chirstin_123 Posted May 23, 2003 Share Posted May 23, 2003 I like a man. But I think I am not his type. I am feeling so depressed and I am not sure whether a person's original desire is very important or not and it will be changed ot not?Because I lost confident when I find out I am completely not his type from what he loves I know about this from my way. I want to be his friend, but I find am demanding too much from him. And I am very afraid of this feeling. And I will feel sad when he appeared not the way I expected. I ask can we force a love? If he doesn't like me at all. how can I feel love? Although he always say I am a good person. I actually feel sad when I hear he said this. Because I think he was saying this instead of saying I don't like you or I don't love you. He is so kind a person. And also, I am too serious about everything. I don't know why this bad feeling will come to me again. Link to post Share on other sites
flower Posted May 23, 2003 Share Posted May 23, 2003 No point wasting time on him since you know the reason why he is not interested in you. Time is precious. Go and know other people, involve in some activities you love, take a course, read books. Drooling over his words is "no, no" as it makes you unhappy as you ponder relentlessly over the meaning... Spend time with your closed ones, make time to give them treats...Appreciate what you have and not pine after what you have not. This will lead to positive thinking! Link to post Share on other sites
christin_123 Posted May 23, 2003 Share Posted May 23, 2003 Thanks. My friend. Sometimes maybe we just need some positive thoughts from others and I feel the love' from you. Yes, It is so hard when a person can't accept us.(But this is not his fault, do you agree? Because everybody have preference. When I have forgone my preference, I can't ask others to do the same for me.) And because outlooking is not determined by ourself. We can't choose what we look like. It is better to find someone accept us for what we are. So, I hope I never intentionally look for a love because it turns out not right, it hurts and it rids of our confidence and happiness. No matter how well I am in my heart, the wrong person just won't like me because he rids off my confidence. The failures and unlucky life rid us of confidence and the feeling of love. God bless us all have love. And actually I am very vulnerable that I never know what is a family like and I always hope for a successful and maybe good life for myself and I am afraid that I will never find someone who may love me for what I am(I really feel scared). Maybe it is because of my boredom and lack of the feeling of being loved. I feel very cool' when I find that no matter how hard I try to be good to others, I fail to have their love in reuturn. I don't know why I will be like this, and somtimes I lost myself from others because I am always afraid of not being loved by others. Is it a logic that when you try too hard, it just won't come and when you have no intention, then it comes. I hope you have a happy life, it is the most important thing for being living And maybe I should finally find out that love should always give to others and also we learn to love ourselves. Is it right that the love from others is limited if we don't know how to love ourselves? I become afraid of everyone around me now because I find I was a little bit too optimistic about gaining love from others. And I wonder is it a theory that when you fell down and tried hard to stand up, at this time nobody would come to help you and when you managed to stand up by yourself, at this moment others will only come around and give you praise. If this is the real word and I don't mean that people are bad, it is just because they don't get enough love either, they have to focus on the point that they appreciate or try to reach what they dream of. If so, I shoul never say that this world lack of love, because you send me a message using your time and thoughts even you may still have your own problems. Yes, everybody need to feel love and need to feel the care from others. So maybe I should first be the instructment of love and care and this will satisfy God's will. And we will finally have the same from the world and from God's gift. Thank you again. Sincerely, I love you Link to post Share on other sites
flower Posted May 23, 2003 Share Posted May 23, 2003 Don't mention. You're welcome, Christin. Here's something to lift our spirits: Appreciation A lot of the unhappiness in our lives stems from discontentment ? what we want, we don't have; what we have, we find mundane. This perception that there is something lacking - something, that once obtained or achieved, will bring us supreme happiness. But it's not what we don't have which makes us unhappy. It's the pining for something more which puts a damper on our spirit. Consider how much we have. Even if you're living the most spartan of lifestyles, you still have more than most of earth's inhabitants. And it's not just the things we own. What about technologies which give us 24-hour access to a dizzying variety of media and entertainment? And it's so much more than just these things. What about freedom and choice? Now, more than ever before, we are masters of our own lives. We get to choose exactly how we want to lead them. We have the opportunity to upgrade ourselves, the opportunity to make a career of something we love doing, the opportunity to make our lives better, to make others' lives better. The opportunity to get little treats for our loved ones, to see their smiles of amusement when they get them. Yes, opportunities are out there all right? we just have to learn to identify them and seize them. Most of us are so dazed by the monotony and inertia of our lives that we allow these chances to slip past, daily. The list of what we have could go on, but you know what I mean. Being thankful for all these things is the key to more positive thinking and happier living. Every day, we have two choices: We could focus on what we don't have. We could find little things, however trivial, to feed our negative thoughts. As we appreciate less and less, what we do have begins to depreciate in value. Before long, there will be no value in having anything at all. Or we can learn to truly appreciate what we do have ? really take notice of it, and cherish how good it is. If we can do this, we can be happy. Link to post Share on other sites
christin_123 Posted May 23, 2003 Share Posted May 23, 2003 Thanks again, flower. I find I learn a lot more than I expected from you. Yea, I never knew to be thankful to what I have and I always look at what I don't have. This is the reason I always feel not being content with myself. I should really learn from you for being content with what you have and say thanks to what I have. I love' you in that you are a very good person that you can see a beautiful side from what is bad. Yea, these positive thoughts give us energy to enjoy life and carry on to our lives. If not, we will finally disappear into the hardship we may face. Yes always say thanksto it, then we will win ourselves and probably the life styles we are dreaming of. Thanks Sincerely, I love you Link to post Share on other sites
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