate with the coat.... Adult friendfinder £30 every three months was as she needed some fun as we been apart for 3 months..... She said she had not chatted dirty on it and all of the blokes were flashing wierdoes. She has since removed her account.... Now the situation is ... I financially help out and pay my rent on my new place. Is she or isnt she????? Dont want to ruin the chance if she isnt. Cant help thinking she is with someone else....... She has said she isnt....... I am going mad and dont want to barge in if she has not been with someone else..... Am i putting 2 and 2 together and making 90.... I know it is possible to put things into a bigger scenario that they really are and she has got an excuse for all of the concerns...... I have 2 boys and cant do N/C as i need to see my kids... Please give me advice thanks all..... do i bite the bit and wait till i have solid proof or take the bullet and leave for ever? Am i being paranoid????? Link to post Share on other sites
cj1988 Posted November 16, 2007 Share Posted November 16, 2007 sorry, but she is either seeing someone or really enjoys being alone and away from you now. I have some friends that are going through the same thing. The wife wanted a break, the H thought it was temporary, she liked it and does not want to come back now. He is very hurt, BUT he should have thought about that before he was having fun away from her for months on end. Sometimes it is just too late for one person and they are happier alone. Sad but true ! Link to post Share on other sites
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