MEL914 Posted November 17, 2007 Share Posted November 17, 2007 hello all my name is mel 23 from ny i started talking to this girl i met on myspace like 4 months ago she lives in FL 18 in the 12th grade. I never been in love but damn this girl has me thinking about her all day and she says the same about me iv never had a girl show me so much love we talk everynight for hours we talk about moving in together and stuff but 1 day i started looking at her myspae comments and found her flirting with some dude she went to skool with when she lived in PA & i told her she got mad cuz of what i did to get this info we were both hurt by this she cryed but we talked it out and things seem to be ok but i still feel upset and she feels sad cuz she hurt me. it stressed me out really bad didnt sleep eat or go to work but im starting to feel better now this is my FIRST relationship and her 2nd but it is our first LDR! i plan on driving down to see her but the thought of packing up and meeting up with someone you never seen face to face before kinda scares me this will be the biggest step iv ever taken in my life! i just want to know what you guys think about this cuz no one in my life besides her knows about this and its hard to keep this to my self friends wont understand why would i deal with a girl who's so far away so i dont waste my time explaining to them but i just feel somhow alone about this iv never felt so attached to anyone in my life! Link to post Share on other sites
dancinggal Posted November 19, 2007 Share Posted November 19, 2007 Wow, thats intense. I guess the only way to know for sure is to go meet her. Personally, I would be terrified, but I guess you've talked to her for a while, you obviously both are interested, so good luck to you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author MEL914 Posted November 19, 2007 Author Share Posted November 19, 2007 thanx man yea we talk on the phone like all day long we tell each other that we are in love with each other she never wants to hang up the phone at night she rather just fall asleep on the phone with me lol man i love this girl but this whole thing is so stressful Link to post Share on other sites
heatherd1201 Posted November 19, 2007 Share Posted November 19, 2007 How far from her do you live? I advise you to be careful- you may love her personality on the phone but not love who she is in person. If you are going to meet her, just keep an open mind. Also remember that at 18 the things that are important to her today might not be important to her next month or next year. Girls that age change with the season so just be gaurded. I do think that you should meet her though. You need to see and spend time with the person who has you so wrapped! Just be careful.... Link to post Share on other sites
Author MEL914 Posted November 22, 2007 Author Share Posted November 22, 2007 yea thats true but ill just go ahead and meet her and see what happens Link to post Share on other sites
b0iiana Posted November 22, 2007 Share Posted November 22, 2007 This happened to me too, except I didn't actually meet the guy I love because i'm so young I know all of you are probably thinking "What the hell is she saying? She don't know what love is" But i've been through as much as a 20 year old has, I believe that. i've had so many boyfriends and all, but this guy I truly loved.. (17) He felt the same way. We lived on the same country but different island Anyway, you should go meet her unless your way too old for her and thinking of raping her which is very unlikely ? Link to post Share on other sites
Author MEL914 Posted November 25, 2007 Author Share Posted November 25, 2007 Anyway, you should go meet her unless your way too old for her and thinking of raping her which is very unlikely ? umm thats kinda weird and crazy but yea im 23 she's 18 we are both adults shes not a virgin i am! but yea we plan on meeting i already met her friend btw Link to post Share on other sites
beyondthegraysky Posted November 26, 2007 Share Posted November 26, 2007 I kind of have a similiar problem and was just lookin for some help! mind if i ask? Link to post Share on other sites
Author MEL914 Posted November 27, 2007 Author Share Posted November 27, 2007 I kind of have a similiar problem and was just lookin for some help! mind if i ask? um yea go ahead ask me anything! Link to post Share on other sites
b0iiana Posted November 27, 2007 Share Posted November 27, 2007 lol okay thats sweet... maybe to make it less awkward bring that friend along? umm thats kinda weird and crazy but yea im 23 she's 18 we are both adults shes not a virgin i am! but yea we plan on meeting i already met her friend btw Link to post Share on other sites
beyondthegraysky Posted November 27, 2007 Share Posted November 27, 2007 um yea go ahead ask me anything! its just a really similiar problem of yours. never met this person before but we have talked online for 4 or 5 years now just as best friends but as time goes on i feel that there is someting more going on...just the way that we have been talkng to each other just gives me signs, it is just like something i cant even describe, thinking about going for a visit but i dont know what to do? also its kinda they are straight and i am bi and they know this of course and they have actually admitted to saying they have feelings but i still have some kind of doubt in it. shes the only person i trust with everything and i really do think she means what she says but i just cant tell cuz shes not too too open about it. but they really do act as if they want something more ..its almost like i can feel her tryna get me to go to that next step possibllyy..if any of this makes sense. i wanna get sum kinda feed back Link to post Share on other sites
RavinHarpy Posted November 27, 2007 Share Posted November 27, 2007 You're going to have to just ask. Because if you mull it over for too long, you're just going to come off as...weird. Don't be weird when you ask her either. Just be like "Hey, you know I'm bi and these are the kinds of signals I'm getting, or am I misunderstanding?" It'll probably go pretty smoothly, initiating the conversation is likely to be the only tense part. If she doesn't like you in that way, well then you know. and you know she's just a friend. If she does, good on you. Link to post Share on other sites
beyondthegraysky Posted November 28, 2007 Share Posted November 28, 2007 thanks , ill deff take that into consideration!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author MEL914 Posted December 1, 2007 Author Share Posted December 1, 2007 lol okay thats sweet... maybe to make it less awkward bring that friend along? her friend was here just to see her mom i gave her a gift to give to my girl when she went back down to her and she did give it to her already and so far everything is going great for me ill keep ya posted Link to post Share on other sites
Author MEL914 Posted December 5, 2007 Author Share Posted December 5, 2007 ok so things are still going great but now that she's told me her past with other guys is kinda hard to deal with it like it bothers me to know about what she's done and i just wanna know how do i just forget about it i am glad she told me but now its bothering me a lil! and i wake up everyday now thinking about her and what if this doesnt work out for us or what if this or that it scares me to death when i think about us not being together! Link to post Share on other sites
LiveKhaos Posted December 5, 2007 Share Posted December 5, 2007 ok so things are still going great but now that she's told me her past with other guys is kinda hard to deal with it like it bothers me to know about what she's done and i just wanna know how do i just forget about it i am glad she told me but now its bothering me a lil! and i wake up everyday now thinking about her and what if this doesnt work out for us or what if this or that it scares me to death when i think about us not being together! MEL my dude, I feel as though I'm in the same situation as you, except the fact that her past doesn't bother me but its more like if she knew EVERYTHING that I've done in the past she would probably be in your position. But still, I've sort of been there as well with other girls in the past. Right now I'm also scared that it might not work only because of the distance between me and her for the next 7 months, but she's the only girl I've ever felt like this towards... Anyways not to hijack your thread but hopefully someone can answer both of our similar questions!! Oh.. and I truly feel you on the maybe someday not being together... Link to post Share on other sites
beyondthegraysky Posted December 6, 2007 Share Posted December 6, 2007 hey does anyone think they can scroll back and read my post? I'm still trying to figure it out. thanks Link to post Share on other sites
Author MEL914 Posted December 7, 2007 Author Share Posted December 7, 2007 MEL my dude, I feel as though I'm in the same situation as you, except the fact that her past doesn't bother me but its more like if she knew EVERYTHING that I've done in the past she would probably be in your position. But still, I've sort of been there as well with other girls in the past. Right now I'm also scared that it might not work only because of the distance between me and her for the next 7 months, but she's the only girl I've ever felt like this towards... Anyways not to hijack your thread but hopefully someone can answer both of our similar questions!! Oh.. and I truly feel you on the maybe someday not being together... well i havent done much this is like my first relationship so i guess thats why maybe it bothers me that she's done more then me and at such an early age i know its stupid but i stress things to much but im getting over it now Link to post Share on other sites
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