georgejungle Posted November 16, 2007 Share Posted November 16, 2007 My Parents I'm sure want us to go to their house for Turkey day, an hour away, but they haven't called yet. My Wife's parents want us to come up and have already invited us a few times to their house 2 hours away. I'd like to go to wife's parents, since it's so hard to get her clan together in one place for the holidays and everyone's gonna be there. But I Know my Parent's would love to see us, since they just moved back to the state, but they haven't invited us yet. What to do, what to do...I'm leaning towards Wife's parents...but Not sure how to tell my parents. What do you think? Her parents are the type that call all the time. My parents are the type where they expect ME to call them in the sort of "call your mother" tradition. Link to post Share on other sites
curiousnycgirl Posted November 16, 2007 Share Posted November 16, 2007 This one is a no brainer - go to your wife's family. If/when your parents call - tell them that they invited you first (no need to mention that they were your preference). My parents are the same as yours - they expect me to call. I finally told them that I spend all day on the phone, so to expect me to initiate a phone conversation was a foolish assumption - if they want to be in touch, they can call. If not, I'm cool with it - so it they are the only ones who feel badly. Bottom line, they can either stand on ceremony and be miserable, or they can pick up the damn phone and be happy - their choice! Link to post Share on other sites
Author georgejungle Posted November 16, 2007 Author Share Posted November 16, 2007 yeah I mean, they aren't ''Mean'' about it, but it's just kinda the unwritten law in my family and extended that, you 'call your mother'. i've been a great son, but my parents have been back in the state a year now and they still haven't driven up to see me and my wife, it's always us driving up there to see them. My parents hardly ever call either. They do have my two younger sisters to raise still but they can't be that busy. it may ruffle my Mom's feathers a tad and they may both make a few little jokes to make me feel bad about it, but i'm going with my wife's parent's invite since they invited us first. thanks for the advice Link to post Share on other sites
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